Think about it. At every stage, from primary school to junior high school, high school and university, people we know start from strangers, then gradually become familiar with each other, and finally get to know each other, have a heart-to-heart, become friends and even become best friends.

in the first stage, it's called politeness. When we first met strangers, because we were not familiar with each other and couldn't let go of ourselves, we always seemed particularly polite in our communication, and we would spend all our life's politeness in communicating with each other, because we subconsciously kept our distance from each other and hoped that we could leave a good impression in front of strangers. Therefore, those who are grumpy will be gentle and gentle, and those who are sloppy will try their best to keep clean and tidy. You have to be lively and cheerful, and you should properly show your shyness and reserve. This is a normal psychological stage.

In the second stage, its name is familiarity. After a period of communication, it is bound to gradually become familiar with each other, understand each other's names, have a simple understanding of each other's personality, and have a little understanding of each other's personality. In this process, how can you gradually open your heart and become familiar with each other, and you will not use too many honorifics when talking, and it will become natural to communicate and get along with each other's personality characteristics?

in the third stage, its name is understanding. Familiarity doesn't mean understanding. It's just like we use computers every day. Although we are familiar with the operation of computers, we don't know every component of computers. Familiarity is only a superficial understanding of each other, leaving aside strangeness, but it doesn't mean that you really understand the essence of a person. Otherwise, understanding is a deeper understanding of a person's character and thoughts.

in the last stage, its name is heart-to-heart, so-called friends are bound to have spiritual communication, which is likely to be reserved, but it is impossible to have no spiritual communication at all. It is also in this process that everyone can really let go of their psychological barriers and guard against it, really walk into each other's hearts, say the truth, and talk about topics that they would not normally talk to other people who are familiar with each other.

If you want to be best friends, you need to communicate at a higher level. You should not only get to know each other, but also have a heart and soul, have the same ideals, share the same interests, be able to give your back to each other with complete confidence, and experience life and death together without changing the true color of their friendship. This requires a very strict test. So Changzhi's friends are very advanced and rare, and the number is natural.

This is the process of becoming friends with a stranger after various psychological changes, but at various stages. It can be seen that it is not easy to become friends. Therefore, after becoming friends, we should cherish each other's friendship, help each other in the same boat, support each other, take care of each other, and walk out of a broad road of life.