Friendship can be exclusive.

I think we are still not mature enough. This kind of exclusivity only exists among younger students or people who are not mentally mature enough. When I was in middle school and high school, friends who were close to me, including myself, would secretly calculate whether she would be nicer to her than to me.

This kind of calculation will become super obvious when the number of people playing together in the girl circle reaches an odd number. When high school is busy with studies, we write small notes to each other to comfort each other, saying "You are my best" None of my friends wrote so fast that it flew into the air. After I went to college, I had a good relationship with a girl. She seemed to be as gentle as water to everyone, and everyone around her liked her quite a lot. But as someone who went to and from get out of class with her, washed and ate with her every day and considered herself her best friend, I felt that she was her best friend. I will also feel very uncomfortable.

When she was voice chatting with others, I would deliberately make a lot of noise and talk to her loudly. When others are chatting with her and laughing happily, I will sit on the bed alone and get sulky. At this time, I will feel that I am really annoying, and I will ask myself: Do you like socializing so much? Is it so important to have everyone’s approval?

But it’s okay to have so many dark thoughts. Don’t feel guilty. Give yourself a little more time, and you will help yourself deal with these gloomy and negative emotions, and then the whole person will become brighter and better as time goes by.

For most people, intimate relationships will be exclusive, whether it is love, family, or friendship. This is also normal, just like when you are a child, you don’t like other people to touch your toys. When you grow up, , if you don’t use an item for a long time, you almost forget it exists, but once someone else borrows it, you will inexplicably need this item. It can be said to be a manifestation of possessiveness. This kind of exclusivity can be appropriate and cannot be excessive, otherwise it will deteriorate.