I clearly remember my childhood when I was about 9 years old.

when I asked a group of girls: can I play with you?

The leading girl said: We don't want to.

Several other girls laughed too, and then several people happily went to the playground hand in hand.

I stayed alone in the corridor that day, and I didn't have the heart for class all day.

Since then, I have always felt inexplicable loneliness in the crowd. The more people there are, the more insecure I feel. Therefore, when I am an adult, I always avoid attending many parties.

self-distrust, self-denial, and inability to show yourself publicly.

Of course, I didn't dare to mention these to my parents once, so far. At that time, I especially wanted to talk to my parents and get the following help:

1. My parents can take the initiative to greet me every day. In the greetings that parents care about, maybe I can't hold back and tell them what happens every day; Even if I want to cover it up again, I won't be able to cover it up in the care of my parents every day. Perhaps talking about it can better alleviate my inner anxiety;

2. Teach me what "friends" and "friendship" are. The understanding of friends and friendship is vague and naive, thinking that every day together is friends, that is, deep friendship; In addition to a group of people and someone, you can find more like-minded new friends; There are many ways to make new friends, such as helping others and sharing. Or take me to more circles and meet more new friends;

3. Keep encouraging me and help me build up my confidence. Who you play with and who you don't play with doesn't mean that you are good enough or not; In interpersonal communication, discover and show your own advantages, at the same time, constantly reflect on yourself, adjust the correct way of communication, and don't judge your value by the distance of interpersonal relationship;

more importantly, I want to know that these are all valuable assets that must be experienced in growth, and facing them calmly is the only way to grow up.

have you ever been isolated by classmates and friends when you were growing up? What do you think now?

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