Making friends is very learned and particular. I want to ask how many people came into our lives and how many people stayed away from our lives when we were growing up.
Come and go like waves and sand, and there must be only a few people with you in the end. Confucius said, "Tao is different, but not the same."
Explain that people must be like-minded first, otherwise they will be wrong, and the level and way of thinking are not on the same channel. What's more, because of the completely different values, when dealing with people, things and things, there are often fierce contradictions and conflicts.
Even if one party is patient and accommodating, it will take a long time to part ways sooner or later. Aristotle also said, "Birds with the same feathers will gather together."
Birds of a feather flock together. Phoenix can't associate with sparrows, and beautiful jade can't be mixed with inferior stones. Whether a person can become a lifelong friend depends on the soul.
Just like a strange couple in strange bedfellows, friends who are separated from each other are a burden of life. Confucius said, "Zuo Qiuming is ashamed of hiding grievances and making friends with others, and Qiu is ashamed of it." Confucius was ashamed that he hated someone who was still with him every day and made friends with him.
At least we will feel a kind of mental fatigue. Xia Zi said, "You flatter me on the shoulder. I got sick in the Summer Cup." The most painful and tiring thing in this world is not physical labor, but exhaustion. We are tired because we don't follow this true heart and go against it.
To make friends, you should not only be the same person, but also get along equally. In this respect, Mencius, a Confucian sage, had a very important exposition. Mencius said, "Don't cling to your wealth, don't cling to your brother, and don't make friends. If you are friends, you will be virtuous. You can't hold on to them. "
Mencius means that making friends should take moral behavior as the first reference standard, without attaching any other external conditions, such as age, wealth and nepotism.