In this world, there are actually no people born in cool thin. Some people don't have friends, and even have indifferent affection, just because they have experienced some changes. When they are down and out, when they need the help of friends and relatives, they see that their so-called friends are far away from themselves, and that their so-called relatives are avoiding and disgusted with themselves, and their hearts are deeply hurt. Therefore, they no longer believe in friendship, or even family ties. Once they become friends, they will break off the relationship on purpose. They no longer make new friends and are indifferent to their loved ones. Therefore, they give people the impression that they are cool thin. In fact, they are wise men in this complex world.
Second, I'm not good at dealing with people and I don't know much about the world.
In real life, some people don't have any friends, even their family ties are indifferent, not because they really don't want to make friends or need friends, nor because they don't attach importance to family ties, but because they are too simple and direct, not good at interacting with people, and they don't know much about the world. When dealing with interpersonal relationships, there will always be communication problems, or their attitude will give people the impression of indifference and difficulty. Over time, the more setbacks they suffer, the less willing they are to take the initiative to make friends and maintain family relationships.
The book "Learn a little about the world every day" says that such people are real and heartless, but they still have to change. After all, everyone is not an island. If you want to survive and develop in this society, you must improve your interpersonal skills and know something about the world.
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Third, recognize that the essence of interpersonal relationship is interest exchange, and start to stay away from low-quality circle of friends.
The book Understanding People in a Complex World points out that some people who seem to have no friends and are indifferent to their families actually live clearly, have mature minds and have their own ideas. They know that low-quality social interaction, whether it is fair-weather friends or relatives who will only hold them back, will only waste their time and energy if they contact them too much.
Moreover, they also deeply realize that the essence of interpersonal relationship is the exchange of interests. Many so-called relatives and friends have few emotional elements, mainly interest calculation. Instead of being insatiable because of these relationships, it is better to leave more time for yourself to improve and strengthen yourself in loneliness. Even if you want to socialize, you should socialize upwards, make high-end contacts and link your own nobles.
Fourth, live clearly and know that "the world is your own and has nothing to do with others" and will not force yourself to cater to others.
A person's life, in the final analysis, is actually a person's trip. From beginning to end, you are the only one in your world. Why do some people have no friends and are indifferent to their family? It is precisely because they see this clearly that they would rather let themselves appear naturally withdrawn and cool thin than live in other people's world and become their supporting roles.
The book "The Wise Man in a Complex World" says that people like this, although withdrawn and seemingly lonely, are actually very strong inside and have a rich spiritual world. They know that it is better to please themselves and live for themselves than to please others. Living a noble life is not in vain.