-when I was on the phone with her, I fell into a very awkward silence because I couldn't find a topic. Have you ever had a similar experience? If so, what should I do to call her? Do you need a lot of knowledge? Do you need a lot of experience? Actually, it's not like this.
Ok, now I'll teach you how to make a phone call.
1. Find the theme you want to play through the other person's words. (If the other person says "I met a strange person today and did a lot of inexplicable things", you can use "Actually, if you meet that kind of person …" to extend the conversation time. )
2. Praise each other for what they have done well. Last time this happened, you did very well ... last time at the cocktail party, you were so beautiful ... and so on. )
3. Where are you today, and when did you think about each other's words? I thought of you on my way to school and company today ... and so on. )
4. Tell humorous stories. Each story can only be told once. If you keep repeating it, it will make the other person bored. )
5. Talk about other people's affairs (such as your friends and colleagues). In fact, most people are interested in other people's stories. )
6. Tell me your plan. This is a very important part. You can talk about your plans for the future, such as where we will go next month, how to spend Christmas, and go to a movie at the weekend, so that the other person can imagine the future scene with you. )
7. Tell some interesting things that happened that day. I saw the beauty queen of our school today. I don't think she is half as beautiful as you. ...
8. Ask questions to start some topics (have you ever been to Beijing? Have you seen that movie? what do you think? )
9. Pay attention to caring about each other in details. You must eat on time. It is very cold today. You should put on more clothes and go out. ...
10. Show your determination to the other party. I will definitely do better in the future. I didn't seem to do very well last time. I will never do that again. )
To tell the truth, if I call a girl and talk for more than 10 hours, I am absolutely confident.
However, if you often make phone calls for too long, both parties will soon get bored, and if you make phone calls with your mobile phone, the phone bill will be even worse. Even if the phone bill is a cinch, it will do great harm to the brain! Although you want to talk to her on the phone for a long time, controlling the length of the phone and improving the quantity and quality of the call will actually enhance your feelings more effectively.
For example, although I am very busy, I really want to hear your voice, so I call you; You must eat on time after eating, and pay attention to your health when you lose weight; It's cold, don't eat cold dishes, it's bad for your stomach … and so on, it will make the other person think you are considerate.
A successful blind date war
Full of expectation, I set foot on the road of blind date and met the girl I love, but I couldn't express it.
First of all, I want to tell you that blind date is a very realistic process. When you meet eyes, you will continue to associate. If it doesn't suit your taste, that day may be your last.
So success or failure is often seen in a short time. Never think that I will do better next time we meet, and I will dress more decently next time. This idea is absolutely wrong.
If you are not satisfied that day, no one will give each other another chance.
Of course, handsome people will score higher when they meet for the first time, but people who are not handsome are definitely not without opportunities when they meet for the first time. They should give full play to their personal charm. You should mobilize every nerve in your whole body, from clothing matching to speaking skills, so that the other person can ignore the appearance and be attracted by your personality.
First of all, we should start by praising each other, and throw the compliment in the past: I didn't have much hope at first, but unexpectedly … I didn't expect my friend to introduce me to such a beautiful girl. Pick a place and I'll treat you to dinner. The food there is very good ... let the other person see your manners.
Don't talk nonsense (what about my girlfriend in the past? I have had several girlfriends in the past. This is my first blind date ...) Don't show off, and keep the other person relaxed and happy with a listening attitude.
It is also very emotional to use your sense of humor and tell her some interesting things.
Dress more casually. Wearing a formal suit will make others think that you are boring, and improper matching will make you look old-fashioned.
There are many cases of love at first sight, but people who don't have the quality of love at first sight can also show their greatest charm within a few hours of meeting for the first time, which makes people shine.
When you go out, don't ask each other where to go over and over again. If you don't know, you can suggest going to a bar. Let's go there.
Especially when dating in winter or hot weather, girls will prefer to let men make decisions. Men who have their own opinions are more attractive than boys who don't know where to go without a plan.
Don't say that I like you very much, which makes the other person feel very burdened. I've seen too many blind dates, telling others the first time, and being a fiasco fool.
Take her to a place with elegant environment and talk casually. The most important thing is to make both sides feel comfortable. At the end of the exchange of contact information, say something like "be careful at home" and "have a good time tonight", and you can end it without dragging your feet.
Don't contact for the next two days. In this case, the girl will ask the introducer of the blind date what she thinks of her, and that person will also call you. You just have to tell her that this person is very nice, and don't say anything else.
Wait a little longer and then call the other party. At this time, you can say to her, "I felt good that day." I think I like you very much. " -
Successful strategies of social activities
A sorority is an activity in which more than two people participate. The advantage of sorority activities is that your choices will be wider, the atmosphere will be easier to adjust, and your personal psychological burden will be less. You can shoot your little arrow at all the members of the opposite sex who attend the fraternity.
The disadvantage of the fraternity is that your little arrow will also become a burden to you. If the person you like doesn't accept your enthusiasm, you may lose the courage to look at others. Or you can only talk to one person, others don't accept you, and so on.
Then let's see how to successfully implement your charm at the fraternity and improve others' impression of you.
When you meet for the first time, don't try to be the host of creating an atmosphere in the whole activity. Maybe many people don't like such advice. In this case, being too picky is likely to fail. Why? Because others may not think that you are an attractive boy, but that you are a good friend, brother and brother who are good at creating atmosphere. This impression is hard to change.
Maybe you said a lot of humorous words to create an atmosphere and make others very happy, but as a result, your little arrow missed the little arrow target in the girl's heart. Keep quiet properly, especially don't say too much to the opposite sex you like. Why? Because some intentional or unintentional eye contact will achieve better results. But that doesn't mean you don't say anything. That's also wrong.
First of all, in order to attract people's attention, you should confirm the dress styles of other friends who go with you. Then choose a way to make yourself look different. If you find the kind of girl you like at the mixer, be sure to be nice to the person sitting next to her. Why do you ask again? When girls go to the bathroom, they will definitely discuss with each other.
Well, who is better ... in this case, you can give you extra points through her companion's words. Then when you look at each other again, the girl you like may think, why is she not nice to me and doesn't talk to me often? Is it because I am inferior to my companion ... The first step of our battle was successful.
Okay, so what should we do?
First of all, there must be some highlights that others can remember. But don't brag and don't concentrate on praising a girl.
Talking about your future ideals and showing your unique side can attract the attention of some curious girls.
For example, there can be some gimmicks: I saw a beautiful dress in the store the other day, and if I have a girlfriend, I must buy it for her. This will attract the attention of some girls. At this time, you can find a chance to leave for a while. If the event is held in a hotel or coffee bar, there must be paper and pens at the front desk.
Ask for a pen and paper at the front desk, and write down: Actually, I like you best, but when I meet a girl I like and don't know how to express it, I will write my thoughts on paper for you. ...
Then he went back to the scene, and when the host brought the atmosphere to a climax, he secretly slipped the note to the girl he liked while others were not paying attention.
Because the practice is different from others, it will definitely leave a deep impression on that girl.
garbage can
Let's imagine ... there is a trash can in front of us.
At this moment, when you read this article, you might as well calm down and face your inner self ... I am cowardly, naive, disgusting, really helpless, unattractive, like a fool and single. I think as long as I have money, I will have a woman. I will be dumped eventually. I'm hopeless. I envy those friends who have lovers ...
Please throw away all these ideas and throw them into the trash can in front of you ... that doesn't mean your ideas are rubbish.
Because you are not weak, you have the right to love and be loved, so these thoughts are meaningless to you.
All right! We might as well take a deep breath and make up our minds in front of you in the mirror.
In my world, the most wonderful love door will open, a love story starring me, I will firmly believe. ...