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1? I thought I had found a reliable man

"What was the happiest trip you had with your family?"

This question from my friend opened the curtain of my memories.

I am a person who lives in the present, and I don't like recalling the past very much.

However, this question still took me back to the past along a long time line.

when I was a child, I never traveled.

Mom and Dad are very busy at work. The only trip I remember most clearly was in the fifth grade of primary school. I won the title of story king in the county, and the organizing committee arranged for the winners to take a trip to Hengshan, Hunan.

But considering that my father was having a meeting in Changsha at that time, my mother promised to take my brother, my grandfather and me to Changsha to find my father when I graduated from the fifth grade.

Then, our family of five went to Hengshan Mountain in Nanyue.

because it's too small, only a few pictures were left on this trip.

For example, I wanted to eat an ice-lolly, but my mother said it was not clean, and my grandfather secretly bought one for me in the back.

For example, in Hengshan Mountain, Nanyue, we walked for a long time, but we couldn't get around, so my mother talked a few words.

Later, I had a stomachache, so my mother must have made a mistake, apologized quickly and made amends, and then miraculously stopped hurting;

What's more, Hengshan Mountain is very big and difficult to climb. On both sides of the stairs leading to the worse gate, there are all beggars begging. The scene is spectacular, and I was frightened at that time.

This is my only memory of playing with my parents when I was a child.

The second real trip will be the summer vacation before the postgraduate entrance examination.

at that time, my ex-husband and I fell in love.

We started from Changsha to Wuhan, and then went to Tianzhu Mountain in Anhui with friends from Wuhan.

The trip was very relaxing and pleasant. My ex-husband's words laid the foundation for my decision to marry him.

We stayed at his friend's house in Wuhan that night. They slept in the living room and I slept in the bedroom.

They were chatting with each other. A friend asked her boyfriend, "What would you do if Nana didn't get into graduate school? She is not a native of Changsha. "

In the mid-199s, hukou was a magical thing, which prevented many young people from getting together.

My boyfriend said, "Then I'll rent a facade and let her do some small business, and I can still make a living."

I never thought about doing small business, but my boyfriend's unpretentious answer made people feel very at ease.

at that time, I was glad to find a trustworthy and reliable man.

Of course, I didn't expect that it was his complacency that became the fundamental reason for our differences later.

At that time, there was a temple on the mountain, and there was an old monk in it, who could read the divination.

I also drew a lot at that time, and I vaguely remember what he said.

It probably means that I am a woman who is easy to listen to others. If I want to live a stable life, I have to make no friends with anyone and just follow my husband honestly.

at that time, I was particularly puzzled.

now that I think about it, the old monk should have seen my lively nature and restless and experimental heart, so he gave me advice.

I like fortune telling, but I belong to the kind of person who listens to the good and forgets the bad.

so, I remember this scene, but I didn't let this sign decide my life.

It's just that at that time, I didn't know who I was, what I wanted and how I could be happy.

2? Only two people traveling around the world

After graduating from my master's degree, I went to Xinzhou, Shanxi Province for three months of military training, which laid my professional foundation.

actually, strictly speaking, this trip is not a trip, but a training.

An outdoor military training activity showed me the west in autumn:

Large tracts of sunflowers;

corn piled into hills in every household;

rows of earth caves built on the hillside;

The plants on the mountain have distinct seasons from bottom to top ...

It's memorable.

On the same day, our brigade started from the base in the early morning and has been wandering around villages and mountains looking for some.

at 7 o'clock in the evening, when night fell, we were lost in the mountains. Several friends climbed a hill and jumped with excitement when they saw the iconic tree on the hillside of the training base.

At that time, there were many hardships and tiredness, but now it's really sweet and sweet to recall, and my mind is overflowing with emotion.

Thank you for that hard journey, which sharpened my will and mind and made me tough and not give up easily.

then, I entered the marriage step by step and gave birth to a child.

now that I think about it, I can't find the happy memories of my trip with my ex-husband.

Only a few times, all the trips were made by large troops, with women taking care of children and men drinking and playing cards. The only difference was to do these things in another place.

I'm tired of this travel mode, and I gradually fade out of the so-called family gathering trip, feeling that I have lost the meaning of traveling.

In the summer vacation of 29, I made a preliminary decision to divorce my ex-husband, but I hesitated to know if my decision was a mistake.

everyone says to see if the other person is suitable, so go on a trip.

So, my ex-husband and I decided to leave our daughter at home and come to go on road trip, Guilin.

this is also our only trip to be alone.

I made careful planning in advance, including various means of transportation, the connection between scenic spots, how to get to the ferry of Lijiang River by raft instead of cruise ship, and so on.

Everything is going well. The scenery in Guangxi is the best in the world, and the Lijiang River is really picturesque.

When I got off the raft, my ex-husband helped me tie the loose shoelaces. The ferryman said to me enviously, "Girl, you have found a good man!"

at that moment, I thought things had turned around and maybe we could start over.

On the evening of West Street, major differences began to appear.

I was full of interest in the night tour in the street. He didn't like to accompany me, so he urged me to go back.

at last, before nine o'clock, the two returned to the hotel.

He is lying in bed watching TV, comfortable and comfortable; I am unwilling, and I feel very boring.

Later, I learned that another group of friends were on the go on road trip route from Guizhou to Hunan. He suggested, "Let's turn around and meet them."

I was disheartened when I looked at the strategy of going to see the terraced fields the next day, which I had prepared on my mobile phone and discussed with him.

I said, "ok, suit yourself."

he may not know that all the pleasant and novel arrangements on the trip were made by me with all my heart.

However, all this is not as good as his brothers who can drink and chat.

if we can't play together, what else can we say?

it was the only and last time that my ex-husband and I traveled alone.

After that, we will negotiate a divorce and live in our own way.

Later, he sent his daughter to the United States. We took her out to play, but we were not very impressed.

after that, there is no after.

So, what was my happiest trip?

3? The whole world is a deep picture in our

mind, slowly emerging from the water and becoming clearer and clearer.

yes, I'm sure that such a trip is worthy of being named "happiest".

It was six years ago that I was a visiting scholar at the University of California and bought a Honda used car.

on weekends, I often drive my daughter to the nearby beaches or outlets, and I always remember the scenes on the way.

it was just me and my daughter in the car.

At that time, she was only 9 years old, holding the iPad in the back seat, and learning to sing English songs of Protestantism in the school loudly. I added a few words from time to time, and two people roared loudly, one after another.

I'll open the window. The traffic outside is exotic, but the car is noisy and boiling, and our laughter and songs float all the way out of the window.

At that time, I really wanted to shout, "Stop time, that's what I want!"

on the way, I feel that the whole world is ours.

Now, all daughters like to travel by car, which may be closely related to this experience.

After returning to China, my daughter and I have devoted ourselves to the busy and competitive study in China, and gradually lost our mentality in the United States.

I often get angry, and the child is patient.

The winter before last, I took her, and the two of us flew to Chengdu, Sichuan, where we borrowed a car and took her to see the Dead Sea in Suining and climb the Xiling Snow Mountain.

Although there were unpleasantness, conflicts and two adolescence, it's strange not to be noisy, but on the whole, it was very pleasant.

I began to adjust myself slowly. If I want to be happy, my children will be happier.

The memories of the later trips began to be happy and interesting.

In recent years, I have visited many places. Compared with cities and human environment, I prefer mountains and rivers to appreciate the mystery of nature.

I flew directly to Lugu Lake and stayed quietly for three days at Huwowo Inn on the edge of Princess Island.

This inn needs to paddle in and out, and when it comes out on a raft three days later, it feels like it's back in the world, and everything is so beautiful.

I also made an appointment with my best friend to go to Tengchong, Yunnan, to see the shooting place of to the sky kingdom.

It is found that the peach blossoms in the field are all plastic, and there are actually only two or three ten-mile peach groves. The Qingqiu Fox Cave in Bai Qian is just the lettering on a stone by the roadside.

but I still found the fun.

Walking through the roadside inn, the young boss and proprietress were entertaining their own guests. I ran over to ask for a dish to eat, but it turned into a chat that night.

They talked about the great impact of tourism development on local folk customs.

I see. It turns out that girls get married at the age of twelve or thirteen in such a place with backward culture and blocked information.

I also got a warm invitation from my host's family for lunch the next day ...

Last year, after my operation, a group of women organized a flower tour in Bijie, Yunshe, Guizhou Province. In order to take care of me, they rented a RV and cut two scenic spots.

So, we laughed all the way to Lu Ge, leaving pictures of us lingering in the sea, all smiling like flowers.

In retrospect, in the years since my divorce, I have been more and more happy. I have almost moved with my heart and been satisfied, and my heart has become full and happy.

correspondingly, the yearning for travel and the outward impulse slowly slowed down.

This summer vacation, I was invited to go out to play many times, but I refused. I stayed at home with my daughter for two months.

I live a sweet and loving life with this little guy every day. I send her to training classes, go to the gym, eat meals cooked by my grandfather, and let her take my grandparents to the movies. My heart is full and happy.

Because, now I know very well: the best poems and the distance are right beside me.

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