Despite such good wishes, many single women don't make any preparations before each date. Dating is just like going out. It is no wonder that many people's love dies slowly in dating again and again, just because you didn't do this course well in advance.
You should know that sharpening the knife does not miss the woodcutter. Dating is also a technical job.
So before dating, it is very important to try to find something meaningful for yourself. It's best to be busy until the doorbell rings, and when you finally see him, you will be a little breathless and full of energy.
Here are some suggestions. You can do this before dating: 1. Eliminate anxiety, go to the gym to exercise, get a manicure, or take a comfortable hot bubble bath.
Buy a new shirt, or buy a bottle of perfume for makeup. Be kind to yourself.
3. Take a nap. If you are the kind of person who is sleepy at ten o'clock at night, a good sleep will refresh you.
4. Go to the movies (see comedies instead of romantic movies, so you won't always think about love), read newspapers or read books. If you are busy all day, when he comes to pick you up, you won't show that you need him very much and feel empty.
The following things can't be done.
1. Don't talk about your date with a female friend all day, say how your horoscope matches his, and say how you know he is the only thrill.
You shouldn't be obsessed with dating.
You may inadvertently mention the word marriage and scare each other away every day.
Don't expect your name and his name to appear on the wedding invitation, don't imagine the fragments of your wedding, or even the honeymoon holiday. Can't you find something else to do?
If you are like us, you must have thought about how much you have in common before he came to pick you up. Maybe you named your future child before he greeted you. This kind of daydreaming before a date seems harmless, but it is actually quite dangerous. This practice is very bad, probably second only to showing love to him when eating dessert. This unreasonable fantasy may cause your desires to never be satisfied, and make you expect unrealistic romantic and passionate scenes. At that time, it might be easy for you to say something stupid after the first date: I have two tickets for the concert here. Yes, you can give him a little sweetness, but only after a period of contact. If possible, don't think about him until he arrives. The first three dates were completely unnecessary. You can stay busy until he makes a phone call downstairs. Don't let him go to your apartment on the first date. You'd better meet him in the lounge or restaurant of your apartment. A girl who abides by the precepts will not take risks. For the first three dates, you can't tell him how you spent your time, because you have known him for many years. Doing so will make you feel less mysterious. Don't be too serious, want to control everything, or think of yourself as a wife in words and deeds. Never mention the word marriage, even if your cousin got married recently.
In fact, all you have to do on the first three dates is to be there, relax and pretend that you are just a guest actor in the movie. Be kind and keep a happy mood. Laugh when he is joking, but don't laugh too much. Always smile. When your conversation is interrupted, don't feel obligated to fill in the blanks.
In short, he has to do everything: pick you up, choose a restaurant, open the door and pull up a chair for you. You should act as if nothing happened from beginning to end, as if you had dated countless times. These are common things. Even though you haven't dated for years. If you have to think about something, think about that week when you were dating another man. You should always try to date other men so that you won't hang yourself from a tree.
You must date, especially if you like him. After two hours, you can look at your watch (drinking date), or after three or four hours (eating date), you can sigh gently and say, well, this will be good, but I'm busy tomorrow. As for what you are going to do, you don't have to tell him. That's not important, and it's none of his business.
If you are really interested in him, want to marry him, and are happy together, it will certainly not be so easy to end the date first. However, you have to do this, because this kind of playing hard to get is very useful. At the end of the date, if he wants to get to know you better, he can call you the next day or ask you out when he takes you home. According to our experience, men want to see you often at first, even every day, but they may soon get tired of you. Therefore, only by observing the precepts will they continue to be infatuated with you.
Never invite him to your house after the first date. After all, at this time, he is still a stranger. He can only meet you in the lounge of your apartment. This will ensure your safety without violating the precepts.
Don't take him to the apartment or promise to go there, and put an end to all possible problems. These rules also apply if you know this person at a bar or party. Don't get in his car under any circumstances.
Otherwise, you may stay in his suitcase! Don't invite him to your apartment or spend the night with him. The world is not safe, safety is paramount!
On the second date, you have to judge for yourself. If you feel comfortable with this man, he can pick you up at your apartment, and you can invite him for a drink before the end of the evening date. However, if you still have doubts, you'd better meet him in the lounge of your apartment and say goodbye there.
Girls who obey the precepts will not take risks for no reason!
If you don't take the initiative to end the appointment first, you have made a mistake, and what is more fatal is to extend the appointment for no reason. At the end of the second date (they had dinner and watched a movie together), Randy suggested that they go dancing together. Bob didn't want to contradict her face to face, so he agreed, but he never called her again. Randy should really take the initiative to end the date after watching the movie. She thought that letting Bob watch her dance might interest him, but it backfired.
Some women will invite men to her apartment for a cup or a cup of coffee to extend their first two dates. Don't do this! He should take the initiative to dance and drink, or find a cafe to eat dessert and taste cappuccino. If he hadn't suggested it, this wouldn't have happened. You don't have to worry about how to adjust the atmosphere of the appointment or extend the appointment. You just need to end the date first.
We know these requirements will make you feel uncomfortable, but you want to marry someone, right? What's so hard about a one-night stand? Always have a dull feeling for the first three dates. All you have to do is dress up, behave well, say goodbye to each other, and then go home. Don't put too much emotion, don't spend too much, don't think too much. You may think, how long will this state last? Don't worry, it will get easier and easier soon.
Girls' love skills: the commandment of college dating
Girls' love skills: the commandments of dating in college If you are about to enter college, we hope to help you avoid detours and heartache in these four years. The following seven mistakes cannot be made. Now, commandments should be part of your curriculum.
1. Don't check his schedule or walk around him all day on campus, hoping that he will finally notice you. Don't bother unless you want to exercise. Either he will notice you or he will never notice you.
Don't always go in and out of restaurants, eat three restaurants back and forth, hoping to meet him from 4: 30 pm to 8: 00 pm, which will only make your weight soar by 20 pounds. Do you really want to waste all the good times in college on going to restaurants and wondering when he will come and leave? )
Don't send your best friend to ask his best friend if he is interested in you. Maybe he doesn't even know who you are. Don't try to be good friends with his buddies or the girl who lives on the same floor with him, or befriend his acquaintances: (Don't waste time. No one can make him like you, even his best friend. )
4. Don't find his favorite album or CD to play all day, and don't wear a T-shirt designed by grateful dead band, even though it is his favorite rock band. Strangely, girls always like to wear clothes that boys like, such as sportswear and even sloppy clothes, thinking that this will attract boys. However, it is often the girls who wear cute jeans and fashionable T-shirts that make boys feel heartache. According to the precepts, the purpose of dressing up for girls is not to imitate boys, but to attract boys.
Don't be a cheerleader or a sports fan just because he is on the football team. So is the habit of smoking and drinking. Don't follow suit just because he did it. Many girls we know only drink mineral water when dating boys. Although those boys smoked and drank, they got married. As for personal habits, you should follow your habits.
If he is a literary idiot, don't help him write a paper about Shakespeare or copy his homework just to get him to associate with you. Whether he wants to date you or not is another matter. You can't mix these two things.
7. Don't be stupid about safety! In recent days, dating rape has occurred frequently in universities. You should be careful. You would rather stay in the lounge or the library to read than go to his dormitory or off-campus apartment to study alone with him.
Tell your friends when you go out so that they can find you. Girls who keep precepts don't take risks. Don't take this matter lightly!
Now that you know what not to do, what can you do to attract boys on campus?
1. Study hard! Anyway, the purpose of your college is to study! It is attractive to have a clever brain. 12. Limit your diet. Even if your friends go to the cafeteria to eat and drink, or order pizza at midnight, you should resist the temptation. We suggest you eat some fruit for dinner when you are hungry in the middle of the night. When you attend a pizza party, you should tell yourself that if you eat any more, jeans will not fit you tomorrow. Remember: being overweight is against the precepts.
3. put on some light makeup. Read more Glamour magazines or other fashion magazines.
Take part in some extracurricular activities, it is best to join a club that interests you, where you can naturally meet some boys.
Don't just sit in your room on Friday or Saturday nights and read some books by the philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre. Weekend nights are used to go out and make friends. You can read Sartre's book on Monday.
6. Your main course should be perfect and you should have a career plan. Although you probably met your future husband on campus, you didn't go to college to be someone's wife. You should have your own skills, for him and for yourself. Don't be a fool in love!
The love precepts for college students can't guarantee that you will find a partner at the campus dance, but they will let you release your best self and be more attractive in front of the opposite sex.
Girls' love skills: don't accept casual dates from men.
Girls' love skills: don't accept men's impromptu dates. Nowadays, men usually like to ask women out on the night or the next day when they meet them. Moreover, because women are worried that this may be the best opportunity of the week, they usually agree to meet men at the last minute. But such a date is against the precepts. If a man really wants to marry you in the future, he will never wait until the last minute to ask you out. On the contrary, he will be considerate and worry that if he doesn't make an appointment with you five days in advance, he may have to wait a week to see you. If he really loves you, a week is like a lifetime for him!
Of course, men sometimes don't know that they shouldn't call you on Thursday or Friday night and ask you out on Saturday night. Some women will accept their last-minute meeting, which is tantamount to spoiling them all. Ideally, he should ask you out at the end of the last date, or call you on Monday or Tuesday to arrange a date for Saturday night. Keep the commandments and you will become the most important person in his heart. The first thing he does when he gets up in the morning is to miss you. How can he wait until Thursday to call you?
If a man doesn't call you earlier, he can see how he feels about you. You should refuse him to ask you out on Thursday night, which is also the best way to encourage men to call early. I hope he can understand your hint.
This is not a game. You are a woman who keeps the commandments. You can't do anything until he calls on Thursday or Friday! You have your own friends and a lot of things to do. If you have a date on Saturday night, or want to go out to the movies with your female friends, you must know in advance. If a man doesn't call you until Thursday, you will be nervous. You will always check the answering machine. If you live at home, you can ask your mother again and again if he called.
You must be fidgeting. A girl who keeps the precepts would never fidget like this. They have their own plans.
If he doesn't call you on Wednesday night, you'll have to make other plans for the weekend. If he calls on Thursday night, he will casually ask, hey, honey, what are your plans for Saturday night? You'd better refuse politely.
Try to answer in the sweetest voice: Oh, I'm sorry, I already have plans. Even if you want to go out with your best friend or a man you don't like so much, you have to hold back, but I'm free on Monday. Men will definitely take the initiative to ask you out. But don't blame him for calling you so late. You must have a good attitude, but you must flatly refuse. Besides, you can't tell him your plan because it's not important. The important thing is the message you sent him, that is, if you want to go out with me on Saturday night, you must call on Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday to make an appointment for Saturday night.
Well, you may say to yourself: this is too dogmatic. Many men will follow their own temperament when making plans. What happened to that impromptu invitation? This view seems convincing, but in fact it is not necessarily so.
For example, when Ted called our friend Beth on Thursday night and arranged an appointment for Saturday night, she immediately agreed. This is a bad start. Later, every time Ted asked her out, he would call her at the last minute. Although they have been in love for several months, Ted doesn't often think of her, and Beth is also confused about this relationship because she is not sure whether she can see Ted on Saturday night.
Remember, commandments are not just about immediate interests. Commandments are concerned with men's behavior, specifically, their behavior with your permission. Men's behavior when they pursue you often needs to be consistent with that when they get married. For example, if he asks you out at the last minute, he will be careless with you in other ways. So we don't accept impromptu dates. A man called you ten minutes ago and came to see you immediately. This kind of date looks beautiful, but since you are so busy and don't want him to get it easily, how can you meet him in less than ten minutes?
If you really give in, this man will treat you as a woman who can catch you in ten minutes.
However, you should also remember that you must be friendly when you refuse. Don't have negative thoughts: this person will only call me when he wants to see me. He doesn't seem to miss me much. Or shout at each other: no, I'm busy now.
Then hang up the phone with a bang. Maybe the other person doesn't think so at all. He may think you are different from other girls. You must give him a chance. Girls who keep precepts are by no means idle. So, we suggest you say sweetly: Oh, I'm afraid not. I wish I wasn't so busy! And then hung up with a sigh. He will soon realize that you just want him to ask you out early. Besides, men don't call at the last minute to hurt you. Don't feel offended, you just need to train them to call early, not necessarily online.
A natural meeting is not like this: hey, do you want to go to the movies this afternoon? This kind of phone call may be because the other person is too bored, or the girl he really wants to pursue is too busy that day. He didn't call you in advance, he didn't miss you for a week, and he didn't hug your shoulder excitedly while watching the movie. He doesn't take your reservation seriously, just like you need to make an appointment in advance to go to a very high-end restaurant. It's good to let nature take its course, but it should happen on a date, such as driving to the beach after dinner.
We often hear that some so-called women who like to let nature take its course will stay with men for 24 hours after receiving a date. We wish such a woman good luck.
If a man knows that he can find you five minutes after his last girlfriend kicked him out, he will call you only because he is lonely and bored, not because he is madly in love with you. If so, we must remind you that your relationship will not last long. Those who advocate freedom may object to what we say, but we believe that if we want a long-term relationship, we must regard dating as a job and abide by various rules and regulations. For example, no matter what your mood is, you must work from nine to five. You must subtly train men to make plans with you in advance (because in men's eyes, you are unpredictable, busy at work and happy in life). Keeping precepts is actually giving them silent hints, and they actually understand. You make it too easy for them, they will definitely take advantage, and you can't expect a good marriage.
We find that if you are infatuated with a man, you will feel that waiting for a date is particularly long and torturous, but you must remember that every time he wants to see you, you must not refuse, so he may get bored with you. If your method is right, he will naturally come to the conclusion that if he wants to see you, the only way is to marry you!
Girls' love skills: the commandment of dating celebrities, don't be a groupie.
Girls' love skills: the commandment of dating celebrities, don't be a groupie. You are unlikely to meet a celebrity or CEO every day, but it is still possible to bump into a celebrity occasionally, such as at a party, on a plane, in a company restaurant, or in a doctor's waiting room. If you don't know the commandments and don't follow them, you may miss a golden opportunity. For example, a lady we know, one day, she met a famous actor at a fund-raising rally.
The man came up to her and said, you are so beautiful. Let's go out to play together sometime.
At this time, discipline came into play. He obviously liked her and took the initiative. But she didn't understand the commandments, so she blurted out eagerly: tonight will do.
This answer is obviously wrong. If a famous actor tells you when you are free and when we can meet, all you have to do is smile and say, let me see, er, I don't know, just like famous actors often invite you out. Although he is ten times busier than you, you should pretend not to know when you have time to see him. He must specifically ask when you are free, not that night, not the next night, and he must make an appointment with you a few days in advance.
The actor took our friend to dinner, but she kept saying how much she liked his work and even asked him to sign the menu. They talked for hours (the restaurant was closed and didn't leave), and he let her go to his hotel room without much effort. Although they didn't sleep, they just spent the night there. Later, the actor told her that he would call her again when he arrived in the city next week, but she never heard from him again. It was too late when she found the commandment.
The following commandments apply to dating actors, athletes, famous writers, filmmakers, directors, CEOs and other important people. If a celebrity or business tycoon accosts you first, here are some suggestions.
1. Take a deep breath. Stay calm.
Think of him as an ordinary person, such as your colleague and janitor, not a movie star or a business tycoon.
Stop staring at him.
4. Don't be happy or frivolous, just like winning the lottery.
Don't act like his crazy fan. In other words, never say something like: Oh, my God, I can't believe I've seen all your movies! Even if you have seen his movie twice, don't say it! You must act as if you have been abroad for the past three years and don't know who he is, even if he is the man on the cover of People magazine.
6. Don't ask him for his autograph.
7. Don't praise him, for example, you are more handsome than on TV.
8. Don't ask him what movie he will play next, and don't show interest in his acting career (otherwise you are different from other women).
9. If you are a potential newcomer, don't ask him if he has an audition or wants to play a role in his movie. If you are looking for a job, don't ask him if there is a job as an executive in the company.
Don't ask him for a business card, and don't give him your resume or movie script.
10. Don't ask him for help, such as asking him to donate money to your favorite charity, or asking him to send you tickets for the performance and books he wrote.
1 1. You can show interest in him, but don't lose your temper. Movie stars and CEOs are generally sought after and loved. So, don't keep pestering him.
I talked with him for 50 minutes, figured out what the other person really wanted to know, and then said, Oh, there is no time. I have to go. It's really nice to meet you.
Then go away. Don't talk to this man endlessly all night. Don't agree to go out with him that night, even if he will go abroad the next morning. He can call you. Other countries are not without telephones. ) 12. If he wears an Armani suit, drives a luxury car, or follows the crowd, don't be afraid.
13. If you meet a performer and he gives you a ticket on the first date, you should politely refuse to go to his concert or watch his performance. Watching his performance is not a date. If he wants to see you on the night of the performance, he must pick you up at your house later and take you out.
14. If your date is a sports star, you shouldn't wear his jersey everywhere, and you shouldn't always be around him when he has a game, unless your relationship has been confirmed. Even if the relationship is confirmed, he still wants to ask you out first.
15. If you are really dating a CEO or celebrity, don't ask him when he is free or where it is convenient to go, because his schedule is very tight. However, he should still make an appointment with you in advance. If he only cares about his own time, you should politely refuse, otherwise he will ignore you. Those celebrities are used to coquetry, but you are a girl who abides by the precepts.
16. Of course, you are likely to leave your friends and family and be surrounded by this celebrity all day. However, if you keep the precepts, you have to live your own life. You can see him two or three times a week at most before he proposes.
17. If he is handsome and popular, maybe other women will write to him, call him, and even rush to hug him in public. In this case, don't be angry, jealous or insecure.
Don't show your possessiveness in public. If he is pursuing you, you have been keeping the precepts and don't need to pay attention to the courtship of other women. He will only like you.
18. Be careful. Don't call the tabloids and say that you are dating a celebrity, demonstrate to other women in this way, or tell the public that he is yours and no one will rob you. This method won't work. Don't say anything even if the reporter calls you. This kind of behavior is selfish and may hurt him or embarrass him, so he won't even associate with you again.
19. Don't try to buy off his secretary, publicist or driver. You want to monitor his every move through them. I hope they can put in a good word for you.
Don't care too much about his reputation, wealth or aura. Girls who obey the precepts are not groupies! You should remember that sometimes a star is not necessarily your ideal partner. If you really want to be successful, you have to learn something slowly. You have to find out whether you love him or the aura of his idol.