On Making Friends, like Common Practice, is completely naked in front of readers, which can be said to be free and naked. It is with this writing style that the author makes the text express multiple friendships incisively and vividly. Finally, readers can see the multiple relationships about friendship and realize a new concept of making friends.
First, material friends.
At the beginning, the author shows his understanding of love through multiple rhetorical devices, and then opens the explanation of friendship, and leads to his own view of making friends through the comparison between love and friendship. Then, following the trend of the times, I first discussed the material friendship of money, which showed my judgment on material friends.
In the author's view, he opposes the western proverb that "a friend is a true friend when he is in urgent need or sleepy" and calls it empty talk. For ordinary people, whether it is icing on the cake or timely assistance, they can be said to be true friends. Because China often uses the understanding that "a true friend will stand up when you need it, especially in front of such things as money" to measure the meaning of friends. Therefore, it is understandable and even reasonable to say that friends who are in urgent need or in need are true friends. However, the author points out at the end of the article that many "friends" just want to express their feelings and wipe their faces, not for the sake of friends themselves. As for whether the material of "friends' shots" has friendship elements, it is not known. The author even said that these "friends" are "profitable".
For the author's statement, it is inevitable for readers to refute that this is just an example, and famous sayings and truth are also accidental. Therefore, the author quotes a lot of normal life in a "homely" tone, just like chatting with readers, making it easy for readers to read and accept such "daily proof".
At the end of the discussion of material friends, the author shows that it is not necessarily friends who start to help you when you are sleepy, but also people who are extremely despised and irrelevant on weekdays. Once you get help, friendship may come into being, and the old friendship you have spent many years managing and maintaining will fall apart. In addition, the author also quoted the theory of "wide breakup" and the theory of "anti-breakup" to scold those who have a glossy view of friendship, or others, or ourselves.
Therefore, material friends are not all true friendships, but also profitable pseudo-friendships; There is no doubt that money can also measure friendship. However, measuring friendship is not too harsh. You must judge the weight of this friendship according to what he can give you. True friendship is definitely more than that.
Second, friends of the spirit.
Material spirit is two great rivals. Many "successful people" who have material things often ignore the importance of spirit, while "noble people" who pursue spirit too much often lack material things. In the face of friendship, the same is true.
In the first half of the article, the author spent nearly one-third of his pen and ink on "friends of material", just to make a comparison with the following "friends of spirit". As can be seen from the article, the author began to explain his cognition of friendship by refuting. At the beginning, he quoted Confucius' loyalty of "trusting friends directly", which was highly praised by the world, and then analyzed and explained it. Finally, he expressed his own opinion that this loyalty was "not very solid".
At this level, the author spreads all the explanations of "Friends of Spirit" through the focus of "Friends of Spirit". First of all, the reason why "trust your friends directly" is not necessarily true friends is that some of them convince you with their generosity, which is more terrible than those who scold you. At least in the face of those provocative scolding, you can scold back, but for this generosity and tolerance, you can only listen and endure with humility and patience, which may have long been divorced from people's understanding of "direct forgiveness." In order to prove this point, the author also cited Taylor and Dante's related works to illustrate.
Secondly, the author's so-called "friends who have listened too much" is also unreliable. The author thinks that people who know more and recite more may not be suitable for being friends, but they can also be consultants. Of course, you have to get rid of those who really conform to your spirit. He quickly quoted the example of "Deborah criticizes Voltaire" to analyze and explain, so that readers can quickly enter his point of view. Later, it was further proved by combining many examples from ancient and modern China and foreign countries.
It can be seen that "spiritual friends" are not necessarily true friends.
Third, true friends.
After expounding the two giants of material spirit, the author finally left a third of his pen and ink to emphasize his cognition of making friends. He first said to the reader: "This is not to say that friends are not good for you; I just explained that people who can give you physical and mental benefits are not necessarily friends. "Later, it was put forward that true friendship is not for wooing, but a little bit of accident and unconsciousness, just like a seed hidden in consciousness, which can germinate anytime and anywhere.
At this stage, the author mentioned "true friendship" twice. I said for the first time: "The product of true friendship is just a pleasure that permeates your body and mind." He pointed out that this kind of comfort is actually a kind of "friendship". It is a seemingly dull friendship, but it has transcended life and death. It is mentioned for the second time that "true friendship is a deeper relationship than spiritual or material help." This statement completely interweaves the previous "material friends" and "spiritual friends" to form a highly concentrated exposition, which is also a concentrated denial of the absolute view of spiritual and material friendship. The author also cited the example of the Pope to demonstrate this point.
At the end of the article, the author lists "friends from a general angle" separately, and it can be seen between the lines that the author agrees with such friends. The friendship established with such friends is called true friendship, which is slightly different from Sue's friendship.
We can see that the author is not divorced from the text when chatting with readers, and there is no lack of theoretical support. This kind of "homely" prose is unique, with its free "prose prose" and its naked "prose truth"