Adolescent junior high school students often have bad relations with their parents, and they seem to have a big temper at home, contradict their parents, ignore their parents, and even run away from home. For our teachers, this is not surprising, but parents, you only see this situation in your own children, and often feel very special. Only your own children do this. Of course, helplessness and sadness are inevitable. In fact, before children start to lose their temper and ignore their parents, our family education methods should be adjusted in time. Some people say that "children's problems are caused by adults", which should arouse our reflection. Therefore, when children are at different stages of development, parents should adjust their education methods in time. For example:

First, we should consciously adjust our tone-adjust the tone of "command" to that of "negotiation". It is necessary to realize that children are slowly becoming "adults" and need the attention and respect of others.

Second, pay attention to your child's best friend and related family background. Children need the help of their peers at this stage, which will easily lead to the situation that "those who are pro-Zhu Zhechi are pro-Mexico". Parents should understand their children's psychology, which is usually a reflection of their insecurity. When children are insecure or lack trust and attachment to their families, it is possible to get close to some bad children. At the same time, you may not know who your child is in contact with, so don't directly blame why. Instead, we should know the children's peers and their family background, especially his best or closest friends, in an appropriate way, so as to make correct judgments and take appropriate measures.

Third, give children trust. Children will have problems in the process of growing up, and parents should not overreact, quickly or violently. Don't feel that the child is hopeless, and don't give up the right to educate the child. Parents are the best mentors for children. Adolescent children think that they don't need parental care when they grow up. Rebellion and sense of adulthood just show that their physical and psychological development is gradually maturing. They need to see the world in different ways and make different voices. Parents should fully listen to their children's opinions, stop nagging, stop rude interference and stop unprincipled doting. Don't set goals that children can't reach. "The goal that can be achieved by jumping" is the most appropriate. What rebellious children need most is an equal and peaceful conversation atmosphere, so parents should set an example and communicate with their children calmly.

Fourth, encourage children, not blame them. To give children confidence, we can't say that children are useless. Parents compare other children with their own children unprincipled. I often say to my children, "whose child did better in the exam than you", and who scored 8 or 90 points in a scientific exam to see that you failed, and so on, which seriously dampened my children's self-esteem and self-confidence. Your child is yours, not others'. We should see the bright spot in children. When children's grades are not good, we should change our mentality. If the child doesn't get 50 points in the exam, it's 50 points short. Look at the difference between these 50 points and help children find out the reasons, which are sloppy and which are really not. Don't dig at children, let them experience the joy of success in their study and life!

5. Be proud of children's kindness, success and sense of responsibility. Many parents are willing to show off their children's academic performance, but what do parents of children with poor academic performance have to show off? Children's honesty, integrity, responsibility, helpfulness, diligence and optimism, filial piety and other performances and behaviors should be affirmed in time, so that children can feel their own value, have confidence in themselves and grow up healthily.

Let's listen to the voices of some children:

1. When I am frustrated, my parents can comfort me, care about me, communicate with me often, analyze the reasons of frustration together, and help me face failures and setbacks bravely.

When I make a mistake, I can tolerate my mistake and give me time to correct it. Just like teaching me how to walk, I fell down, and you patiently encouraged me to stand up again. With your encouragement again and again, I learned to walk. I very much hope that my parents will always be patient with us. Have confidence. There is hope.

I hope our parents can respect us and ask us to arrange our own time. Parents should be mentors, urging us to study, not nagging us. Always ask about our study.

I don't want my parents to compare others with me all the time. I am who I am. My parents want to see me make progress today than yesterday. Give me appreciation and encouragement.

In a word, I think good kids talk big. Children very much hope that our parents will have the patience and confidence to grow up with them, be their bosom friends, communicate with them often and keep abreast of their various situations. An educator once said, "I don't know any better way to educate children than encouragement." I hope parents should always praise and encourage their children to enhance their self-esteem and self-confidence. Children should be urged to study. Arrange time effectively.

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