If I were in my twenties, I would probably change myself to fit in with others. But after I reached the age of thirty, I gradually understood that people should make their lives more comfortable, and I was unwilling to change myself to cater to others.

In fact, life is short, why should we live in the eyes of others? Your own happiness is the most important.

There is a saying that "the truth is often in the hands of a few people". Being out of sync does not mean that you are wrong. On the contrary, it may be that the three views of that group of people are incorrect. Therefore, there is no need for us to force ourselves to join them. The most important thing is to be ourselves.

Everyone has their own personality characteristics. Some people are good at sociability, while some people are naturally not sociable. This actually doesn't matter, just follow your heart.

1. Being gregarious and not gregarious actually has little impact on the development of your career.

In fact, the key to a person's development is to rely on his own ability, his own love and study for his career, and it has little to do with the quality of his interpersonal relationships.

To give an example that we all know, Guo Degang and Yu Qian.

This pairing should be considered the most successful in the cross talk circle right now. Guo Degang is an introvert and not good at sociability, while Yu Qian is an extrovert and it is best to make friends.

Can you say that Guo Degang’s career was unsuccessful?

Some people say that Guo Degang also has many friends. In fact, if we take a closer look, we will find that Guo Degang’s so-called friends only came after his career became successful. He had no friends when he was down and out. However, he succeeded because of his persistence.

As for Yu Qian, a person who likes to make friends, does his success have much to do with those friends? I'm afraid it's not too big, but the advantage of having friends is that he always has friends to help him and has never starved to death.

2. There is no need to force yourself. In addition to doing your job well, make yourself happier.

Many people think that when entering a new environment, they must be gregarious. In fact, I don’t think it’s necessary. Colleagues are colleagues. Just keep the relationship with your colleagues within a normal range. There is no need to mingle.

If you are not a person who likes to join in the fun, there is no need to force yourself to socialize. Rather than making yourself and the other party uncomfortable, it is better to strengthen your professional abilities and make yourself irreplaceable.

When young people first enter the workplace, they always want to get along well with everyone, and then they inevitably force themselves to be gregarious.

In fact, this is not necessary. If you are not a person who likes fun, then don’t join in the fun.

The key is to save your time and add value to yourself. When you become irreplaceable in the workplace, others will come back and join your group.