In real life, each of us may encounter some troubles in communication with others. However, everyone has different reasons. Finding out where your troubles come from is helpful to prescribe the right medicine and solve your own problems.
In the process of communicating with others, a person's ability is different, but this does not mean that people with high overall communication ability have no defects in every detail; It doesn't mean that people with low overall communication skills are lacking in all aspects. From the perspective of social psychology, the troubles in communication with people can be subdivided into troubles in speech, troubles in making friends, troubles in treating people with things and troubles in communication with the opposite sex. It should be admitted that these four aspects are independent of each other. Some people are not good at words, but they have many friends. Some people are good and exquisite, but they don't pay attention to details and have no real friends; Some people are lively and humorous among friends of the same sex, but they are dull and shy when interacting with friends of the opposite sex; Some people have a lot of friends, but they treat people in general. Therefore, if you want to completely overcome the troubles when you get along with others, you need to train and cultivate yourself in a targeted manner on the premise of knowing yourself.
Language training
First of all, we should pay attention to expressing our true feelings no matter what we talk about. Only when you open your heart and express yourself truly will others be interested in your conversation. Second, learn to listen. Since this is a conversation, of course, the other party should have something to say, not just yourself. In addition, you should constantly enrich your knowledge. Only in this way can you broaden your mind and make the conversation interesting.
Making friends
First of all, we should treat people sincerely and strive to cultivate a good personality quality of interpersonal attraction. The process of making friends is actually a process of mutual acceptance. You choose others according to strict standards, and others are choosing you. With good character and quality, you will be led by others, know yourself, and friendship will be easily established. Secondly, we should be good at observing the real needs of others, stand in the position of others, think more about others, and only give up, so the relationship is difficult to maintain. Finally, we should properly master interpersonal skills. In short, we should learn to choose, neither humble nor supercilious.
The cultivation of dealing with people.
Learn to start with small things in daily life, pay attention to character cultivation, and pay special attention to the feedback information given by the environment. In general communication, the correct way to treat people can receive positive feedback; Bad ways of dealing with people, even if they are not clearly corrected, can get some hints through other people's little actions. Learning to understand these correctly is helpful to self-adjustment in time. On the other hand, correct communication skills and behaviors are the product of socialization, so we should actively participate in social activities in order to master and apply them in practice.
Cultivate the ability to communicate with the opposite sex
In communication with the opposite sex, people's troubles have congenital factors and acquired factors. To solve these problems, on the one hand, we should gradually expand our social circle in practice, on the other hand, we should correctly distinguish the relationship between friendship and love in thought.
In a word, correctly distinguishing the troubles when interacting with people and adopting strategies to solve specific problems will help improve your social skills and become a real "social person".