As I walk along the road of life, I don’t realize until I get older that I have a life that has accumulated over the years. Only then do I deeply realize that the relationship between people is only microseconds, just like recently. I just read a book, what the author Tian Xin said - "Don't overestimate interpersonal relationships, and don't underestimate the rules of human nature."

When dealing with interpersonal relationships, how can we advance and retreat appropriately and maintain a suitable and appropriate distance?

As the ancients said, the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water.

The friendship between friends is based on morality. The friendship is elegant and pure, as light as water.

Perhaps, you can only truly understand this sentence after experiencing the warmth and coldness of human relationships. A truly sincere friend may not have frequent contact with you, but as long as you need help, your friend will lend you a helping hand without hesitation and show you sincere friendship. But the so-called brothers around me who usually call each other brothers are now "playing wisely to protect themselves".

Therefore, only after people experience some things can they see many things clearly and distinguish many people.

The greatest evil in human nature is not being grateful.

"Grateful Heart", I believe most people can sing this song, and it is now taught in kindergartens. However, just because someone can sing doesn’t mean he can “do it” and “do it well”.

Whether a person is grateful or not does not depend on what he says, but on how he does it. The most direct way is to see how he treats his parents. Everyone is born and raised by parents. Parents give us life, teach us how to read and write, and understand the principles of life. However, some people think that it is natural for their parents to treat them well, and that parents should work hard without complaining. The ideological tradition of the older generation in China always thinks of raising children to prepare for old age, and spend everything they have to make children grow up. However, some people lose their original intentions after becoming famous, and they dislike their parents for being uneducated, or they forcefully separate from their parents in order to show their identity and have no contact with them. Such people are not filial to their parents and have average moral values. As a human being, do you dare to think that such people can treat you sincerely?

Friendship is not an equal exchange.

The book mentions that in "Takeshi Kitano's Tavern", there is an exposition about friendship: "I helped you before, why don't you help me now?"

The idea of ??"wanting something from friendship" is wrong in itself.

Indeed. In real life, many people often seem to make friends under the banner of "life-long friendship" or "spreading money at both ends", but their own purpose is very strong, and they always hope that their efforts will be reciprocated or reciprocated. It’s about giving more than you get in return. This type of people will always go through their own mental process before making friends or giving money - is this "deal" worth it?

As everyone knows, no one in the world is a fool, so how can they not see the facts clearly? The old adage "time passes, a person's heart is revealed" still has its truth.

Friendship is not an exchange of equal value. If your contribution is based on equal return, I suggest you think twice about it no matter what kind of friendship you engage in, because not every contribution is can all be rewarded. Because true friendship depends on sincerity, not on rate of return.

Finally, I would like to share with you a quote from the book that I really like: The best attitude for an adult to interact with others is to "be yourself, and accept the situation as it comes."