Miss Yang: Hello! I want to invite you, first of all, to know about your sister's surroundings and the friends she has made. For example, her classmates are all famous brands and ostentation, so your sister feels humble or inferior to others, so she steals money to meet her vanity needs. For another example, her friends are a group of people who are delicious and well dressed. In order to make her friends respect her, she stole money to keep up with her friends. This requires parents to be good at unconditionally listening to their children's voices and sincerely communicating with them, so as to have a deeper understanding of the purpose and needs of children stealing money, and let them consider through opinions and suggestions: which is more lasting and attractive, the beauty of material shaping or the beauty of spiritual expression? Is the reputation recognized by the society packaged with famous brands, or is it obtained by exerting one's own ability, value and creating social value? ……? Then, it can achieve the connection and coordination between concepts, so that parents and children can find a balance point and let children abandon the bad behavior of stealing money on the premise of properly meeting their needs. Secondly, remember carefully when your sister started stealing money. If she has this problem since childhood, then she is "used to it", "greedy" or "greedy". This suggests that your parents should always tell their children some positive and negative examples about honesty, self-esteem and her respect on the premise of harmonious communication with their children and good management of money, so that their children can gradually adjust in a subtle way. Because stealing money is a habit gradually formed, it is slow to correct it, so it needs her family to make persistent efforts and be patient enough. If she starts stealing money from her family after entering high school, it is probably related to the boys she likes to talk about and will spend money on them. Of course, it is not excluded to buy good things for students who have studied well and let them make up lessons for themselves. In view of this situation, as a family member, on the premise of harmonious communication with children, we should discuss the basis of friendship and love with children at an appropriate time. In this process, parents and family members always communicate and discuss with their children with calm and harmonious psychology and behavior: whether it is worthwhile to spend money to make friends, get help from others, and buy "self-esteem" and emotion for a long time. The "self-education" process of adolescent children should be respected, and parents should provide their children with enough information and suggestions to help them judge for themselves: whether this is right, whether it should be done, and whether it is worthwhile. Compared with other disciplines, self-discipline will be more effective and lasting, and it is also a way that children are willing to accept. Children's growth is a dynamic process, which requires the support of parents and family members and drifting pruning, so that children can change bad ways of making friends on the premise of improving their cognition. Third, from the analysis of parents and family members themselves, see if children get warmth and care in the family; Whether to give her some pocket money at ordinary times, the amount should be similar to that of ordinary students; Whether to give it once a week or once a month; Do you explain the use and arrangement of the money to your children? Don't criticize her too much even if you buy something inappropriate, because children have their own hobbies. Let children learn "economic management" from an early age, so they have to pay "tuition". After the child has money in his hand, it is not rare to see the money at home, and he will not ask for what she usually wants, so the behavior of stealing will change. Fourth, it is also possible that the roles of your parents are not clear. In the family, the father should play an upright, vigorous and strict role, and the mother should play a kind, considerate and gentle role. Fathers should treat their children with strict attitude and behavior when dealing with stealing money. Then the mother should let the children know that his father will beat and scold and will be punished for doing something wrong, and explain to her in this way that his father cares and loves her performance. Therefore, a clear role-playing with "strict father's loving mother" is conducive to the healthy growth of children and the formation of good habits. Fifth, it is also possible that your sister usually can't get the attention and care of her family, so she steals money to attract the attention and care of her family. In view of this situation, as a family, we really should communicate with her, give her love, give her understanding, give her confidence and give her hope. When parents and family members change their behavior and performance towards her, children will feel love and warmth, and feel that they are also important members of the family, and theft will be reduced or completely disappeared. Sixth, your sister often steals money from home, so don't take it lightly. This is a dangerous signal, "Small thieves steal oil, big thieves steal cattle", which is what the ancients warned us. On the one hand, you and your family should take serious measures to treat her correctly, on the other hand, you should always pay attention to discovering her advantages and give her affirmation and encouragement in time, so that she can feel that her family loves her, but she just doesn't like her "stealing" behavior. Eighth, we should believe that no one is born a thief, and the appearance of bad habits and behaviors is by no means accidental. There must be subjective and objective reasons. If you love your sister, you should know it carefully, observe it carefully and find out why. Children steal money mostly because their desires are not satisfied. If the child's wish is a legitimate need, the family should meet it; If you can't meet it for a while, you should explain the situation and give your child hope; At the same time, give her some training, but don't cajole her. The result of deception is that the family loses its prestige, and children will not only make mistakes again, but also learn to lie. If a child's desire is an improper need, we must not satisfy her. Instead, we must patiently explain to her, restrain her greed, educate her to restrain herself, use the ways and means of discovering advantages and praising in time to strengthen her just behavior, give her good education and influence, and cultivate her honesty and integrity. The last thing to point out is: don't look on coldly because your sister stole money from home, and don't let her go. Instead, try to find a gentler and more neutral way to correct children's misconduct, and at the same time learn more about children and communicate with them often. I believe that all your sister's problems will be solved under the premise of deepening feelings with her family. Your friend Yang Yonglong wishes you success! Miss Yang: Hello! I have received your email! Thank you for your analysis and suggestions! Thank you for your serious and detailed reply! I admire your spirit of helping others! Wish you all the best! Happy National Day in advance! ! Minmin