Don't be afraid that your initiative will bring her disgust. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative, and it will fade slowly. It's normal if your initial confession is rejected by her. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking?
Maybe if you confess twice, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved.
If you encounter setbacks, leave immediately, never reply to this girl again, protect yourself tightly and lick the wound silently. And when you are in pain, as everyone knows, that girl may be regretting, regretting! Maybe she will secretly cry and regret rejecting you, and then she will be sad to see your indifferent eyes, but she won't tell you, and she will never let you come back to chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart. She will think that you don't really like him, otherwise how could you just give her up?
Some people say that it is really difficult for boys and it is not easy to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role orientation of men and women. From a physiological and social point of view, women are always passive. If, on the other hand, men are ashamed and women are brave, the world will be in a mess! Women's shyness is always beautiful ~ I always hear that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are few examples to the contrary.
Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are dead and pester them to fight, leaving a bad reputation. But I think boys pursue the girl they like and continue to be nice to this girl after encountering some setbacks, which shows that people really like it and are sincere. If it doesn't work, there's nothing to regret. It's nothing. Who makes people like it? I hate people blindly following me, and I hate boys who have no opinions and care too much about what others think of them. They deserve not to find a girlfriend.
If you are a man, be brave. Girls are emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you work hard, once your heart touches her, you will get more and more love. Such examples abound around us. Girls are gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. What was the sweetness of the original hard work? And most good girls are devoted and single-minded.
Therefore, it is suggested that some boys be brave and pursue the girls they like, instead of being so timid. One is that people think you are unmanly, and the other is that you feel uncomfortable. But, most importantly, you get nothing in the end. Happiness is always earned by yourself, don't expect others to give it to you!
By the way, I think it's good to take the initiative, because your goal is what you really like. Girls are often passive and can only choose to accept and refuse, so I would rather take the initiative and love what I love without regrets!
Life is beautiful, enjoy it and learn to find it!
First, what kind of first impression should I leave on MM (time: I just started to contact MM)
1, I think the most important thing is to let MM see your self-motivated.
The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make MM feel that you are a self-motivated person.
Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream.
2. Be confident and responsible.
Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility.
It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.
Not too formal, but not too casual.
Be serious where you should be serious, and ridicule when you should be ridiculed.
Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull.
Step 4 look mature
A leisurely man has fatal attraction to mm.
Second, how to further contact MM (time: the stage of starting to chase)
1, the most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things so clear that people can see at a glance that you are chasing others.
Think about it. Most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feelings need to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.
Think about it from the girl's point of view: if you rush directly to have sex, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you come out resolutely from the beginning, you will basically be bored back immediately.
Step 2 start with a low profile
First of all, we should position the relationship as a "friend", which is originally an "ordinary friend". You want to be a "good friend". Those with taste can also ask the other party to be a "confidante" or something. In short, don't say "chasing you".
Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then there is less chance for a girl to "refuse" you-how can you refuse if you don't chase her? !
This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days. You should communicate fully and understand that feelings don't come out of thin air.
Don't be too impatient in the process of communication.
Relax and don't pester others all day. Anyone who does this to you will get tired of it. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing girls is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the crystallization of my classmates' efforts for many years).
Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your existence.
Also, don't take out the ambition of "you don't want to marry" It is not good for the price to drop too low. Sometimes you can play a little trick.
4. Create opportunities appropriately.
I said before, don't turn things into "you are chasing others" right away, you need to get close to girls. At this time, it depends on your creativity.
You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting for rabbits into encounters; You can also pretend to be casual and find the best reason to invite someone to do something with you.
In short, this is the most technical place. If it is really not feasible, you can consult your predecessors.
5. Never: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.
Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things for others often, but they don't know that chasing girls is the most taboo.
As the saying goes, "something for nothing". You are putting pressure on others by giving them something like this. People will feel indebted to you, so they will try to repay you. If there is no way to pay you back, they will try to stay away from you so as not to owe you a favor all the time.
If you want to show your sincerity, please invite girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat or an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people, not taken home.
Third, what is a "girlfriend"?
1, "girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise.
You start dating girls, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good friends who talk about everything". On a sunny afternoon, you "accidentally" held her hand; In "Willow Shoot on the Moon", you suddenly attack and kiss her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend.
I know the best. I didn't ask "Would you like to be my girlfriend" until I went to bed. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!" "
So, don't rush to pierce enough paper, the more hazy the situation, the better for you.
2. What is "confession"?
As I said before, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem. They always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say that they are very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".
3. Have you ever had to confess?
Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while.
At this time, confession is an immature confession, which is very risky. It is similar to the grim situation when playing Go. The backward side was forced to release the "winning hand". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck.
4. Don't export the word "love" easily.
I often see a "bold confession" in the forum. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment and even a responsibility.
A man who casually says "love" is irresponsible.
Fourth, civilized love cannot be forced.
1, not every MM can catch up.
There will always be many people chasing good girls, and it is impossible to satisfy everyone's wishes. There will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the principle of chasing MM, you can't catch up with either twin.
Look at the problem from another angle. Even if a rural nanny who has never graduated from primary school is kind to you, earning 600 yuan a month and buying you 700 yuan as a gift (overdraft), and willing to be a cow and a horse for you, you will not fall in love with her. If she cries and pesters you every day, you must feel bored.
So love needs a material foundation, at least a balance.
2. Chasing MM is a serious social activity.
Don't bother others, leave yourself a way out. Why don't men have wives? Some MMS are snobs (few). If you are not convinced, you can prove with facts that "she was blind at that time". Never mistake others for yourself.
Never show cynicism in front of MM. Cynicism sometimes means "you are a loser".
Catch up with the 17th National Congress of Sichuan Girls.
Know yourself and know yourself!
& lt The more times you touch a woman, the easier it is for her to fall in love with you >
After touching a woman, you can enhance each other's intimacy (physical contact is the best way to get closer to a woman, but how to touch a woman without trace requires excellent skills). It would be perfect if I had a chance to touch her knees or hands. But if you meet on the first date, don't do this. In coffee shops and restaurants, you'd better choose juxtaposed positions (that's how opportunities are made).
In terms of women's body, the left side (roughly the left side, yes, but for left-handed women, it is the right side) is a non-daily area, which is easy to feel itchy, while the left side of the breast is a sensitive area for women. So, it's best to have a woman on your left. If you hold her from the left rear with your left hand, she will fall into your arms. Then look forward to further good results.
& lt the difference between a popular man and an unpopular man >
Popular men always keep a wide distance from undesirable women, but for eager women, there are ways to keep her around. Women are bound to be curious about men who attract attention (curiosity is fatal to women), and this curiosity can be used in interesting conversations and fresh intelligence information. If you are unpopular, even if the other person is curious, I can only try my best to escape as soon as I see you. Unpopular men are always lonely around me. Whenever I want to liven up the atmosphere, I want to be a popular person. I must have self-confidence (self-confidence and not arrogance are the only way to chase my girlfriend, remember! ), and good interpersonal relationships, I believe that in this way, a good girl will belong to you.
& lt from friends to lovers >
I finally got a chance to ask her out, but I didn't know what gift to bring. It's best to bring a flower on this occasion, so that you may pin it on her chest (giving gifts is knowledge, but it is unwise to insert flowers on the chest of an "unfamiliar" woman) or send it, which naturally forms an opportunity to kiss each other. As for dining, you may have to be careful the first time, but you can choose after the second time.
& lt Give yourself a chance to step into her inner world >
After the other person becomes your girlfriend, many people worry that their relationship will not go on. In fact, if these people don't care too much, they will often let the opportunity to improve their mood slip away quietly. In the female ethnic group, they attach great importance to the boys who want to help women with their coats, because at the moment of taking off their coats, if there are men present, it is easy for women to have the illusion of lovers. When riding in the car, if you can say: put the forgotten things on my side, it will bring you closer to her. But if these behaviors are not used properly, they will be self-defeating.
& lt create an accident >
Mystery is very important to women. Men who meet by chance are more attractive to women than men introduced by others or known in the workplace. If this accidental situation happens repeatedly, women will be convinced of the existence of fate. But can they create a second chance? In fact, this is something that everyone can do. If you want to meet a girl anyway, you can check her commuting route and other related matters in detail, so it will be much easier to create a second chance. It is much easier to accept that women are successful men. Women always pay attention to the essential existence of men's true colors, so when they understand that men's true colors are not their favorite types, most people will take the opportunity to escape. It's better to make some changes if it can meet her preferences. In addition, excellent memory is a characteristic of women. Some men forget a sentence, but women remember it clearly, so you must remember everything you said to her.
& lt What kind of gift does she want? & gt
In terms of gifts, if a girlfriend likes small items, she can give a ring, a watch or flowers. If she likes big items, you can send big dolls or large and numerous bouquets to win her favor. Generally speaking, people who like small items are mostly mature people, because these items can be placed within their control. So most women who like big dolls are still a little childish, so she may haunt her boyfriend when she is happy. However, it is also possible that after she is tired of hugging dolls, she doesn't want to hug you anymore. In this regard, women who like small items seem to be more likely to cultivate long-term love, although it will cost you more.
& lt Shortcut for Kissing >
There is a principle when kissing a woman, that is, to press her against the wall. Women can find the steps against the wall because I can't hide (-yes! ! If you want to kiss a girl, give her a step, even if it is similar to "strong kiss", it is very easy to succeed! What you can't escape and avoid is a very important factor psychologically. Before you want to become an expert in erotic hunting, you must be familiar with all kinds of techniques and understand the psychology of women in order to win the final victory. Finally, when choosing a bar or restaurant, you'd better choose one with steps, because it will give you more excuses to get close to her. If you can hold her hand, it will make her peel off a layer of defense, and everything left in front of you is right.
& lt If you give in to women's words or attitudes too much, you are sure to fail >
Women are cute and scary animals. The main difference between men and women is that they both have two kinds of personalities. They look quite gentle on the surface, but they can be said to be evil at heart. Men who are not good at pursuing women easily succumb to this horror. Men who are not used to facing such women will succumb to women's words or smiles and become indecisive.
& lt How to pursue a more intellectual and emotional girl? & gt
Generally speaking, women can be divided into two types. One is infatuation with men who can put themselves above others, and the other is infatuation with men who always belittle themselves. Men who are not good at understanding women always beautify women, so they can't directly put forward objective opinions. On the contrary, if they are good at communicating with women, even if they say something unpleasant, they will be flushed and breathless, and there will often be some good things around them.
& lt Sometimes you might as well spoil her >
Of course, it is best for men and women to have the same personality. There are often two people in the world who are called "a match made in heaven". These people had many similarities before they met. When they live together,
There are also many similarities. In fact, if men and women can complement each other, it is also a good combination. Women who are bosses often show their strong side to others in order to prove their income. If your date is like this, you might as well find a chance to act like a spoiled brat in turn. For a woman with strong self-esteem, it is easier to catch her heart. What these girls say and do are basically the same. The most important thing is to satisfy her self-esteem, so sometimes you might as well play the slave of love. When you get along with these women, as long as you remember the principle of never disagreeing with her, it will be unexpectedly easy to pursue them and will be an ideal object.
Do this gentle behavior, don't be too deliberate, you should seize the opportunity and do it with a calm mind. It is very important if you can smile kindly at dogs and kittens, or show love for flowers and grass. At this time, she will feel that you have such feelings for these little things, and your feelings for women are beyond doubt. At the same time, she will also make sure that you are a very gentle man. In this way, you are half successful.
& lt The sea and sunset are the best combination to seduce women >
Women have longed for water since ancient times (yes, the best place for dating is the sunset by the sea! ! )。 In most romantic songs, it seems that the sun is not set at noon, and there is no one who is not immersed in sadness because he sees the sunset at the seaside. A relationship must be immersed in sadness first, and only when you feel a person's loneliness can you appreciate the taste of feelings. If a woman agrees with this scene, she will agree with this emotion.
& lt Give her dreams in communication >
Some people think that girls are easy to be cheated, but is this really the case? In fact, even if a girl is cheated, she will have a willing idea. So when a well-dressed man appears in front of them, these girls are likely to gamble their luck according to their own wishes. So the most important thing is that you should give each other some dreams. At first, you can't change your attitude or commitment to approach her. To be clear, you should give her dreams. If you keep her dream, your relationship will be deeper.
If your girlfriend yawns lightly on a date, it's not that she is tired, but that you say she is tired of you (be careful in this short period, it's important to know whether a woman is impatient with you), or that she slightly signals you to pay attention to the time on your watch, indicating that she already wants to go home. If her thoughts are strong, then she may show that she always looks around at your behavior. At this time, you probably don't exist in her heart. If a woman is with the man she loves, she often doesn't care about her surroundings. If these women are self-centered, it's not too much, but if women look to other things, you should be prepared to end this relationship at any time. If women say "men are really annoying", many women like to add the word "annoying" after a sentence. But in this usage, there are two different meanings that deserve attention. When "hate" is generally used to express it, if it is not very close, it often appears in men and women who are very close. Then the other person may give you a contemptuous look in silence, so if a woman is willing to talk to you, your intimacy will increase in comparison. In order to increase intimacy, you have to show her your masculinity as soon as possible, but if a man makes a woman feel unclean, it is likely to make her flinch.
& lt Observe women by talking & gt；;
What kind of person is she? If she is a person who can talk nonstop, it is easy to make people wonder what is going on in her mind. Humans always want others to take a look at themselves, so both men and women always arrange their appearance properly, but their appearance is not complete enough, so through dialogue, others can know themselves better. Women whose voices change quickly, they will express their inner excitement with their voices, and speaking softly is also a type that can make people enjoy it. However, you should pay special attention to women who talk like neighbors. She may be extremely jealous, on the contrary, a woman with low sound quality may be more masculine.
& lt Women who often listen to walkman are more self-centered & gt；;
Recently, you can often see some women wearing walkman on the bus. In fact, some of these women who use headphones to suppress their hearing are actually trying to escape loneliness and immerse themselves in the music world. However, some women are willing to take off their headphones for men, but this requires considerable vigilance, because this is one of the types of self-centered people.
& lt Women are usually attracted by [first impressions].
It has been reported that women should be careful about their first impression of (-), and many people died at this point! ! ) Men with beards have a higher opinion than men without beards. Appearance, posture and clothes are all important factors that determine the first impression. If these first impressions are not brought into play, it will be bad. Usually, the first impression given by appearance is deeply embedded in the other person's heart, so the first impression is very important. If a man can pay attention to his attitude towards clothes at ordinary times, he will win in love.
Wish you success! ! ! !