When dealing with people, we are not all inclusive, but picky. I always like to associate with friends who make me feel comfortable. In fact, these friends are your real friends and your truest state.
Just like this, in daily life, we can easily find that people who often have the same hobbies and personalities are generally more likely to attract each other.
For example, a person is timid, so most of his friends are like this; On the contrary, if he is aboveboard and fearless, so are most of his friends, because people will be attracted to others.
There is a saying like this: "Everyone has different temperament and characteristics. What kind of person you want to attract depends on what kind of person you are."
So, what kind of people do you think will be around you?
I believe many people have heard a story:
A young man went to the store to buy a bowl. Someone told him that when he picked up a bowl, he could distinguish a good bowl from a bad one by touching other bowls.
He picked up a bowl in the shop and gently bumped into other bowls in turn. The sound made by each bowl is either dull or muddy, and there is no crisp feeling at all.
But the young people kept bumping, but the young people basically picked out all the bowls in the shop, but none of them liked them.
The boss looked at the strange young man in disbelief. When he first came in, the boss couldn't figure out why the young man bumped into two bowls. At this moment, the boss came over and asked the young man.
The young man told the boss that someone told me that if a bowl can make a crisp and pleasant sound, it must be a good bowl.
Hearing this, the boss seemed to understand why he chose a bowl and handed it to him. He smiled and said to the young man:
"You can try this bowl, maybe you can pick the bowl you like!"
The young man took the boss's bowl and tasted it doubtfully. As a result, every bowl the young man tried made a crisp sound, and he looked at the boss with a puzzled face.
The boss smiled and said:
"Have you ever thought, in fact, the bowl you picked up and tried is defective in itself. If you try it, it will only be turbid and harsh.
So if you want to choose a good bowl, the most important thing is to make sure you have a good bowl in your hand. "
Isn't that what people do? What kind of person you are determines what kind of person you will meet. This kind of fate can be said to be destiny takes a hand, or it can be said to be decided by oneself. In fact, the most important thing is how you look at yourself and others.
As the old saying goes: "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step; There must be a teacher in a threesome; Those who gain the Tao help more, and those who lose the Tao help less. "
In fact, no amount of words can clearly express a person's best position and best friend. If you want to see how far a person can go, you must see what kind of people he is with.
People often say: details determine success or failure!
Each of us should not underestimate the influence and subtle power of others. If we look closely, you will find that people are shaped step by step in such a small power.
This is like saying that if you want to be a responsible person, you must associate with brave and responsible people; If you want to be a successful person, you should be closer to a successful person.
There was a patient with severe anxiety disorder who wanted to get rid of cold panic and anxiety, but no matter how he took medicine, he couldn't get rid of it, so he went to a mental hospital to consult a doctor.
After listening to his detailed description, the doctor didn't say anything, so he picked up a pen and wrote down the prescription on paper.
The prescription says:
"It takes four hours to see the painter's working condition every day, and one hour to visit the elderly in the nursing home."
He felt very strange. What method is this?
The doctor saw his doubts and said to him:
"If you want to get rid of your panic and anxiety, nothing is more effective than the painter's calm and optimistic personality."
The patient went back in doubt and listened carefully to the doctor's advice. Soon, he really succeeded in getting rid of those bad habits.
As the saying goes, "If you are near Zhu Zhechi, you will be black, if you are near Mexico".
In fact, there is interaction between people.
In particular, the long-term relationship between the two sides has a great influence not only on one person, but also on another. So it's not hard to find out who you are with, which is really important!
Many times we blindly devote ourselves to a goal, but when our value is exhausted by others, we are gone and others turn away.
I have read such a passage:
Don't chase a horse, use the time of chasing a horse to plant grass. When spring blossoms, there will be a number of good horses for you to choose from.
Don't try to curry favor with a person, use the time when you have no friends for the time being to improve your virtue. When the time is right, there will be many friends walking with you.
Many people don't realize that friends bought with human feelings and money are short-lived and frothy, while friends won by some people with virtue and character are eternal and precious.
There is no doubt that enriching and improving yourself has more capital to stay away from villains than pleasing others.
I am a big tree, birds and animals will come to live;
I am the sea, so I can accommodate all the rivers.
If you want to talk and laugh with successful people, you must be a successful person.
Excellent people often meet better people; Only by becoming a better self can we meet better people.
What our life will be like has a lot to do with our attitude towards making friends and the people around us.
Just like being with a sunny person, the heart will not sink; With diligent people, thoughts and actions will not be lazy; With generous people, you won't be stingy; With wise people, you won't be in a hurry.
Who are we? We will meet. When the flowers bloom, let's have a wonderful date together!
Life is short, you should be an excellent person, and advance with excellent people. # The second issue of "Flash Moment" theme essay # # Fashion is around #
I am @ Guardian Tangyuan, guarding softness and meeting pure white.