Tigers and wolves always walk alone, but cattle and sheep only travel in groups.

A truly capable person will not make friends everywhere.

In their world, a person's solitude is far better than a group of people's carnival.

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Truly capable people rarely place their hopes on others. They often place their hopes on themselves, work silently, and achieve counterattacks.

Growing up, we often hear this saying: "Rely on your parents at home, and rely on friends when going out." "Multiple friends, multiple paths." Constantly expand your "circle of friends" and make friends that look like Being able to help your noble people has become something that many people strive for.

In order to flatter and please the leader, some people go to great lengths to do what they like, pretend to be positive at work, and always "encounter" the leader by chance during commuting to and from get off work, in an attempt to leave the impression of being diligent and motivated.

In private, the leader’s personal hobbies are clearly understood. If the leader likes fishing, he quickly makes himself a senior “fishing friend”. If the leader likes running, then he makes himself a “fishing friend”. "Athletes", in order to be able to get closer and closer to the leaders.

Spending a lot of thought and time to please the boss, or to integrate into the small circles formed by colleagues, the result is just "a familiar face". If you don't have real skills, over time, you will Others can only treat others in a polite manner. When you encounter opportunities for promotion and salary increase, you will not be voted for.

But truly capable people are often not “social”. Rather than being keen on interpersonal communication, they spend all their time and energy studying business.

For example, as a secretary who writes materials for leaders, people who really want to make some achievements are always in a process of learning and accumulation. They read books, newspapers, and collect and organize materials every day. , or even make good titles a compulsory course, and organize and archive them in categories. Once I need to write my own materials, I can always innovate from the old to the content, which is both practical and high-level, with high literary talent. They no longer just "obey the leadership's arrangements", but in terms of education and ideological cognition, they are in line with the leadership's thinking, and can even influence the leadership's thinking.

In the end, they will stand out by virtue of their ability to write and become people whom leaders rely on and trust.

In the workplace, the quickest way to no longer be "controlled by others" is to become an independent person with skills that others cannot match.

In order to achieve this goal, it is necessary to work a hundred times harder than ordinary people, to be able to sit on the bench, to endure loneliness, and to stay in the deserted world. Let yourself shine through polishing over and over again.

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Really capable people rarely make friends. It does not mean that they have no friends, but they are looking for better people to be friends with.

The ancients said, "The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship between villains is as sweet as sweet wine."

Truly capable people pursue friendship between gentlemen and quality. friends.

When a person understands that the life he wants is completely different from the goals pursued by most people around him, his words and deeds will appear to be very "alternative", with a feeling of "standing out from the crowd".

In the face of everyone’s doubts, some people firmly follow the path they want to take. When people around them can no longer give them positive energy, or the guidance and help they want, they will become self-conscious. Maintain a distant relationship with those around you. And because I feel isolated, I will never force myself to go back to the past in a panic, forcing myself to say boring things or do things that I think are boring.

They will find some equally matched friends for themselves on the road to pursuing higher goals in life.

For example, a person loves broadcasting. Although he is not a major, he has a good voice. He has been studying hard in his spare time, and gradually embarked on the road of getting paid by broadcasting. Through this hobby, I have met many capable people. On the one hand, I strive to catch up, and on the other hand, I rely on my own talents to attract those who appreciate me and become friends.

Of course, on the way forward, there will always be people coming and going. As long as you can persist, those quality friends around you will continue to change. In the end, you may still have few friends, but the few friends must be the ones who understand you best and appreciate you very much.

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For truly capable people, it is no big deal if they are not popular.

When people are in the workplace, there will always be disputes over interests and entanglements. If you are too good or too bad, you will not be very popular. Those who are truly capable are those who dare to be themselves. Perhaps they are too "selfish" and they often do not have "good popularity".

In fact, whether it is work or career, it is all about making our lives better.

If you become a working machine, if you give up everything for your career, even if you make a lot of money and achieve great material success, the person who can share your success may not be you all the time. Those people I miss so much.

A person’s true success requires time, patience, and ability to accompany his family and grow old hand in hand with his loved ones. Running your own small family well is the greatest success.

Some people seem to be cold and lonely, with few friends in their lives. But outside of work, he is a gentle lover, a competent parent, and a filial son. His days are always filled with warmth and happiness.

On the road of life, I hope you will follow the guidance of your heart, do what you want to do, and love the person you want to love while you are still young and in your prime.

Don’t care too much about other people’s opinions, and don’t succumb to secular power. Even if a person walks alone, he never feels lonely or at a loss.

Author: As light as the wind and as light as the clouds.

Your happiness is my blessing.

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