In a sense, "popularity" is the support point for a person to settle down. With "good popularity", many ideas in life design can be realized; Without "good popularity", you will be frustrated everywhere and never accomplish anything.
So, how can we have "good popularity"?
First, there must be tolerance.
There is a smiling Maitreya in Xindu Temple in Chengdu, Sichuan. There are couplets on both sides of the Buddha: a big belly can accommodate things that are difficult in the world; I often laugh when I open my mouth and laugh at ridiculous people in the world. This couplet is very intriguing.
In this world, unhappy things often happen in nine cases out of ten. Interpersonal entanglement is intertwined. The world is full of flavor, bittersweet, complicated, constantly cutting, rational and chaotic. What should we do?
One way is to "narrow the road to the enemy", which is petty and miserable; Another method; Obviously disgusted, the solution is not appropriate; "Meet with a smile and forget the enmity." Undoubtedly, the latter attitude is commendable.
Second, be kind.
When dealing with interpersonal relationships, we should not treat others with an embarrassing and narrow mind, and "grievances must be reported." Don't be jealous when others succeed. When others encounter misfortune, you can't gloat and throw stones at them, let alone "desperately".
Third, we should have a good relationship and pay attention to human feelings.
Caring and caring for people; Respect and understand others. When people get along with each other, they should reduce the "smell of gunpowder" and increase the human touch.
Eager for public interest and kindness. Everyone has three disasters and six difficulties, five injuries and six tuberculosis. People can eat whole grains without some difficulties and illnesses. It will be a great thing that you can be considerate of others when they are in the most difficult time, be anxious about others' urgency, lend a hand of friendship and solve problems for others.
As the saying goes, "it is better to accumulate wealth than virtue." Do good deeds and accumulate virtues, and you will live a long life. In the old days, there was a couplet in the Old Town God Temple, which said well: "Be a good person and learn from ghosts and gods;" If you do something good, your body will be safe and your dreams will be stable. " Seriously!
Fourth, to have a good relationship, you must be honest with people.
Honesty is the second virtue of human beings. In the tribes of ancient primitive people, lying was severely punished.
When dealing with interpersonal relationships, it should be' sincerity, integrity, honesty, no concealment, no tricks'.
Don't put on armor and masks to "act" on the stage of life; It can't be Rainbow's Xifeng,' honey mouth is poisonous, two-faced, laughing at it and stumbling under her feet.'
Light is fire, and darkness is a knife, which accounts for all. Nor can it be like Xue Baochai, who is "taciturn, stupid, self-reliant at any time", pleasing on all sides, exquisite on all sides, shrewd and used to scheming. Integrity, but also have some chivalry and softhearted, aboveboard, open-minded; People feel like spring breeze, so that they can have a good popularity.
Fifth, if you want to be popular, you must be close to "good popularity."
Sometimes you may feel that so-and-so is very popular in the company, and the leaders like him, and colleagues like him and are very popular. And some people are few people he likes, and he doesn't like others; He doesn't have many friends. It's just that the popularity is very poor, just like social dislike. In fact, this is what we often call "welcome" and "dislike". They were originally psychological terms, used to express the degree to which a member of a society was accepted by other members. We use them as interpersonal language, which is also very telling.
Generally speaking, everyone likes "popularity" for different reasons: either because he is honest and trustworthy; Or because he is calm, sophisticated and practical; Or because he is alert, flexible and good at interpersonal relationships: even because he has the right to have money, power and so on.
In a word, he is recognized or accepted by most people in one aspect or many aspects.
When you choose friends and build your own personal network, you'd better choose' Everyone', which will make the relationship between' Everyone' and you better and better.
Can absorb "popularity" into your interpersonal network. Let it be your best friend, virtually greatly enhancing the energy of your interpersonal network. If your network is all made up of popularity, then the energy of your network will be enormous. In addition, making friends with people will inspire you, learn many ways to make friends, and win everyone's attention.
Make more friends, make good friends and establish a good interpersonal network; When you go out, you depend on your friends. When you have more friends, you can walk easily. When you succeed, you can help each other and soar.
This is just my own experience and some views on accessing information, hoping to help everyone.