Friends are also divided into several levels

The first level

Friends are those who spend time with us, make us feel warm, and make us Someone who gives willingly. The dedication mentioned here means that we are willing to spend time and energy to actively contact them and actively maintain friendship with them.

Due to changes in everyone’s life trajectory, the definition of friends has also begun to diverge. Old friends have become a special category. A person only lasts a lifetime, and his childhood lasts only a few years. It is impossible to do it over again, so there are categories such as childhood friends, elementary school classmates, junior high school classmates, high school classmates, college classmates, etc. . Some friends say that after entering society, it is difficult to make the same friends as they did when they were young and in school.

The second level

Friends are those people who are willing to associate with me and whom I also admire

As we grow up, we gradually have to deal with this With the integration of mobile society, the categories of friends have further expanded. Some people are more stable and like to make friends based on birds of a feather. Some people are more flexible and like to make friends who they think can promote them in the future. Some people are more conservative. , don’t make many friends.

The third level

Friends are those people with whom I am willing to spend time and energy to accomplish at least one thing.

This may be the highest level of making friends, because in the values ????of many people, a relationship of interests with friends will, to a large extent, destroy the friendship. A small boat. But in the same way, friendship that has gone through all the storms is our ultimate pursuit.

The definition of friends and friendship is actually a very simple and clear process:

Attachment

Independence

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The most valuable part of friendship comes from individual growth or mutual growth.

The three realms mentioned above are just like playing games. No matter which level you are at, you need to understand the skills and participate in the tasks. So how should you manage friends at these three levels?

One: Spend time with old friends

Old friends are rare. Along the way, most of the people you know will be scattered in places you don't know. Only a few can keep in touch for various magical reasons. In this case, they shouldn't be thrown away.

Spending time is wasting life. Time is like this, no matter what you do, it will be lost, and you will not be given the opportunity to start over again just because you waste it. Therefore, each of us must value our own time.

Two: Identify those people who are worth spending time to become friends with As you said, you need to know people well when traveling around. There are two kinds of people you can't make friends with. The first kind is too dark-hearted, and the second kind is not good for your wife.

When making friends in society, there are three dimensions for reference:

Having a skill

Being able to pursue progress

Sincere and enthusiastic

Li Xiaolai, the so-called big guys are those who have the ability to build their own world. They build their own world by building their own operating system and then cooperating with actions.

It is also said that those who apologize with words are not worth dating, but those who apologize with actions should be cherished when you meet them.

Three: Create a win-win situation for everyone

The so-called emotional intelligence. It refers to how capable a person is to create a winning situation.

Creating a win-win situation for everyone means growing together. Let’s see how to do it.

Grow ***with yourself

Grow ***with your family

Grow ***with your friends

So-called The concept of happiness is your strong connection with the world in which you live.

What does your world mainly consist of? That is your family and friends. Others are really not that important to you. Think about whether there are people around you who spend their lives wantonly regardless of their family and friends. Are they stupid? Others are really not that important to you, especially to you. This is especially true for your happiness.