I heard that young people of this generation like to find "accompaniments". "You can live without love, but you can't live without a partner!" This is the latest description of contemporary young people's relationship with partners.
I heard that "hook-up friendship" is very popular recently. Tiezi is a new type of social relationship that is less important than friends and more important than colleagues. It focuses on precise companionship in vertical subdivisions. A well-matched couple is like an old couple at work, with a tacit understanding, lightness and no burden.
Da zi (da zi) was originally a tool used by folk to put on the shoulders. But what Generation Z young people call "partnering" is a new type of social relationship: two or more people who have the same hobbies or needs at a certain moment or in a certain field can regularly engage in some activities together. This is how they describe Taizi: less important than friends, more important than colleagues or classmates, focusing on precise companionship in a vertical segment.
A partner does not necessarily refer to one person, but may also be a group of people. The relationship with them may be one-time or long-term. When dealing with a partner, we don't need to spend time and energy maintaining the relationship like friends, nor do we need to be fully and truly involved in each other's lives.
They often only appear in specific situations. For example, "rice partners" appear in scenes such as dining and visiting stores; "study partners" often appear in various situations such as postgraduate entrance examinations, public examinations, and teaching qualification examinations. In various exams; "game hookups" appear in various games such as Honor of Kings, Genshin Impact, PlayerUnknown's Battlegrounds, etc.; "star chasing hookups" often appear on mutual benefit stages and among fans of the same Idol... It can be said that everything is possible take.
Some people say that hookups are like "fast food friendships" in the Internet age, a fragmented friendship and a "substitute version" of intimate relationships. Although the nutritional value is not high, it can be "full" and convenient. We don’t need to expect our partners to be consistent with our three views, nor do we need to be consistent with each other, nor do we need to pay extra attention to them. We only need to maintain communication and interaction with them in areas of interest.
Rice meal. On those days when a partner doesn't come, it doesn't feel good to go to the cafeteria to eat.
Have a nap. A camp bed was set up under the desk. "My husband and I are not even that close."
Milk tea pairing. It feels good to get the lowest minimum and get free discounts, and try new products together.
Toilet support. Just like primary school students, they have to hold hands when going to the toilet in the company.
Taking advantage of others. Online for a limited time and lost contact after get off work. "Last week I took a day off, and my nasolabial folds were not stuck on my face that day because I didn't smile the whole day."
Get off work on time. son. Don’t dare to move until the leader leaves? It doesn’t matter, Taizi and I shut down the phone and ejected from work together.
This generation of young people have to find a partner for everything they do
A substitute for an intimate relationship
Compared with a true intimate relationship, a partner With a lower "cost" and less risk, it can indeed be called a substitute for an intimate relationship. Therefore, you can see netizens looking for various partners online -
Having a partner with similar interests can liven up a boring work meal or make it boring. It is a small blessing to have something to look forward to and a partner to work with.
Of course, the pain of losing a partner also exists. "The person I had lunch with at work has lost his job. Who knows the pain?" A netizen shared his feelings about losing his meal partner online. His emotional cry made people feel the same, and also made other netizens express their feelings. Turn on sharing mode. Some people say that the scariest thing is to lose your partner when you get to work. Some people say that losing your partner is more painful than falling out of love. Some people say that a strong worker can endure the hardships in the workplace, but cannot bear the absence of his partner. It hurts, and even eating doesn’t taste good anymore. Who understands?
They are even different when they have a "match" and when they don't have a "match", so that when they lose their "match", their enthusiasm for resignation will skyrocket.
You don’t have to be in love, but you can’t have a partner
Do relationships with partners also come in stages?
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Take Fandaizi as an example. Depending on the degree of fit, it can be roughly divided into three stages.
In the initial stage, "rice partner" is most similar to its original meaning of "eating together". It doesn’t matter whether your taste is sweet or salty, whether you are a pasta fan or a rice lover, or even if you bring food from home and he orders takeout. As long as you are willing to sit down and eat together, everyone is good company.
However, relationships at this stage are also fragile. Once someone's status changes, the rice combinations will be rearranged.
After the initial stage of understanding, choice, and running-in, the friendship between the fans will gradually advance and enter a new stage. At this time, the communication between the friends began to slowly extend to the personal realm: when they saw their favorite food or restaurant, they would share it with each other; even outside of study or work, they would meet to check in. In the advanced stage, food partners need each other, respect each other, make appropriate concessions, and jointly develop a new map of gourmet food.
And what is the ultimate stage of a meal, that is, the most ideal state? Some netizens concluded: It is necessary not only to have the same taste, dining habits, economic level, and good money, but also to have synchronized topics, synchronized geographical locations, and synchronized free time. It's almost impossible to find a partner who meets all the criteria. Wandering between the advanced stage and the ideal stage is the normal state of friendship; getting as close to each other as possible is the meaning of happiness.
Recently, in Lishui, Zhejiang, three white-haired old ladies met at a restaurant and chatted while eating. The laughter was healing. Netizens laughed and said: "Isn't this the most ideal stage to have a meal?" "When my best friend gets older"...
Need each other but are independent of each other
There is a reason why "shallow social interaction" is popular among young people
Why Is "hook-up friendship" so widely popular among young people? Some people do it out of hobbies, some do it to relieve loneliness, and some people think that finding a hookup is synonymous with a serious life. In short, some people believe that re-establishing an intimate relationship in the fast-paced life consumes too much time and energy. Getting along with a partner can not only enjoy each other's company, but also maintain "low dependence" emotionally, without any pressure. Investing in their own lives largely satisfies the social needs of "needing each other but being independent from each other". Because of this, they often use "relaxation" to describe their relationship with their partner.
Pan Helin, co-director and researcher of the Digital Economy and Financial Innovation Research Center of the International Business School of Zhejiang University, said that the popularity of "hook-up friendship" is synchronized with the increase in the "single rate" of young people, and so on. "Shallow social interaction" can effectively alleviate loneliness. In addition, there is also the phenomenon of "niche cultural tribes" among young people. Various subcultures bring different groups of people together, which is also the reason. He concluded that although "hook-up friendship" is difficult to develop into a mainstream social model in society, its existence is reasonable because many urban young people lack the opportunity and time to have in-depth contact with each other.
It is worth noting that some young people do not regard hookup as a "second best" option. Many young people believe that even if they have a stable intimate relationship in the future, they will not "abandon" or alienate their partner. This social model is still a proof of "maintaining oneself".
The existence of a partner does not affect our search for a "soul mate" or the establishment of other intimate relationships. What's more, when both people feel comfortable with the relationship, a partner will also It may be "upgraded" and transformed into other intimate relationships, becoming friends or lovers. On Weibo, a topic derived from the topic #的 Ideas: Use the method of finding a "rice partner" to go on a blind date has been a hot search topic.
For young people, forming partners through the Internet, making friends, etc., exploring things of interest together, and simply being healed by each other's precise companionship makes life more comfortable and self-consistent. This is The meaning of tie-in relationship.