When we have some free time, we might as well find some to take a look at. So what are they? Let’s take a look.

: The ungrateful Fan Zhongyan

At the age of 19, Fan Zhongyan left his hometown and went to study in an academy in Henan. Due to financial constraints, he only cooked one pot of porridge every day. After the porridge was cold, he cut it into four pieces with a knife and ate two pieces in the morning and evening with a few sauerkraut. This was his daily meal.

At that time, in the academy, there was a classmate who was very close to Fan Zhongyan. He was the son left behind in Nandu, and his family was very wealthy. After he learned about Fan Zhongyan's hard life, he went home and told his father. The left-behind officer was very moved after hearing this and asked his son to give Fan Zhongyan some delicious food from his family. Fan Zhongyan couldn't refuse, so he had to accept it.

A few days later, the son of the left-behind officer came to Fan Zhongyan's bed to pick up a book, and accidentally opened a package, which turned out to be food he had given to Fan Zhongyan. Fan Zhongyan didn't eat these things at all, he just left them there intact, and some of them were rotten and spoiled. He was very angry and ran to the school to question Fan Zhongyan: "How could you do this? You have ruined all the good things in vain. Is this how you treat your friends?"

Fan Zhongyan waited for him to calm down. After coming down, he said apologetically: "Thank you and your family for helping me. I am very grateful. It's just because I have been accustomed to eating porridge for a long time. If I suddenly enjoy such delicious food, I can still eat thin porridge and pickled vegetables in the future." "In addition, the reason why I accepted your food is because I cherish our friendship very much and am afraid that rejection will hurt you."

It turns out that the reason behind Fan Zhongyan's "unappreciative" attitude is. So, the son of the left-behind officer was extremely ashamed.

In interpersonal communication, if we encounter a situation that we really cannot refuse, we might as well accept it with a smile like Fan Zhongyan, but secretly still maintain our position and adhere to our original intention. In this way, you will neither hurt the friendship nor change yourself.

: Shi Jinmo’s regrets

Shi Jinmo was a famous doctor during the Republic of China.

One year, a noble friend of Shi Jinmo brought his child to see a doctor. It turned out that when this child was being treated for dysentery, he was diagnosed by a hospital to have hidden disease risks, and the probability of developing dysentery was 1%. The friend was worried about the child's safety, so he approached Shi Jinmo.

After a detailed examination of the child, Shi Jinmo said: "Based on my experience, this child is fine. You don't have to worry too much."

Friends are anxious Said: "However, a relatively authoritative hospital in Beijing has determined that he has hidden dangers."

Shi Jinmo explained: "I checked the child's pulse, and the pulse was stable. Besides, everyone's body has There are so-called hidden dangers, and some people will never have an attack in their lifetime, so why bother to eliminate it now?"

The friend felt that Shi Jinmo did not want to help him, so he took the child away with disappointment.

Later, Shi Jinmo heard that his friend quit his job, sold his property, and moved his family to San Francisco in the United States to eliminate hidden dangers for his children.

A few years later, Shi Jinmo went to the United States for business and wanted to visit this friend he had not seen for many years. However, what surprised Shi Jinmo was that because of this hidden danger that only occurs in 1% of children, his friend went bankrupt and lived in a slum. Shi Jinmo blamed himself very much. He felt that as a friend, he should have tried his best to retain his friend and told him: "No one's life is without hidden dangers."

Shi Jinmo often talked about this in his later years. This story tells my descendants: "On the premise of adhering to your own principles, if a friend is about to make a mistake, you must try your best to pull the friend back from the wrong track. Otherwise, the other party will suffer a lot, and you will regret it for the rest of your life." ”

: I would rather be a phoenix tail than a chicken head

New Oriental founder Yu Minhong was the worst student in the class when he first entered college from a rural area. At that time, he spoke Mandarin that no one could understand, his English pronunciation was like Japanese, and his academic performance was extremely poor, making him stand out among a group of talented people from Peking University. Therefore, almost no top students are willing to talk to Yu Minhong, and he can only stay in the circle of poor students and feel sorry for himself.

One day, Yu Minhong had the idea of ??dropping out of school and returning to his hometown because of his unsatisfactory academic performance. He lay on the bed in the dormitory and sighed. At this time, a classmate named Zhou Hua from the same dormitory just came back. Seeing Yu Minhong's decadent look, he gave him an apple.

That apple triggered Yu Minhong's conversation. He plucked up the courage to ask Zhou Hua: "What is your ideal? My biggest ideal is to own a Forever bicycle."

"My ideal is to have a bicycle in the future. A Porsche car," Zhou Hua replied. This answer surprised Yu Minhong. He suddenly realized that if he continued to stay in his own circle, entangled in the so-called inferiority complex, and did not contact those top students, the gap between himself and others would become wider and wider, and eventually he would no longer be able to do so. Unable to cross. Therefore, Yu Minhong decided to let go of his self-esteem to integrate into the circle of outstanding people and fundamentally change himself.

After that, Yu Minhong seemed to be a different person. He took the initiative to take on the responsibility of fetching water and sweeping the floor, and began to learn to make friends with top students. He often pays attention to what books everyone is reading, what they are doing, and what topics they are discussing. Seeing some classmates memorizing English textbooks, he also started to memorize "New Concept English" and tried to write poems. In the process, Yu Minhong found that his thinking became more and more open.

When he was in college, Yu Minhong contracted tuberculosis. During his illness, he remembered that Wang Qiang, the squad leader he admired most, once said that Shakespeare's "Sonnets" was very classic, so he wanted to borrow it and recite it. So he stayed up late and wrote a letter to Wang Qiang, asking him to help borrow books. Unexpectedly, Wang Qiang did not help after receiving the letter. Instead, he replied with a letter of more than ten pages to educate Yu Minhong, saying that he had not reached the level of reading "Sonnets" and asked him to read some simple poems first. book.

After receiving the letter, Yu Minhong was not angry, but very grateful. Because he learned a lot of new knowledge from Wang Qiang's letters that he had never heard of before, he did not feel that he was being slighted, but was filled with joy.

In addition to Wang Qiang, Yu Minhong also admired Teacher Xu Xiaoping of the Youth League Committee when he was studying, so he often went to talk to him. Xu Xiaoping was very eloquent. When he spoke, he always quoted from other sources and was eloquent. He often made Yu Minhong dumbfounded by what he said. In front of Xu Xiaoping, Yu Minhong could only be an observer, looking up to him with inferiority, but he still insisted on going to the Youth League Committee every now and then to listen to the teachings, and learned a lot from the exchanges.

Although he continued to improve, Yu Minhong was still the worst student in the class when he graduated. 49 of the 50 classmates in the class had gone abroad, and he was the only one who couldn't get a visa no matter what. Later, he had no choice but to find a new way to found New Oriental English Training Institution, and relied on his own efforts to expand his business, and soon had a net worth of tens of millions.

After making initial achievements in entrepreneurship, Yu Minhong decided to find a few partners to work with him. At this time, he thought of his two best friends in college: Wang Qiang and Xu Xiaoping. So he flew abroad with the idea of ??being a phoenix tail, and successfully persuaded two friends to return to China to start a business. Later, the three of them worked together to make the company bigger and stronger, and became the famous troika of New Oriental. Yu Minhong also changed from the tail of the phoenix to the head of the phoenix, becoming the most leader-like figure in everyone's mind. The movie "Chinese Partners" adapted from their story was also released in China not long ago. It caused a huge response.

The reason why Yu Minhong has achieved today’s achievements is inseparable from his willingness to be the tail of the phoenix. Because if you aspire to be a chicken head, you will never get out of the narrow circle and it will be difficult to break through yourself; on the contrary, if you have the courage to be a phoenix tail, you will be able to continuously improve yourself in the process of dealing with elites, and ultimately achieve life. The gorgeous transformation in the world, looking for opportunities to realize the dream of being a crested man.