Most men who are not related to the opposite sex do not have bad conditions, but just lack sufficient understanding of women, let alone research. In fact, many things are just a layer of window paper. When others tell you, you will slap your thigh and say: I also know this simple truth. But if others don't tell you, you will always be confused.

As I get older, I feel that women are all the same. It doesn’t matter whether they are ugly, beautiful, sexy or mediocre. They all look like a pile of flesh. Although I have given up, it seems a pity to throw away the knowledge, experience and tips I have accumulated over the years.

Just like the peerless prawn in Jin Yong’s novels who have to carve their martial arts skills on the stone wall, I will leave my experience here.

Chapter 1 Circle

For otakus, the most painful thing is when they are so lonely and unbearable with the desire to pick up girls that they realize that they don’t know many girls.

There is a word in economics called "industrial chain". The supplier of raw materials is called "upstream" and the party that purchases products is called "downstream". If the downstream is stable, the enterprise will develop well. If the downstream is not only unstable, but also does not have a fixed group of people, and you don’t even know where to find it, that kind of sales will be the most difficult to do. Why is it difficult to get insurance? Because there is no definite downstream, everyone can be a consumer or not.

The same goes for picking up girls. If you have discovered that the girls you met during your school days have either gone to other places to make a living, or they are already married to famous ladies. Even the silly and unkempt older sister has already hooked up with a foreigner. arm, you should understand: your "downstream" has dried up.

The downstream of picking up girls is your social circle.

If you are a school student, a rookie who has just entered the society, or even an old otaku who has been lonely for a long time, then you should start to realize a simple axiom: "Chasing women starts with knowing each other." Women start”.

If you find that chasing any woman is no different from chasing other women, either you are a top player or you are a self-righteous and difficult person.

There is no subsistence allowance when picking up girls. If you want to get out of a poor household, you need to expand your social network and popularity is very important. In other words, first of all, you must have your own various circles of different sizes, and secondly, your reputation in the circle is particularly important. If you are a good person in the eyes of your friends, even "Brother is not in the world, but there is a legend about him in the world", it will have a head start. "You are that legendary so-and-so", this sense of mystery is undoubtedly very attractive to girls. If you are still spread as an "interesting" person, then the beginning is almost half successful.

How to expand your social circle correctly? First of all, we must avoid two communication misunderstandings.

There is a Chinese saying that haste makes waste, and if you are too utilitarian, you will go astray.

When some people meet and talk with a group of people, they like to get into the crowd of women and smile happily, but say few words to the men. In fact, this is a big misunderstanding.

First of all, women will have a bad opinion of such a man. Although they will cooperate with your teasing, in fact, they have already formed a bad impression of you in their hearts. Secondly, women are brought by men. There is a saying that brothers are like siblings and wives are like clothes. How can I wear clothes if I don’t have any limbs? Few women are willing to introduce sisters who are better than themselves to the men around them, but men like to take girls with them to show off in front of other men. A man who is unwilling to associate with the same sex in public social situations will definitely not know many members of the opposite sex.

There are also some people who are too snobbish. When he meets an ugly woman, he becomes distant and even speaks harshly to her. When he meets a beautiful and sexy woman, he smiles brightly and accommodates her again and again, even willing to be used by her, acting like a slave. Such people are often reduced to the role of a clown in a circle. Since you cannot treat others with equality and sincerity, other people will obviously see this and will not look down upon you.

If you only treat people based on their body shape and appearance, do they still need to be sincere towards you? Therefore, when running your own social circle in order to pick up girls, you must treat everyone equally, regardless of whether the other party is a man or a woman, a beauty or a dinosaur. In one sentence: Be sincere to your friends, help when you can, and do not violate your principles if you refuse.

So what should we do in social situations?

Spend your energy on men.

Generally, women are used to wrapping themselves up tightly in unfamiliar social situations. Although their clothes are still revealing, they are very chaste in spirit, whether real or fake. One reason is that women pay more attention to their public image and reputation, and another reason is that they are more vigilant and defensive about unfamiliar environments.

So in this environment, based on China's national conditions, it is difficult to win over a woman in one fell swoop, unless you go to a bar, nightclub, etc. If you strike up a conversation shamelessly and with evil intentions in an environment that is supposed to be elegant, and if you encounter someone who is polite and perfunctory, most people will look at you and walk away, and some will even say a few hurtful words on the spot.

Look further, put the line longer, first put the energy and enthusiasm for dealing with women on men, and put half of the time spent on women on men, there will be great results.

No matter which beauty you fall in love with. Experts will start with the men she comes into contact with. The communication between men is very simple. They have the same hobbies and topics, and it is easy to get together. The more friends you have, the more you can help others, and the easier it is to help others. Then you will become more and more familiar with them, and the faster you will meet new people, it will enter a virtuous cycle. The existence of friends is a resource. If you have many friends, someone might come over to treat you to dinner one day, and there will be several beautiful sisters of his wife on the table.

How do we choose social activities? Of course, it is based on its own conditions.

The first thing is, what are you good at and what to choose.

For example, if you are in good physical condition and can play football, table tennis, badminton, swimming, or travel outdoors, you can gather a group of friends and organize them to play together. These are events where you can show off your masculine side.

Of course, there are people who are not good at this. People who are eloquent are suitable for playing reasoning games such as killing games. This is a very good platform. At first, a few friends play together, but not all friends may be available at the same time. Naturally, friends of friends and friends of friends of friends will join in. It is not easy to carry out such an activity. You need to deliberately show something to women, it's just a simple game.

The wisdom, logical thinking ability, conversation, etc. displayed during the game will naturally win the favor of women. This kind of activity itself is unfair to women, and men's innate advantages in logical thinking ability are also brought into play.

There may be some people who are neither good at sports nor smart. Moreover, for modern people, life is more stressful and money and energy are limited, so interactions are not necessarily limited to these entertainment activities. superior. Friends helping each other is a very affordable activity and can expand your social circle. Do more for your friends, ask for less from your friends, and think more from the other person's perspective when encountering problems, and you will find that you will naturally have more friends around you.

Nowadays, most people are only children, and many people are only used to thinking about themselves. The circle of such people's interactions with others will become smaller and smaller. Some people are used to small circles and only stay with a few close friends at a time. At a gathering of close friends, moderate absence will not affect the relationship, but will save a lot of energy and money. Using these resources on new friends will have a better effect on spreading the social circle.

How to launch an attack and hit it with one hit.

Excellent women are very busy and have tight schedules, and they don’t have time to deliver them to their door themselves. Once I see you, I already know you. Therefore, opportunities cannot wait and must be fought for by yourself. In addition, you may be a boring man with poor means, poor family, ordinary appearance, and low taste, and you will not be able to take the bait of Jiang Taigong's fishermen. If the conditions are good, you may catch a mermaid, but you may only catch a broken shoe. Starting early is a must.

Where to start is the question.

Many people think that "making the move" means jumping in front of a woman and starting a conversation. Most men also start chasing after the girl they like when they find them next to them. Some people even believe in the theory of probability, cast the net wide and deep to catch fish, vow to every woman, and give away spinach in autumn.

Such people obviously do not understand Chairman Mao’s tactics - clenching fists to hit people. The more concentrated the higher the success rate. But who is hitting with the clenched fist? Hitting a woman? Too anxious. Use force around the woman you like. Her girlfriends and male friends all need you to get to know them and leave a good impression on them. It doesn't take much energy, sometimes even just an expression or a few harmonious chats can give them a good feeling. And getting to know more individuals is a good thing in itself.

Wait until everything is complete before attacking that woman. In fact, it’s just a matter of waiting a few more minutes and talking to a few more people to break the ice. When your bone-splitting palm has surrounded the city in the countryside, it is logical to conquer Berlin.

Who to attack next is a new question.

Some people say that failure is the mother of success, but in a circle about picking up girls, success only has grandchildren but no mother.

The first goal in a circle is very important. If you fail the first time, it will be difficult to succeed the second time. There is no need to try the third or fourth time, it will definitely be useless.

In the same circle, no woman is willing to accept a man who has been rejected by the woman around her, and no woman is willing to accept a man who has been with women who are not as good as herself. So don’t do it blindly. The loss caused by missing a hit is quite large; and you can’t choose someone who is too easy to attack for the first time. Wu Dalang raises owls - whoever plays with the bird will treat the woman as the woman you associate with. level to determine your level.

When most women interact in social circles, the first thing they want is vanity, and the second is benefits. They pay more attention to their status and reputation in the circle, and the "affordable man" is the last consideration. And in actual social interactions, you will find that a woman's status and reputation can bring her greater economic and social benefits. Their vanity is driven by society.

So, we should understand why they "don't want what others don't want, and I don't want those who are inferior to me and have used them".

Based on the above reality, we have to return to the issue of circle management.

One hit is guaranteed, and the target must be relatively high-level and difficult, and the target must be struck as quickly as possible. Isn’t this requirement a bit overwhelming?

Therefore, your ambush should be laid for a long time, and you should pursue instead of chasing. No matter what circle you are in, it is important to keep friends with everyone, including beauties. This temperature must be grasped well. At what temperature is it most crispy on the outside and tender on the inside? If the other person can think of you first when they have a problem or something, and you are still in the position of a good friend, then it is considered to have been achieved.

You can do whatever you want at any time as long as you like. And you will enjoy this process until you can't bear it. Most good girls will not spend money on men who are not pursuing them - since they are friends, it is normal to go out and play AA.

This stage is ideal. You can have a lover without spending any money. The best part is that she has a boyfriend and brings it out to play with you, and since you are innocent, you are in a powerful position. Her man's unhappiness means he is stingy. Not only can he not be angry, but he also has to pay for everything. Women like to have such a blue-faced confidant. In fact, she also understands that your relationship is ambiguous and you are her last line of defense.

If her man is not nice to her, or there is something unsatisfactory, she will come to you to talk to you, drink and shed tears - she will do everything she refuses to do in front of her boyfriend. . This is the most amazing stage, when others want to help you raise a future lover. The more ambiguous you are, the more passive her man will be; the more physically innocent you are, the less important her man will be.

Maintaining such a relationship with a committed woman is like planting a sweet potato in the soil. As long as you don’t dig it up, it will always be there; if you dig it out and eat it, it will be gone.

The same reason why you should not blindly hit a target is the same reason. Women often judge the standard of a man based on the standard of the woman around him. So as long as your girlfriend is pretty enough, you don't even have to worry about it, and that woman will think you are a treasure. This is the same "tight" atmosphere deliberately created by real estate sellers.

The things that rich people buy are good things, so advertisements need celebrities. The same goes for women. A man with a high-level woman is a good man. At this time, you just need to show off your single-mindedness, inability to control yourself, ignorance and guilt. This is simpler than being a woman's best friend.

There are too many mysteries to explain in circle management, but in the final analysis it is a principle of dealing with people. If you are a person who is not good at maneuvering, that would be the best. Just remember to treat everyone around you sincerely and equally, help others as much as possible, and follow the current, and your "downstream" will be like the rolling Yangtze River. .

Everyone should manage their own circles well, not only for picking up girls, but also for their future development.

Chapter 2 Identifying Types of Women

To identify women, you must first distinguish between beautiful women and ordinary women, women who are sought after and women who are not valued. This condition should be met by all men. Although everyone has their own preferences for radish and green vegetables, some people like models as tall as models, some like small and cute ones, some are so white and tender that you can pinch water, some like sporty women with tanned wheat color, and some people like Brother Chun and Brother Zeng. .

This is a difference, but it is not a problem, because no matter which type you prefer, everyone should have a public opinion about a certain woman and what grade she belongs to. You must be able to tell whether the other person is a beauty or an ordinary girl.

There is a qualitative difference between chasing beautiful women and ordinary women. This is the basic view of beauty.

Some people think that beautiful women are enhanced versions of ordinary girls. The essence is the same. If you can chase beautiful women, ordinary girls will naturally be no problem; and if a method fails to work on ordinary women, then the same If you do a more perfect and outstanding method, you will definitely win the favor of the beautiful woman. This view is extremely wrong, because beauties and ordinary girls belong to different species.

Marx said that the economic base determines the superstructure. This is true at all. In early China, there was also an extreme theory of family origin. Because beauties and ordinary girls have lived in different worlds since childhood, their worldviews and desires are completely different.

Since of course you are more inclined to get a beautiful woman when it comes to the choice of women, then you should also admit accordingly: their skins are different, and their hearts and brains are also different. Because women won't notice or don't want to believe this, so although they claim to understand women, the strategies they write about chasing girls are not practical at all.

How to chase an ordinary girl?

You just need to be clingy enough: show your meticulous care and let them believe that she is extremely noble in your mind. If you insist on doing the same thing for a few more days, as long as it is not too fake, it will not be a problem to impress ordinary girls.

But these methods are counterproductive for a beautiful woman.

A basic principle is that things are rare and valuable, and you should give others what they lack. The most important thing that beauties lack is flattery and attentiveness. There are many men following behind them, and there are many men who have extremely noble thoughts about them in their hearts day and night. If you don't confess, they will believe that you can do it. This is not uncommon. There are countless men who are willing to care about and considerate them, and put them into practice, who have repeatedly accommodated them and are willing to be used. One more than you is not more, and one less than you is not enough. But beauties themselves won’t say this. Women like to be good.

They like to say, "If there is someone who can think of me and greet me every day, I will be satisfied." They also like to say, "If it is a rainy day, there is someone who can support me from behind." An umbrella is so romantic." They would also say, "If someone can say good night every day after work, I will be very happy."

Note: The "someone" here refers to a specific person, not just anyone. If it is an ordinary girl who says these things, you can believe it and try it. If it is a beautiful woman, if you cannot send a text message for three days, your name will be on her cell phone's blacklist.

"Who is this? You have nothing to do. You are so annoying! Are you annoying?"

Then how should we face a beautiful girl?