Do you know how to guide children to communicate with their peers correctly? Many children are introverted, just entering the campus, and have not learned to get along with their peers correctly. I have carefully arranged the knowledge and information about how to guide children to communicate with their peers correctly, hoping to help you.
How to guide children to communicate with peers correctly 1 (1) What should children do if they are afraid of life?
Generally speaking, children are afraid of strangers. In the early days, babies of five or six months have this situation. You let him get close to others, and he cried as if he had been greatly wronged. When you are two or three years old, the fear of strangers will be more serious. I cringe when I see strangers, hide my face in my mother's arms, and dare not meet strangers. Most of this fear of life will last until after kindergarten. It is difficult for a child who is afraid of life to get along well with everyone except the teacher who takes care of him every day.
This fear of life can be analyzed in two stages: the first stage is when the baby is one or two years old; The second stage is children over 3 years old.
Newborn babies or one-year-old children are afraid of life. The main reason is fear. Don't worry too much. It is natural for babies who try to get in touch with people other than their parents to be afraid of strangers. It can be said that the baby's fear of life is the best evidence that wisdom begins to develop.
Generally speaking, children over 3 years old are not afraid of strangers. If your child is still afraid of Bo, you should pay close attention to it.
Why are children so afraid of life? Most timid children have a family that dotes on them too much, and they have become everyone's treasures. They are always with their parents, so they will naturally be afraid when they meet strangers.
With the development of society, there are more and more professional women, and some mothers ask nannies to take care of their children. But for a child who regards his mother as a treasure, he will feel very uneasy if he doesn't see his dear mother. If he keeps changing nannies, the situation will be even worse. Parents insist on fostering their children regardless of their feelings, which may increase his anxiety and hurt his mind. So he cries when he sees others. Some fathers scare their children when they have nothing to do. "You are not good, the big tiger is coming" or "If you are not good, I will give you to another mother." Such threatening words should be avoided to children, lest they believe them.
There are two ways to eliminate children's fear of life: one is to eliminate children's fear of others, don't scare them casually, and the most important thing is not to describe people around them as bad people; Second, treat him patiently in daily life, and let the children try to train themselves in various ways to cultivate a brave spirit.
(b) How should introverted children be treated?
For an introverted child, no matter what you ask him to do, he is afraid, either afraid or behind others. Most of these children can't speak their minds, and he is used to keeping his own opinions. Of course I feel uncomfortable after such a long time. Not only he is unhappy, but also his mother is worried.
According to expert research, the reason why children are timid and introverted is mostly because others are always dissatisfied with his performance-"No matter how hard I try, my mother is still dissatisfied, and I feel very ashamed." "If there is a hole in the ground, I really want to get in." Do you think children with this idea can be happy?
Generally speaking, most introverted and timid children lack life experience, or become introverted and timid because of lack of life experience under the strong pressure of their parents. Parents should give him the opportunity to be active and independent, encourage him to play with his peers, and don't keep his children indoors all day, which will definitely improve.
Moreover, people around him should also avoid letting him do things beyond his power, lest the child's self-confidence in trying be hurt and become introverted and timid.
After children go to primary school, they often taste success or failure. For example; He used to get excellent grades, but suddenly getting a "good" for a while will definitely hurt his self-confidence. At this time, his parents must help him and try to make him taste the joy of success again and restore his self-confidence, so that he will work harder. If you don't consider your child's ability, ask too much, or often blame him, it will easily make him lose confidence. Some parents not only never admit their mistakes, but also often put pressure on their children and say, "You are so stupid. How can you go on like this? " Even said: "How can such a simple question be wrong?" Think about it from another angle! If it were you, would it feel better to be scolded often? Therefore, the child loses self-confidence and the father has a great responsibility.
Some parents often think that children are inappropriate and naive. Under such pressure, he certainly can't say a word in front of strangers. Some parents take exams every day because their children's grades are not ideal, so that their children live under the pressure of grades every day. Later, this kind of child has no confidence in what you ask him to do. Examples like this can often be seen in the files of children experts.
From here, we draw a conclusion that parents should understand their children's abilities, assign things to them according to their abilities, and let them strive for the joy of success, so that he will not become passive and timid. Parents who always point their children's butts really need to reflect. I hope parents can take a long view and cultivate their children's self-confidence in a warm and rewarding way.
(3) How to treat children who dominate at home and are cowardly outside?
This kind of child is like a vicious little tyrant at home, but once he leaves home, he is completely changed, like a "doormat", honest and cowardly.
Home-led, cowardly children outside, commonly known as "horizontal in the nest", are mostly only children or children brought up by grandparents. At home, the elders let them do everything. As a result of this overindulgence, children often lack independent ability. Parents should pay attention to strict discipline once they find this phenomenon. Only in this way can the child's bad condition be improved quickly.
Parents should not spoil such children too much. If children don't respect their parents and grandparents, they must be severely punished, and tell him that the rules should start at home, not just superficial words, and let him know that doing something wrong must be punished. In addition, parents must discipline their children carefully.
A spoiled child at home can't adapt to the ever-changing living space outside and becomes timid.
Such a child is dejected and despondent outside like a defeated rooster, because no one outside loves him as much as his elders. He was wronged outside, of course, he would flee to his own kingdom to vent. Beat the tyrant down a peg or two, and the vicious circle will become more and more serious. For such a child, parents should first strictly discipline him and arrange more opportunities for him to play with other companions, so that he can experience the happiness of getting along well with others from group games, rather than being exclusive. I believe this will definitely correct his bad habits.
(4) What if the child is dependent?
Generally speaking, children are very dependent on all aspects. Most experts believe that children are highly dependent because they don't get the dependence and care they deserve when they should enjoy life is sweet, so it is often difficult for them to stand on their own feet.
Many cases show that it is difficult for a child who has never lived a happy life since childhood, or who can't rely on his parents when he has to rely on them.
There are many things that one or two-year-old children can't do. At this time, it is normal to feel dependent. Parents should help him and not leave him alone, lest he grow up rebellious and have more problems.
On the contrary, parents should fully satisfy their children's dependence psychology when they need to be taken care of most, so that children can develop their self-ability, gain self-confidence and actively pursue their own direction. We often hear parents say with relief and modesty, "Actually, I didn't teach him, but he will." Although my parents say so, I can feel the harmonious atmosphere between the children in my parents' shed. It is this stable and harmonious family atmosphere that makes the children imperceptibly.
There is also a kind of child, because parents can't live without their children, so they are internally dependent. We can say that parents depend on their children. Some psychoanalysts believe that there is nothing abnormal about this inseparable phenomenon between mother and child. Indeed, a child who has never left his parents is inseparable from his parents, but if the mother dotes on the child to eliminate anxiety, it should be reviewed.
According to the survey, children who grow up like this are not only inseparable from their mothers, but also have strong dependence. Kindergartens are inseparable from their parents' children, mostly influenced by their mothers' doting.
Of course. Some children's dependence is a habit formed from childhood. It will be difficult once there is no help from others. The best way is to let him do what he should do and stop spoiling him.
In this regard, the family must be consistent and work hard to train him until he gets things done. If you have a nanny at home, you should pay attention to two points: first, if possible, you can't invite a little aunt; Second, communicate with the little aunt in advance. Let the child do what he should do. In short, we must let him do it by himself, or even when he grows up, he can't escape the clutches of dependence.
The competition for survival in modern society is very fierce, and everything depends on ourselves. A person who depends on everything will soon be eliminated by society.
(5) What if the children don't fit in?
In fact, children who live in disharmony, whether escaping from their partners or being unpopular with their partners, are all due to the lack of training in communication and cooperation skills with their peers in the past education. There are two kinds of unsociable children. One is that they don't want to associate with each other. Most of these children are only children and will live with their grandparents when they grow up. Because they have no peers or friends, they lack exercise opportunities to deal with their peers. Although you can get along well with adults who can give you protection and support, you will feel uneasy and afraid of your peers who can't meet your requirements and are prone to conflicts, and even want to escape. The social development of such children lags behind the general level. On the other hand, a child who doesn't get along with others once avoided his partner because he was hit and embarrassed in some collective occasions (such as laughing at his partner after wetting his pants), and became shy and withdrawn.
Parents should not be impatient with children who are at odds with others. They should calmly analyze the reasons and then prescribe the right medicine. Parents should never force the former child to join the children's group. We must first find out the children who can get along with him, create more opportunities for them to get along with each other and encourage them to live in harmony.
After getting familiar with a few specific partners, children will gradually expand their life circle and make more friends. This step-by-step method can not only let children experience the fun of making friends, but also gradually build self-confidence in communication.
How to guide children to communicate with peers correctly 2 1, and create an environment for children to make friends.
Inviting children to be guests at home can be the first step. Take children to entertain their friends enthusiastically and encourage them to share their candy and toys with their partners. Parents should gradually let their children find their own partners to play with, and also educate their children to greet, approach and help their peers when they are in contact with them. When going out to play, let the children walk with their classmates.
It is very important to set a good example.
Parents are the first teachers of the children. Parents should influence their children with sincere feelings for their neighbors and comrades around them, and often take their children to their neighbors and friends' homes to make them realize that it is a pleasant thing to associate with others.
3, educate children to learn to share, not afraid of loss.
Parents should educate their children to give books and toys to other children. When their children have top-notch performance, they should be inspired and educated to listen to their partners. When children quarrel with their partners, they should not be partial to them and mediate. When their children show generosity and understanding to their partners, they should be affirmed and praised. In short, let your children know that they should be equal to their peers.