For "puppy love", there are corresponding studies in China and the West. According to a survey in China, about 30% of middle school students aged 13- 17 admitted having close friends of the opposite sex, and 7-8% of them admitted puppy love. In fact, the proportion of heterosexual communication should be higher, because some people hide the facts because they don't want others to know their psychology, because they haven't psychologically realized that heterosexual communication is a normal behavior, but at the same time, we can't deny that some middle school students do have a sense of love because of precocity, seeking warmth and avoiding loneliness. It is their reason to have someone to talk to, and we will also see a phenomenon, in the street and in the park. They are holding hands, shoulder to shoulder, behaving inappropriately, and some people even make out in public places like no one's watching. Advice and guidance to parents and teachers should be ignored. In this regard, educators and parents have a heavy feeling in their hearts. Parents and teachers are thinking about how to make children grow up smoothly. However, in view of all kinds of phenomena, while teachers and parents are thinking, should some students reflect on themselves?
Sexual maturity is a natural phenomenon, but it is not uncontrollable. Everyone has sense, self-discipline and moral values, so do middle school students. Some students are too self-indulgent and willful to listen to other people's suggestions. These are the reasons why "puppy love" cannot be eliminated. So teenagers should have a clear consciousness: 1. Adolescence is a period when everyone is accumulating knowledge and increasing social experience. It is the main theme of this period to prioritize and learn to enrich yourself. Moreover, at this time, everyone is not completely independent psychologically, and the economy depends on parents, and there is no condition for dating at all. In this period, because everyone's thinking ability and observation ability are limited, the understanding of a person can only rely on the surface. At this time, the choice of friends of the opposite sex is relatively simple, and the choice when a person is really mature will be far from the choice at this time. A puppy love girl likes a male classmate just because "he dares to contradict the teacher, but she dare not", and his image is thus "tall". The result of psychological immaturity is immature choice. 3. The personality quality of middle school students is still unstable and in the process of continuous development. How to grasp the life choice of continuous development of personality quality?
Sixteen or seventeen years old is a gorgeous season. Everyone has a beautiful story, which is the scenery of this season. But please don't forget that you are an excellent helmsman in the boat of life. Only by mastering yourself can we have a more brilliant tomorrow. Middle school students, please go!
Responder: Bing Lan T Tong V- Trainee Magician Level 311-1610: 29.
The so-called puppy love, that is, puppy love, is an out-of-control behavior. The problem of puppy love among middle school students is causing widespread concern in society. The survey shows that the age of puppy love among middle school students tends to advance. If the countermeasures are strong and the governance is improper, the trend of further spread can be stopped, which can not but arouse our attention and deep thought.
Middle school students are stimulated by sexual germination internally and influenced by social fashion externally. They like to make friends and value friendship. Boys and girls like to go hiking, boating and celebrating birthdays together. They are eager to make close friends. They can pour out their inner troubles, gain sincere understanding and seek spiritual comfort. * * * They can explore the mysteries of life and learn from the difficulties in learning. This normal communication between boys and girls is a pure friendship. As long as it is guided correctly, it will have an immeasurable positive effect on the psychological stability and personality improvement of teenagers. This precious friendship should be seriously cherished-strongly advocated. If the normal communication between boys and girls is regarded as "improper behavior", if boys and girls get along alone or have frequent contact, the association of "romance" can only arouse the great disgust of middle school students.
Once middle school students fall in love, it is often difficult to restrain their emotional impulses. Once they express their love for each other, they will immediately get close to each other, often because love takes up a lot of study time and distracts their energy, which seriously affects their study and progress. Most of them began to be indifferent to group activities, exerted centrifugal force on the group and gradually alienated from their classmates. Coupled with the pressure of public opinion and the opposition of parents and teachers, dog lovers often feel guilty, burdened with ideological burdens, full of contradictions and worries. This situation has caused psychological obstacles to students' physical and mental development.
Puppy love among middle school students is often intense and vague. The reasons for falling in love are often extremely simple and have no solid ideological foundation. For example, some are out of curiosity and mystery about the opposite sex; Some judge people by their appearance and are attracted by each other's appearance and demeanor; Have a plenty of envy each other's knowledge and talent; Some people have a good impression on each other because of accidental meeting, and so on. They don't realize that the consistency of thoughts and feelings is the foundation of true love, and the consistency of ideas, beliefs and sentiments is the most important factor to determine the success of love. Middle school students' thoughts are not fixed, so they can't think deeply about these complicated factors scientifically, and they can't really know whether they are really consistent in these aspects. Puppy love among middle school students is like sailing into the sea without a compass and rudder, which hides the danger of hitting the rocks and sinking at any time. Therefore, the puppy love of middle school students not only has a very low success rate, but also a weak will may be cast into a lifelong crime.
Middle school is the period of laying the foundation, and there is no orientation for what career to engage in in in the future. For every middle school student, the road of life in the future is still very long, and it is difficult to predict what career and where to work in the future. A mature young man always considers starting a career before starting a family. And with the passage of time and the change of life, everyone's thoughts and feelings will constantly change. The vows of eternal love in middle school often cannot stand the severe test of real life. Nine times out of ten, puppy love in middle school can't bear the sweet fruit of love, but can only lead to the bitter wine of life.
Middle school students are imitative and have great influence on each other. Puppy love often has the nature of "epidemic" and is easy to infect each other. The behavior of puppy love will become a bad incentive to stimulate the students around. In a class, once puppy love becomes common, the collective will lose its cohesion and combat effectiveness. Therefore, the head teacher must follow the basic principles of adolescent education, prevent the occurrence of puppy love and solve the problem of puppy love in time.
Respect and care, positive guidance.
Puppy love students should never be discriminated against. We should understand and respect their feelings, win their trust on the basis of understanding, approach them with caring attitude and help them. Without this "love of education" as a link, the hearts of teachers and students will not be able to communicate, and the hearts of students who are already closed will be blocked more tightly. Some class teachers regard puppy love as a "big violation of discipline". Once they find out which student has puppy love behavior, they take "emergency measures", such as publicly criticizing by name or implying criticism without name, ordering inspection and withholding letters, breaking off diplomatic relations within a time limit, and even frequently denouncing it as "improper style" and "bad ideological quality", or humiliating students in public with ironic language, or complaining to parents, and strictly disciplining them. This simple and rude treatment greatly hurts students' self-esteem and makes lovelorn students feel depressed and depressed. It may prompt some students with vague understanding and poor psychological endurance to commit suicide for "double suicide" and run away for "elopement". More students are rebellious. The more they oppose it, the more determined they are, the more forbidden they are, and the more they talk.