(1) Careless speech

Perhaps you and your friends talk about everything and are very speculative. Maybe your talents, appearance, family, future, etc. are enviable and are a head above your friends. This makes you show your talents and express yourself regardless of the occasion, especially when you are with friends, and your speech will reveal a certain personality. This will make your friend feel that you are speaking condescendingly to him, and that you are deliberately showing off and promoting yourself. His self-esteem will be bruised, and he will inevitably have the idea of ????staying away from you. Therefore, when interacting with friends, you must control your emotions, maintain a rational balance, be humble and open-minded, put yourself on an equal footing with others, and always think of the other person's existence.

(2) Indistinguishable from each other

The most careless thing among friends is the careless handling of friends’ belongings. They often think that “friends should not distinguish between each other.” Taking things without permission, not caring for them, sometimes being late or not returning them, being out of favor once or twice, being embarrassed to criticize, over time will make your friends think you are too presumptuous and create a defensive mentality.

In fact, in addition to friendship, there is also a subtle contractual relationship between friends. In terms of physical things, you and your friends can borrow things at any time, which is beyond the relationship between ordinary people. However, you and your friends should first have an idea about each other's things: these are friends' things, and they should be cherished even more. Pay attention to the rules of courtesy and reciprocity, and regard cherishing friends' things as important as cherishing friendship.

(3) Too casual

Between friends, conversation and actions should be straightforward, generous, cordial, and unpretentious, so that they can show their natural qualities. But if you are too casual, do not pay attention to self-control, and do not stick to details, you will make people feel that you are rude and vulgar. Maybe you will be rationally restrained when getting along with ordinary people, but when you get together with friends, you forget about it, or point fingers, or talk nonsense, or interrupt your friends when they are talking, ridicule, or look at things absent-mindedly.

Maybe this is your natural expression, but your friends will think that you are undignified, without grace and self-cultivation, and they will naturally feel a sense of disgust and contempt for you, changing their original impression of you. Therefore, in front of friends, you should be natural but not lose your self-respect, be enthusiastic but not lose your composure, and be measured and controlled.

(4) Go back on your word at will

You may not value certain agreements between friends so much. You are always late to your friends’ activities and readily agree to your friends’ requests. , and then changed his mind midway.

Maybe you really had something to do that delayed a scheduled gathering or failed to complete a task that a friend asked you to do. Maybe you explained it lightly afterwards, thinking that friends should be understanding and tolerant of each other, and that trivial matters are not worth mentioning. Little did you know that your friends would be upset because you missed the appointment and leave in disappointment.

Although they won’t accuse you face to face, they will definitely think that you are playing with your friend’s friendship, that you are acting on the occasion, and that you are capricious and untrustworthy. Therefore, you must treat promises or entrustments made by friends with caution, keep your promises on time, and never break your promises.

(5) Forced demands

When you need someone for something, your friends are of course the first choice, but you don’t notify them in advance, come to your door temporarily to make requests, or ignore your friends. Forcing him to go to an event with you whether he likes it or not will make your friend feel in a dilemma. It would be even more embarrassing if he has already arranged activities and it is difficult to change them.

As for what you ask for, if you agree to it, your plans will be disrupted; if you refuse, you will feel sorry for yourself. Maybe he is happy to do it on the surface, but he is a little unhappy in his heart, thinking that you are too domineering and unreasonable.

So, when you have a request for a friend, you must tell it in advance, speak in a discussion tone, and try to make the request under the premise that the friend has nothing to do or is willing to do so. At the same time, remember: Don’t do what others don’t want you to do. Give to others.

(6) Ignorance of current affairs

When you visit a friend’s house, if you meet him studying, or receiving guests, or meeting your lover, or preparing to go out Wait, you may rely on your close friends, regardless of the time or occasion, or look at your friend's face, and sit there for a long time, talking and overestimating the guest, but you don't know that the other person is already on pins and needles and extremely impatient.

In this way, your friends will definitely think that you are too uneducated, ignorant of current affairs, and unreasonable, and they will try their best to avoid you in the future, fearing that you will disturb their private life again. Therefore, whenever you encounter this situation, you must react quickly, say a few words and then say goodbye. Cherishing your friends' time and respecting their private lives is as valuable as cherishing friendship.

(7) Use sharp words

Sometimes you use harsh words in public to show off your eloquence, to grandstand and amuse others, or to show your "intimacy" with your friends. , use harsh words indiscriminately, sarcastically ridicule friends or others, make a fool of yourself and make people laugh, and get temporary pleasure, but they don't know that it will seriously hurt your friendship, make your friends feel humiliated, think you have become so hateful, and regret your misunderstanding. Got you.

Maybe you still don’t take it seriously and say that it’s a joke between friends, so why should we take it seriously? However, you don’t know that you have hurt your friendship first.

Therefore, when friends get along, especially in front of others, they should treat each other kindly, respect each other, and never make random jokes or hurt others with bad words.

(8) Too stingy

When choosing friends, you may think that friendship is more important than anything else, so why worry about financial gains and losses. This kind of thinking makes you appear to be too constrained when getting along with friends, not paying for everything, or worried about gains and losses, for fear of suffering a loss.

Receiving gifts from friends without giving them a penny yourself will make your friends think that you regard your money as your life and that you are a stingy person. Therefore, when making friends, being too poor will appear stingy, while being generous will appear generous, which will make the friendship strong.

(9) Exaggerate

You may be driven by vanity or honor, or you may be eager to make friends. You think that the more friends you make, the greater your abilities and the better your popularity. Fake choice inspection, general recognition of oneself, and suffering from "good friendship syndrome".

At this time, your friends are already sneering slightly, thinking that you are a frivolous person who is in a hurry and cannot get along with each other sincerely. As a result, you will lose your true friends. Therefore, when making friends, you should treat each other sincerely and have a single-minded relationship. You must not think that extensive friendship will make you prominent.

(10) If you insist on having your own way

If you are a friend, you should help each other through thick and thin. Good intentions should be carefully considered and adopted appropriately. Maybe you ignore this and insist on going your own way whenever something happens, insisting on your own opinion, ignoring the opinions of your friends, and still going your own way. As a result, you suffer a loss and your friends suffer.

This will definitely make your friends feel disappointed, thinking that you are too arbitrary and do not take your friends seriously, that you are an inactive and meddlesome person, and they will gradually alienate you in the future. Therefore, when making decisions, you should listen to and respect the opinions of your friends, understand their good intentions, and even if it is difficult to adopt your opinions, you should make it clear to make people feel that you respect them.