Because many people have not truly understood the meaning of the word friend.
They talk about "friends", but in fact, they talk about financial products.
Go ahead when you see an advantage, and withdraw immediately when in danger.
Many friendships are based on these eight words.
“It’s good for me to date so-and-so, I’ll give it a try.”
“It’s a successful relationship and I’m really happy to get the benefits. I was right.”
"The benefits are gradually not as great as at the beginning, but I am not the kind of person who makes friends for benefits, so I will not break off the friendship."
"Hey, what's going on? Why doesn't he just There's something wrong with him without any benefit, well, it's really annoying. I'm not someone who makes friends for benefits, but it's his own fault first, so I'll just leave."
"You ask me why I'm dating him. So-and-so breaks off friendship? Tsk, let me tell you, so-and-so has a lot of problems, but he also..."
This is the process of many friendships from the beginning to the end.
What’s wrong?
The problem is that there is no sense of inconsistency in replacing the "so-and-so" that appears as a person above with a certain financial product or a certain stock.
If the actual investment behavior is called making friends, what will it bring?
As a stock lover, your scope of responsibility is only stock trading. If you are really trading stocks, there is no problem.
But you are not, you are actually a friend, and it is very likely that you are a friend who takes the initiative to make friends with others out of the desire for some kind of benefit.
When you make friends with the attitude of stock trading, you also think that you only have the responsibility of stock trading.
If the stock goes up, buy it quickly; if it goes down, forget it and leave.
You said I was wrong? Nonsense, who doesn’t speculate in stocks like this? At most, the vision is sharper and the heart is stronger, but the essence is not the same? Don't laugh at anyone!
But people are not stocks, and friendship is not stock trading.
What will people who reap the benefits of friendship, take on the responsibility of stock trading, deceive themselves and others, and call this behavior "making friends wisely" get in the end?
If you are lucky, the person opposite you is also a stock lover. The two of you speculate on each other, and whoever falls first wins.
However, if the other person is not a stock friend, how can he treat you?
If he also sees himself as an investment object, and you decide that he has advantages and benefits that you cannot have, and you think that the only way to get his benefits is through friendship. In the name of... the consequences are obvious. In such a huge contrast, he is destined to control you and get more powerful benefits from you.
Think about it, how many benefits do you have for him?
If he regards himself as a real person, he is destined not to be too kind to the people who play this trick, whether it is for himself or for others, so - at least nothing will be gained. If it is serious, the troops will be lost and the generals will be lost.
The later it is discovered, the more serious the consequences.
And what does this mean for those who invest in friends and “take advantage when there is profit and retreat when danger arises”?
The danger was doomed from the beginning.
The same is true for the party being made friends with.
This is why many people hate and avoid making friends.
If you read the family letters and family precepts of the ancients, you will know that the ancients actually had an indescribable fear of making friends, and there are countless famous sayings in them.
So, what is the meaning of friends?
To help you distinguish between what is a stock speculator and what is a true friend.
Perhaps you have never come into contact with or even seen the existence of "real friends".
But you have to believe in his existence, so as not to fall into the trap of "Everyone is speculating in stocks, so I'll do it too, and I'll leave it to fate whether I make a profit or lose money." I lose if I make a friend.”
It’s not that you can’t get good through making friends, but while trying to get good through making friends, have you ever considered how much corresponding evil you can bear? One point or ten? More or less?
How do you plan to inform others who have not yet seen evil? "Taking ugly words first" often makes you an unpopular person. Are you willing to take this risk in order to prevent the person you are making friends from being confused?
Those who have achieved these two points have probably passed the passing line of friendship, just passed it.