At what time did you tell yourself that it was good to be alone?
There is a kind of chicken soup for the soul that always tells you to live for yourself. But some people may lose friends if they follow their hearts too much.
Since I was a child, my friends around me have commented on me very well. In the final analysis, it all comes from flattering personality. I am particularly easy to integrate into the collective, and I also take the initiative to approach those who are weak. But once separated for some objective reasons, I stopped contacting others. In my feeling, any active communication will disturb each other, and slowly, I lost contact. At first, some friends will come to you, but if you don't get feedback all the time, these friends will gradually stop seeing each other.
Of course I know that friends are used to getting into trouble with each other, but I just can't. I just want to pay, and my friendship seems to be based on constantly paying for land. This concept makes it impossible for me to rely on others naturally. For those who like and want to associate, they are generally calm inside. And these people are just shining people in our eyes, and there is no shortage of friends around them.
I have always called this way of making friends passive. I don't know if there is anyone like me, but I am sure that people with inferiority complex have similar troubles. They always feel that they are not worthy of such good friends in life. Even if I get it by accident, I will lose it all by accident, and I still feel that I don't deserve such a good friend in my bones.
There is a voice echoing in your mind. If you are not good enough, you should be content. And whenever you encounter setbacks and failures, this echo will be louder than before.
I am very afraid of failure. But I can't avoid failure. This idea is like opening an egg from the outside, and all you get is yolk and egg white. If you want to get a new life, you must open it from the inside out. When the eggshell breaks open, the moment you see the dawn is the moment of growth.
At that moment, it is a time to accept and forgive yourself.
In life, where there is perfection, there are mistakes. Treat yourself as the object of flattery, treat yourself fairly, put yourself in your own shoes and think for yourself at the same time. Encourage yourself more, so that you can actively embrace the world instead of blindly avoiding trouble.
If you take a long-term view, you can take the present mistakes lightly and let yourself go.
Life without self-confidence can only be called survival. Nobody wants to live like that, including yourself. So let yourself face life confidently, so that you can understand what you want and what you don't want, so that you can fight for it and turn passivity into initiative.