first, be good at encouraging. Everyone likes to hear people say yes. No matter whether they are children or adults, anyone who wants to say no will always feel uncomfortable. Few people can reach the realm of happiness if they ask. Don't always compare your child's shortcomings with other children's strengths. Just say that you think someone is more obedient than you, and how good your academic performance is. Why can't you win some anger for your parents like someone? Such a comparison will only hurt children's self-esteem and dampen their self-motivation. Therefore, more encouragement in the process of children's growth can cultivate and enhance their self-confidence!
second, you can't indulge in pampering. Nowadays, children are the apple of their parents' eye. They can't fight or scold. They should eat high-end, wear famous brands, buy toys as they want, and if they don't buy them, they can't stop playing. This situation is obvious in many families, which makes children develop many bad habits. In the end, children will blame their parents for "Why don't you understand our generation?" For children's mistakes, we can't tolerate them. We should point out what is right and what is wrong in a timely manner. If it is right, we will continue to encourage it, and if it is wrong, we will help children correct it together! At the same time, it is necessary to train children to do what they can, and parents should not do everything they can.
Third, pay attention to words and deeds. Parents are the children's first teachers and will always be the children's most direct teachers. Parents' words and deeds will play a great role in demonstrating their children's lives. Parents should do what they ask their children not to do. Just like many parents now forbid their children to indulge in the internet, they stay up all night and enjoy online games; Parents want their children not to smoke and drink, but they are full of smoke and alcohol all day. How can they make their children do it? As the saying goes, do to others what you don't want them to do to you!
the fourth is to cultivate children's behavioral ability. First, we should carefully observe life and the surrounding environment with our eyes; Second, listen carefully to how others express their views with their ears; Third, carefully record what you see and hear by hand (write a diary); Fourth, we should think carefully about what we see, hear and write down with our brains, and form our own ideas and opinions; Fifth, express your thoughts and opinions accurately with your mouth. To do this, we need a process, and we can't rush for success, but as long as we persist in doing it, children's observation ability, writing ability, thinking ability and language expression ability will be gradually exercised and improved.
Fifth, be good at making friends with children. Parents should not always be on top of each other. They always think that if I give birth to you and support you, you should listen to me and do things according to my will. Children also have children's self-esteem, children also have children's privacy, and children also have children's opinions. They should be good at communicating with children as friends. Children who say they don't understand, and they should explain the truth so that children can understand and accept it slowly. Don't make mistakes for their own face, so that children lose respect and trust in their parents.
Of course, different children live in different family and social environments, and they have their own personality characteristics. When educating children, we should try our best to find out their interests and potential points in combination with their own children's reality, instead of obliterating their personality, and cultivate education in a targeted manner.