In college, your life circle will be large, because you can meet people you have never met before, and your circle will be small, because you find that there are not many truly trustworthy bosom friends. Socialization in college is very important, but it is not the whole of your life. Now is a human society, sometimes things will be much easier if you have something to do with some people, but it doesn't mean you have to be shy and take the initiative to cling to others. You can't maintain relationships in this way. For many famous big coffees, when you can't trade value with others, whatever you do is futile.

The first thing you can do is to improve yourself. There are huge course resources on the Internet, so you can make full use of them. With so many activities online and offline, you can also choose the ones you are interested in. Money can't buy an inch of time. Don't spend all your precious time socializing unnecessarily. Find like-minded friends. The ability to socialize is not measured by the number of friends, but by the quality of friends. Don't spend time on useless socializing, and don't cultivate yourself to get along with others. Some groups are inherently bad, so it's easy to learn bad when they get into it. Of course, don't make bad friends with others unless you have to. In short, when you find your own circle, you will find that friendship does not need to be maintained.

1. Regret is only for yourself

Eating, drinking, singing and entertaining with a group of seniors and sisters in the club, and having fun with roommates in the Internet cafe all night. You think that there is nothing your friends can't do in many schools, but when you graduate, it's useless.

When you go out to find a job, you run into a wall everywhere. When you find that your former social partners are no longer in contact, you go about your life.

do you think this kind of socialization is important?

If you think it can bring you happy memories of college, which is more important than your anxiety about wasting your time, then it is important.

on the contrary, if you regret it and feel that you have wasted precious time, then it is not important.

what matters is not yourself, not others.

2. The fault is not socializing.

You refused your roommate's overnight invitation repeatedly in college.

You didn't behave well in the student union and felt that you couldn't learn anything to quit.

But you used your non-social time to indulge in reading online novels and cartoons, and brushed Weibo's jokes to live in a college.

after graduation, you really regret that I didn't go out to socialize. Now I don't have any friends, and it's hard to find a job and no one helps me.

3. Will the unsociable schoolmaster have a bright future?

You use your unsociable time to struggle hard in the library to get scholarships every year;

it's awesome that you use your non-social time to develop your hobbies, which is enough to support yourself.

so, do you think socializing is important? Is it really indispensable?

you may feel that it's a good thing that I ignored those fools at the beginning, otherwise it would have delayed the future.

4. The university should go out and meet more and more interesting people.

When you come into contact with people other than the class, you will find yourself behind others and see that there are so many possibilities in the world, and there is more than one way. You can see the gap between yourself and others from different excellent people. You can see the gains and losses by taking people as a mirror, see the possibilities in others, reflect on what you really want and what you need to do, get close to excellent people and make yourself excellent!

No matter how important it is to socialize, it is not as important as your ability to develop yourself in college. When you have some strength, you don't need to ask this question, because you already have the answer. Socializing, yes, but socializing is to get to know three or two friends sincerely, cherish the friendship in college, and exercise one's ability and exert one's value by socializing. It really doesn't matter if it is a "face socializing" that is not beneficial to you, in order to worry about being excluded, to know more people and to socialize everywhere in order to show that you are awesome and have many friends.

The theory of social uselessness in college is definitely a false proposition. If you make intimate friends in college, it will become a lifelong treasure. Some people may become the leaders on your entrepreneurial road, others will become your entrepreneurial partners, and the friendship in college is still worthy of recognition. Even if you live far apart after graduation, if you travel to his city, he will be happy to receive you!