As the saying goes: "Rely on your parents at home and rely on your friends when you go out." Friends have a great influence on a person's thoughts, words and deeds. Making friends with upright people can make you positive; making friends with decadent people may make you unmotivated. It can be seen that careless friendships may cause life to deviate from the course, and even become the cause of catastrophic consequences. For this reason, you should be strategic in making friends, make more beneficial friends, and stay away from "harmful friends".
There is no doubt that bad friends bring losses to people’s work, life, economy, emotions, etc. Associating with harmful friends may be a waste of time and money, or may cause unforgettable damage to your career and emotions.
There are many types and manifestations of bad friends, and they generally fall into the following categories.
Indifferent type: This type of person looks at the entire world with their inner indifference and does not believe that there is warmth in life. Just like the core part of the Antarctic glacier, it will never melt no matter how warm the climate is. .
Suspicion of everything: This type of person is good at looking at people and things with suspicion. If they are enthusiastic about them, they will suspect you of ulterior motives; if they keep a distance, they will think that you are having trouble with them, and they are all other people no matter what. No.
Self-conscious type: This kind of person is self-centered and completely disregards the feelings of others. If you are slightly dissatisfied, you will pretend to be dissatisfied and walk away.
Melancholic and resentful type: This kind of person has experienced misfortune in life or has had a bad career. Frustrated at work, troubled marriage, emotional trauma. I can't get rid of myself, just like Mrs. Xianglin, she talks non-stop when meeting people, always trying to win sympathy and pity.
Ulterior motives: This type of person is good at packaging and disguising themselves. They observe what others say and do what they want during the relationship, and use beautiful words to confuse the other party with favors. Once the time is right, they will reveal their true colors and take advantage of trivial matters. , the financial and emotional losses will eventually be great, and that kind of pain may be difficult to heal in a lifetime.
People often say: "Life is like chess. If you make one careless move, you will lose everything." If you make friends you shouldn't make and participate in activities you shouldn't participate in, you will get deeper and deeper into trouble. , and in the end can only regret it. Therefore, once you have made a "bad friend", you must make a clean break with them and terminate the relationship without hesitation. For example, if you know that the other person is violating discipline and law, don’t date him for the sake of a little profit: if you know that someone is dating you because of the power in your hands and wants to use you to gain some benefits for him, you must resist it. Temptation, avoid it.
Not making friends indiscriminately is also an effective way to prevent making "bad friends". Some people come when they are invited, drink when they are invited, and go when they want to have fun. This is very dangerous. Nowadays, some people are always trying their best to find "backers" for themselves and opportunities for their improper behavior. One of the methods is to eat, drink, and flirt with some greedy and playful people who like to take advantage of others, to lure them to the bait and drag them down. Get into the water. As the saying goes: "If you take someone else's short hand, you will eat their soft mouth." Once you are tricked, it will not be so easy to get out.
The key to preventing "bad friends" is to improve life cultivation and restrain selfish desires. The ancients said: Without desire, you will be strong. The "hardness" here means not to be moved by undue interests, and it means to straighten your spine and maintain your noble and independent personality. Everyone should understand the truth that there is no free lunch in the world. If you want to get something extra, you will lose something of your own. Sometimes you may even end up losing more than you gain. Never trade principles for the sake of temporary gain. Lost character.
You can't live without friends, but you have to choose when making friends, because getting close to wise and helpful friends will increase your intelligence; getting close to stupid and harmful friends will increase bad habits.
Once upon a time, there was a coal merchant who transported coal from outside the city to the city to sell it every day. Since the profit from coal was not very good, he lived a very miserable life. He thought to himself: "If I help others transport other things while transporting coal, I can make more money." One day, he met a bleacher on the road and started chatting with him.
The coal seller said: "You and I have to go to the city every day, which is a waste of time and energy. Why don't we cooperate and move it together? In this way, you don't have to work so hard, and I only need to I'll just charge you a little fee."
However, after looking at the dirty coal merchant, the bleacher said to him in a very wise tone: "Yes! If my Please carry the cloth. It can indeed save a lot of time, but my cloth will be stained by your coal, and no one dares to buy it. This huge loss is compared with the little benefit you give me. It’s absolutely not worth it.” This story tells us that we must know how to distinguish good friends from bad friends like the bleacher.
Beneficial friends are the kindness of life and the favor of fate. Meeting beneficial friends will make your life full of warmth and meaning. Yiyou regardless of age, gender, occupation, culture, belief, nationality, skin color and other conditions, just like the song in "Red Lantern": they all have a red (kind) heart!
Yiyou It is the gentle breeze of spring, the coolness of summer, the harvest of autumn, and the warm sunshine of winter. When you succeed, he blesses you; when you are in trouble, he helps you; when you encounter troubles, he listens to you. In front of good friends, you can speak your mind directly and tell your joys, sorrows and joys without any scruples. He can tolerate your rudeness, understand your mood, and give you timely advice, but he will never condone your ignorance. Yiyou has no utilitarian purpose as a human being. They believe that the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water and they have no demands and will not ask for anything.
Some friends are like flowers. When you are in full bloom, he will put you in his head and offer you on the table; if you wither, he will abandon you. That is to say, when you have power and wealth, he will hold you high, flatter you and obey you in everything; once your fame, wealth and honor are gone and you have lost the value of use, he will turn his back on you and leave you. This is the friend who dislikes poverty and loves wealth.
Some friends are like scales. If you are heavier than him, he will lower his head; if you are lighter than him, he will stand tall. In other words, when you have the means, the reputation, and the power. He will bow his head to you in a groveling and fawning manner; when your fame and power are gone, he will raise his head high and look down on you.
The above two are bad friends, and there are two kinds of good friends:
Some friends are like mountains, which can plant forests and support all kinds of birds and animals. Let the animals gather inside and live freely. So good friends are like mountains, with a broad mind. Just like Mr. Mengchang, he has three thousand diners and can accommodate many friends.
There is a kind of friend like the earth, which can carry all things. We build houses on the earth, plant flowers, grass and trees, and even people and cars walk on it, and the earth bears it without complaint. Therefore, friends like the earth can carry us, take responsibility for us, and serve us.
Benefiting friends makes people progress, while harming friends makes people fall behind. A friend in need is a friend indeed. A bad friend will leave you in death. A good friend can stay with you for a lifetime, but a bad friend can only stay with you for a while. We meet all kinds of different people in our lives. Among them, there are good friends and bad friends. How should we choose? First of all, we must look at his character. Whether it is fair or not. Secondly, it depends on whether his life is lazy. People who live a lazy life will not be of any help to their friends, but will only give people endless troubles and burdens. Some people have a successful career because they make good friends, and some people suffer a lifetime of misery because they make careless friends.
Thick Black Philosophy
A true friend will not promise you anything. Because he knows that he is indulging you and harming you instead of loving you.