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Some people say: "Having high emotional intelligence means being able to speak."

The human heart is the ruler, and life is the measure. Grasping the scale means controlling consciousness, emotions, and handling interpersonal relationships well. Only then can people mix in society with ease and freedom.

"Have a degree" is a kind of high emotional intelligence. Once you understand how to interact with others, distance is the beauty.

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There is a "measure" in what you say.

When people interact with others, they must speak up and cannot remain silent all the time. But how you speak is a science and it also reflects your emotional intelligence.

"Pretending to be confused while pretending to understand, seeing clearly but not speaking clearly." People who are good at talking know how to control their mouths and will never speak freely at any time.

The same sentence can offend people or please them.

For example, when you say "I wish you good health" with a dismissive expression, others will definitely be unhappy, and the good words will turn into bad words.

People with high emotional intelligence not only think about what to say, but also control their expressions and pay attention to the situation in which they speak.

Watch your mouth, don’t hurt others, don’t cause trouble.

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Be "generous" in life.

Be merciful and merciful, and rabbits will bite when they are anxious. This ancient saying tells us that we must learn to let others go and not push others to the point of desperation.

As a human being, learning to tolerate others is also a manifestation of emotional intelligence and confidence. Tolerating the weak is a kind of kindness and helping others; tolerating the strong is humility and respecting others; tolerating people of the same kind is to reduce the pressure of competition and to respect opponents; tolerating family members is a sign that everything in the family will be prosperous.

When people get along with each other, it is inevitable that there will be friction and even falling out.

If your emotional intelligence is not high, once your temper rises, you will not be able to find the steps to go down; people with high emotional intelligence know how to "get off the slope" and work hard to create "steps" to let them down. Others can come down.

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There is "speed" in dating.

If you continue to cut off, you will suffer from chaos.

If you want to get any kind of relationship, you can't be sloppy.

For example, if you like someone, confess your love immediately without hesitation. When you hesitate, that person falls in love with someone else and becomes someone else's lover. By the time you muster up the courage to confess, it's already too late.

Why there are so many "late confessions" is actually because the parties involved do not have high enough emotional intelligence, do not know how to seize opportunities, and do not control the speed of emotional changes.

A relationship that has changed its taste is like rancid rice. The more reluctant you are to throw it away, the more stinky it becomes.

If you get entangled with others, it is obviously a sign of low emotional intelligence and will harm others and yourself.

People with high emotional intelligence can afford and let go of feelings. They cherish feelings but are not burdened by them.

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The pattern has "height".

When interacting with others, maybe you are not smart enough and don’t know how to speak, but you must have a big picture. If the smallest thing makes you grudge and hold grudges against others, your life will be in a dead end; if you get angry at will, you will talk nonsense and use your anger to hurt others.

People with high emotional intelligence use a big heart to tolerate others and use the wisdom of others to expand their own structure; look at problems from a high place and learn to see the distance. How big the heart is, how wide the road is .

Zeng Guofan said: "Those who plan for great things must first focus on the pattern."

During the Western Han Dynasty, Er Kuan's family was poor. After working, he also found time to study and regarded learning as a major event. But he is not good at words and lacks bravery.

Erkuan works as an errand at Zhang Tang’s house. After get off work, everyone drank and played cards, except Erkuan who was studying hard. Some people laughed at him: "What's the use of copying and writing every day? Even if you work hard all your life, you are still a copyist and writer."

Once, Erkuan helped write a memorial. The memorial was delivered to the emperor and was appreciated by the emperor. From then on, Erkuan's life took a turn for the better.

A person with high emotional intelligence is "suitable for both movement and silence". There are many ways to express inner feelings and thoughts, not only through words, but also through body language and demeanor.

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There is "depth" in making friends.

On the road of life, meeting a soulmate is a great joy.

A confidant is the sublimation of a friend, someone who understands you, helps you, and points out your shortcomings.

Most friends are people who take advantage of each other and cannot get rid of the nature of "seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages". People who can become confidants have put aside the struggle for interests and can share the joys and sorrows and advance and retreat together.

"A thousand cups of wine is too little when you meet a close friend, and half a sentence is too much to talk without speculation." The person who can make you open up the conversation must be someone you trust and someone who is very close to you.

Therefore, people with high emotional intelligence will classify the people around them. Communicating according to different categories does not mean showing your heart to everyone.

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Conclusion.

Only by communicating deeply with reliable people and talking about everything can you truly achieve the effect of confiding, and you don’t have to worry about spreading rumors.

Only by discussing cooperation with capable people can you get help and your career can prosper.

Talk about trivial matters with people with whom you have a normal relationship. Whatever you say is harmless and you can just laugh it off.

When chatting with people who have a higher status than yourself, talk less and listen more to show your humility.

At any time, you need to remember that chatting is a way of communication, but chatting is not just about using your mouth, but also requires your heart, and you can also use achievements and actions to replace words.

Being measured is a kind of high emotional intelligence and a kind of wisdom.

The relationship between people is like a glass of wine. Only the right amount can make people intoxicated. If the wine is not intoxicating, everyone will get drunk.

Author: Buyi coarse food.

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