Perhaps, like you, I turn on my phone and see the contact numbers of many friends, but the contact numbers are getting lower and lower. Some mobile phones, I don’t know when, have become unreachable. What makes your friends leave? As the saying goes: There are things to do and things not to do when dealing with people. Some trivial things and a casual word can make a relationship end quietly. In fact, no matter how good the relationship is, friends should maintain these five "unwritten rules".
01
Discuss money, but do not expose all capital
As the old saying goes: Make a fortune in silence
No matter a person You don’t have to disclose how much money you make, and even your best friends can’t reveal your background. Interactions between people are usually harmful.
Just because you are doing very well does not mean that your friends are doing very well. What's worse is that human nature is greedy, so some evil thoughts will appear.
In "The Surprise of the First Carving", there is a businessman from Huizhou, Anhui Province, who brought silver coins to Hongji Temple after making a sale.
The two young monks drank tea and chatted with the businessman, and then mentioned the difficulties of the monastery. The businessman felt that he had made a lot of money from this business, including 32 taels of silver. Why not take it out and send it to the temple, which would be considered a good thing.
The businessmen informed the monks about their recent transactions. At night, two monks saw the businessman's money and had the idea of ??killing themselves for the money.
The evil inside is evident.
It is also a good thing for friends to help each other, but be careful about the amount of the loan. Protecting your own rights and then considering help, endless help, is not good for everyone.
02
It’s okay to chat, but don’t talk about right and wrong or create trouble
If two people are chatting and a third person is involved, a clear mind is needed. I feel that if something is said among friends, it will not spread easily.
Some people say:
If you want something to spread further, tell the other party that this is a secret and don’t need to be told to others.
When chatting, be careful that walls have ears. One thing, if spread to ten or hundreds of people, will become thousands of versions and then return to your ears.
If you discuss right and wrong with your friends, you will not only offend others, but also cause misunderstandings among your friends. For example, you and your friend discussed the relationship of a student and said that this classmate seemed to have betrayed the relationship when he went shopping hand in hand with a strange woman. There is no doubt that you will eventually annoy this classmate.
03.
It’s okay to complain, but you can’t blame your parents
As the saying goes: A son never thinks his mother is ugly
Every family has unpleasant things. Most people feel that their parents are not qualified. When it comes to parents, the discussion must be endless.
As a friend, you should pay attention to one thing: no matter how bad the other person says about your parents, you should not judge or add fuel to the fire. As a result, the relationship between the other party and his parents became tense. Ultimately, this is an intensification of conflicts within a family.
It’s not strange for you to complain about various social problems with your friends, but it’s wrong to try to discredit your parents. People's feelings come from one moment to another. If you and your friend are separated, your friend will reflect on himself and recall the content of previous chats. Perhaps, he will soon understand that the people who join him in scolding his parents cannot see his kindness.
Be respectful when dealing with others, praise parents all over the world anytime and anywhere, and guide and spread positive energy correctly.
04
Parties are okay, but members of the opposite sex should not get too close
As the saying goes:
Don’t bully a friend’s wife; The husband cannot be supported
Even if you are polite, if you are very close to your friend's lover, it will undoubtedly cause suspicion. True love is a very fragile issue.
Once a stain occurs, it cannot be removed. If the person in front of you is a friend of the opposite sex, then you should keep your attitude straight and do not interact with your lover as a close friend.
If you have unwanted thoughts, end that relationship immediately and don't fall into the emotional trap. Among friends of the opposite sex, at dinner parties, whether serving wine or singing, they need to treat each other politely and politely.
After the party is over, it is best to send them to the door instead of being in the same room. There is a difference between friendship and true love. If you cannot grasp the sense of proportion, you will lose both.
05
Joking, but don’t lose your moral bottom line
When friends are together or in a work group, most of them will say some emotional ridicule. Say some humorous words to adjust the atmosphere.
Shi Chengjin, a litterateur of the Qing Dynasty, said:
Opening one's mouth to ridicule others is the first thing to do. It not only loses one's morality, but also kills one's life
There are some ridicules, A word of mouth can hurt someone, and in more serious cases, it can make a person extreme.
Maupassant narrated an unimaginable story in his novel collection Rope: Father Oshe Koerner from the village of Alfautey came to the market in the city and picked up a small rope. . He had always lived a frugal life and felt that the rope was likely to be used at a critical moment.
Someone framed his father and picked up a wallet but did not release it. Later, after verification, Dad did not take out the wallet.
But people in the village spread the news and made a lot of noise. Many people made fun of his father because he was older and had done some irresponsible things. Before my father died, he was still very sad because of this incident.
No matter what form of noise, if it is blatant, some people will always be hurt by it, causing emotional rupture and making the relationship irreparable.
A friend's mouth can turn white into black, and black can also be bleached. When socializing with friends, don't mix day and night, or mix up the true and the false.
Any relationship that makes you very tired will eventually let you go.
If friendship is lost, even if you get it back later, it will not be as beautiful as when we first met.
The repaired wound will definitely leave scars.
The writer Gu Long once said:
The only rose without thorns in the world is friendship.
Obviously, the purer the relationship between friends, the happier it will be. There is no need for the relationship to be full of dirt because of the wrong form of communication.
May you and I always remove the thorns in the world of friendship and stay beautiful.