1, you must first understand the most fundamental one, what is the essence of interpersonal communication in the workplace.
Many people don't understand that the company hired you to do things, not to make friends. Essentially, you don't need to please others, and you don't need to be afraid of others. You have only one task: to do a good job. In addition, learn something to support the family. In layman's terms, it is eight words: study and grow, and work to make money.
As for workplace contacts, peer evaluation, leadership views and other things, they are all based on these eight words. Your work is not so good, even if you turn everyone in the office into sworn brothers and sisters, it's useless. There is really a problem, no one will help you share it, and you have to start all over again if you change companies. The work you are responsible for is strongly promoted and effectively implemented. Even if you are alone every day and have no contact with your colleagues in private, it doesn't matter, you can still get along like a duck to water.
So, after work, you have to understand that you don't need to be friends with everyone. To do something, you need to be friends with the other party to promote it. Either you are in the wrong direction or the whole operation mode of this company is wrong. That's enough. Let's talk about what should be done in detail.
2. The interpersonal relationship in the workplace should be based on work.
In particular, newcomers who have just joined the work need resources, but not resources, experience and inexperience. Under this premise, whether you please others, submit to humiliation, invite people to dinner in private, or confront each other, it is just a "communication and coordination skill" to better complete the work. And this skill and ability can be learned and exercised.
In different platforms, different positions and different occasions, the requirements for this ability and skills are different, but some characteristics are the same. I have been in the workplace for many years, and I have summarized three important key points:
First, learn to build your personality in the workplace.
This is beyond the comprehension of many fresh graduates. You can be completely different in the workplace and in life. Nuo Nuo is self-centered in life and can be aggressive in the workplace; Be careful in life and be bold in the workplace; Life is a small business, and you can be a woman in the workplace ... just look at what kind of person you want to be in the workplace.
A girl who is interested in being a leader, no matter how innocent she is in front of her boyfriend, can not be affected in the workplace; A person who just wants to live a stable life and have three meals, no matter how rude and unreasonable he is in front of his parents, can only submit to humiliation in the workplace. Furthermore, if you give others the impression of bullying from the beginning, don't blame others for taking it out on you. If you don't want to be a "pistachio" in the workplace, don't go along with others when they make fun of you. If you don't want to be a "trash can" for colleagues to vomit, please turn your back on your ears when TAs is gossiping.
You are not water, you are not what this company needs, and you are not what your colleagues want you to be. And change companies? What about colleague transfer? The interpersonal relationship when you first enter the workplace is that while you are adapting to others, others are also adapting to you. Once this adaptation is established, it will be difficult to break it in the future. You set a bottom line and principles for yourself and gradually form your own style of doing things. The essence is to help others adapt to you.
The most practical and quick way to build a workplace personality is to "benchmark". The target is your boss, leader, outstanding colleagues, or other objects that you think are worth learning. When entering the workplace for the first time, you should learn to observe and imitate how they communicate with their brothers, how to deal with their superiors, how to treat their colleagues, what to say, especially in some extreme situations (quarrel/coercion/problems), and how to deal with them. Most of these things have to be understood and learned by themselves, but some people are particularly lucky. They met an excellent leader as soon as they joined the work, and after studying for several years, they became very powerful themselves. This is the reason why what kind of generals bring what kind of soldiers.
Second, learn to control your emotions.
Losing control of emotions is a taboo in the workplace, because you have no idea what will happen if you are wronged, explode and vent. I just received a private letter asking for help not long ago. Xiao is a sentimental girl. A few days ago, she had a conflict with her colleagues in other departments at work, and others didn't cooperate. Xiao Xia quarreled with others angrily, and she said cruel words. However, the colleague who quarreled with her was very background, so Xiao was very scared after the quarrel, worried that she would be dealt with by the company and asked me what to do.
In my opinion, this kind of thing should never have happened. Your goal is to finish the work, and the other party doesn't cooperate. What you need is to mobilize all means to promote the cooperation of TA, find a leader, put in a good word, and apply both hard and soft. These are all methods. Only quarreling will only make things worse.
The part of the brain that processes emotions has priority. Once emotions are used, it is difficult for the brain to think calmly. The same problem, you let the leader come forward, it is likely to solve the problem in a few words. Is this because the leader has a good relationship with that person? No, this is the difference in communication skills.
Third, learn to use the cards in your hand well.
When you do the first two points, you have established interpersonal relationships with many people in the workplace, and even some people have developed into personal friends because of their particularly pleasant cooperation, so you should learn how to make good use of these existing interpersonal relationships.
Positive, such as expanding interpersonal chain, finding people to match and so on. On the contrary, it is to break through the interpersonal barriers, so that there will be no "enemies" from all directions. For example, A is biased against me, but A and B have a good relationship. Once you pass an A, your work will be blocked. However, when you have established a good relationship with B, you can use B to indirectly influence A, not necessarily to the end.
Learn to use your established interpersonal relationships to solve contradictions and problems in the workplace, and learn to use other people's resources more strategically to promote work. This is a higher level of interpersonal skills. It is also one of the necessary abilities of many professionals.