1. Care about others. It is a basic need of human beings to hope to be concerned by others. In the final analysis, people who have a bad relationship with friends often feel lonely and annoyed, but they can't meet the needs they are concerned about. How can I get others' concern? The only way is that you should care about others first. Because you want to get the needs that others care about, others have the same needs. The more you care about others, the more important you are in his life, and naturally he will turn to care about you. Once we can care about each other, the relationship between classmates will naturally be close. To care about others is selfless. Some people are enthusiastic on the surface, but in fact they are "pulling out a dime to benefit the world." He cares about others and hopes to "catch big fish for a long time" and get more benefits from others. Such a person can win the favor of others for a while, but few people can "bear hardships" with him, and of course it is impossible to have a good friend relationship in the end.
2. Accept others. To accept others is to treat others as your friends from the heart. This includes looking at others in two ways. There is an old saying: "No one is perfect without gold." Don't abandon a person and stay away from him just because he has this shortcoming and that problem. It stands to reason that clear water makes no fish, and people look at it without friends. Of course, accepting others is not accepting his shortcomings and faults, but accepting this person and sincerely helping him overcome them. Once others feel your sincere acceptance, they will naturally get on well with you wholeheartedly.
3. change yourself. Most people with nervous friends have some problems in their personality and habits. For example, arrogant people often stay away from others; Narrowness and selfishness are often spurned; Being stingy is often looked down upon; Sweet talk, playing tricks will eventually be spurned, and so on. In addition, some people have many bad habits that affect others, or often have annoying behaviors that will affect the relationship between friends. Therefore, deliberately changing your bad personality and habits should also be an important measure to get along with good friends.
4. Strengthen communication. Good friendship depends on mutual understanding. To understand each other, it is necessary to strengthen communication and communicate frequently in thoughts and attitudes. Therefore, in addition to actively taking care of each other in their studies, they should take part in more social activities after studying, take the initiative to chat with their classmates, discuss a certain problem and exchange some information; You can also play chess and poker together; You can also take part in some group activities, such as outings and hiking. In short, a harmonious relationship can make friends close.
5. Personality integrity. Everyone has his own unique personality and behavior pattern, which is also one of the characteristics of a sound personality. When you get along with your classmates, you should accommodate others' needs and adopt a more easygoing attitude, but that is limited. Because easygoing is not giving up all principles, and accommodating is not taking everything. Those who really do that will never get the trust and respect of their classmates. However, when you refuse some requests from your classmates that go against your own principles and positions, it is worth your attention, that is, don't overemphasize your own moral and behavior standards, flaunt your fair, lofty, honest and law-abiding qualities, so as to embarrass the other party and even feel that you are indirectly accusing him. You just need to explain why you can't meet his wishes, especially the situation that is not conducive to the other party. If the other person is a reasonable person, he won't blame you; If you still don't understand each other, you have to let him do it. Sometimes, we should remember the sentence "I can't do whatever I want, but I have a clear conscience". Of course, the best way is to clearly show your principles and attitudes in dealing with people on weekdays and let students know what kind of person you are. In this way, others will know your style and won't force you to do what you don't want to do.