For parents, educate their children to establish healthy and good interpersonal relationships with their partners, see the advantages of others and have their own circle of friends. In the process of communicating with partners, it is also very important to be neither humble nor humble.
Many parents also realize the importance of their children's communicative competence, and gradually cultivate their children's communicative competence in the process of their growth, but we have to say that some parents still have one-sided understanding of their children's friends.
Some parents always want their children's friends to do well in school. When they find that their children's friends' grades are not satisfactory, they will have anxiety and worry that their children will be "near the ink." There are also some parents who, in order to let their children make so-called "good" friends, choose the children they think are good for their children regardless of their wishes.
For children, making friends not only exercises their communication skills, but also makes them gain friendship. However, if parents interfere too much and even judge friends by their academic performance, it will make friends utilitarian and not harmful to their growth.
In order to make children more popular with their partners, parents need to guide their children to realize the importance of making friends and solve their troubles in making friends. The specific method is as follows:
1. Parents set an example and demonstrate communication skills.
As children grow up, from playing alone, they begin to like to play with their partners and will make more new friends. When we see children playing with their partners, we will feel an indescribable satisfaction.
As a child's first teacher, parents' words and deeds play a subtle role in children's growth, especially children will imitate their parents' words and deeds. Therefore, when educating children's communication skills, parents may wish to set an example and demonstrate their communication skills.
For example, you should be good at communicating with people, be filial to the elderly, and treat your relatives and friends sincerely. In daily interpersonal communication, parents should pay attention to their own language expression, especially the tone and words used to express appreciation and concession. When children grow up in this environment, it is bound to be well nurtured to see how parents value friendship and express their concern in interpersonal communication.
When parents want to help their friends, if possible, take their children with them and explain why they need his help. If you want your children to learn to care about others, then parents need to set a good example for their children!
2. Encourage children to make friends with more partners
Every child is an independent individual, and their personalities are different. Some children are introverted, some are overbearing and willful, and some are positive and optimistic. Parents should encourage their children to make more friends no matter what their personality is.
"Find a friend, find a good friend, salute, shake hands. You are my good friend. " I believe everyone is familiar with this nursery rhyme "Looking for Friends". This children's song is usually played with games. From the lyrics of children's songs, we can clearly know that the interactive skill of making friends is "saluting and shaking hands".
Parents must be polite to others when teaching their children the skills of making friends, especially when they meet different people. However, in real life, most parents will inevitably draw a circle for their children and let them make friends in a small circle, which is like building a small greenhouse for their children, resulting in children not knowing how to choose friends and how to get along with friends.
In fact, if children make friends with partners with different levels of development and different growth experiences, they will be more tolerant, understand and understand other partners in the process of communication, and also cultivate their organizational and leadership skills, so that their cognitive and judgment abilities can be further improved.
In the process of making friends, children will gradually form their own tendency to make friends, and usually choose their own partners to be good friends. Therefore, for children to make friends, parents should encourage them more, interfere less and not guide them.
3. Let children have their own circle of friends.
From a psychological point of view, making friends with children is actually a reflection of their mental health. For growing children, parents should allow them to make friends. When children grow up, they all want to have their own small circle, especially a few intimate friends to share their joys and sorrows.
Imagine that if a child has no friends and can't make friends, how helpless he will be when he encounters problems in the future, and he will inevitably develop a withdrawn character. However, we can often see that many parents always stop their children from making friends on the grounds of wasting time and delaying their studies, thinking that it is enough for their children to study hard and get good grades.
I don't know that this way, for a child who is in the rebellious period of youth, not only can't play a good educational role, but it will even have the opposite effect and form a confrontation with his parents. If the child is not allowed to make friends, he must; The more he refuses to make friends, the more he wants to make friends. In short, he is against his parents.
In fact, when children make friends, there will always be good or bad conduct. If children make friends with people with good conduct, they can learn from each other and learn from each other. Friends are sometimes more useful to children than teachers and parents.
If a child makes a friend with bad conduct, it will inevitably be affected after a long time. At this time, parents should let their children discover the bad behaviors and problems existing in their friends in time, and express their willingness to help his friends get rid of bad behaviors with their children, so that children can know that everything they do is really good for him and his friends.
When parents and children help friends together, it is a good thing if friends get rid of bad behavior; However, if his friend doesn't correct it, parents should let their children know its harmfulness clearly and let them take a warning and stay away from such friends.
At the same time, parents should also encourage their children to associate with active and well-behaved peers, so that their children will be subtly influenced in the process of communication and let them clearly realize how lucky and happy they are to have good friends on the road of life.
As we all know, no child is born as a "social worker", which requires us as parents to subtly impart communication skills to children. With the encouragement and support of parents, guide children to improve their social skills.
When children bravely take the first step in society, they will have the courage and confidence to face more complicated social relations in the future! Parents should also try their best to let their children learn to make friends freely, respect their willingness to make friends, and let their children gain friendship while developing other abilities.
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