The prosperity of a metropolis can sometimes make people particularly confused. In this fast-paced era, if you look back at the road you have come, you will feel that your youth has gone away from you and your dreams are getting farther and farther away. Whenever night falls, the lights in the city are more illusory and uneasy, and the endless traffic is more ethereal than during the day. Look at yourself again and feel that you are particularly lonely, and you can't find anyone to complain to.
In 213, one and a half years after graduation, I returned to work in Shenzhen from Hangzhou. Here, the only college classmate who has contact with me is a male classmate with a strong relationship. I remember the first night when I flew back to Shenzhen, I got on the airport bus and walked through strange and brightly lit streets. I knew that I had to face the future road alone and re-establish my own life circle and resource circle.
I still deeply remember the scene of staying in my classmate's rented room for one night. My classmate slept on the floor, and my girlfriend and I were in the same bed. I still remember that my ex-boyfriend sent a message to himself, and there was a moment when he hoped to get back together, but he was so determined that he would never be allowed to be stupid, and he didn't want to waste the rest of his life for him. After a person settled down, he slowly learned the loneliness of guitar.
I walked alone for seven years. Seven years of struggle, staying in a city for five years, from one person to two people; I have never had a friend to have hundreds of contacts in WeChat, and I have met many people. Many people are like passers-by. They stay in life and leave. In the past seven years, I have been working crazily, and I can only hold my work in my heart. I have been living a two-point and one-line life at work and dormitory. Then I picked up the brush again, and the loneliness gradually faded out of my life, and life found something I really loved. In the past seven years, I was fortunate to have left a few sincere brothers and friends around me. Although I have been betrayed, I still believe that there will still be true feelings in this world, and I will still treat my friends sincerely and keep my distance from those who are drifting away.
there is only one measure for me to make friends, and that is sincerity. See if others treat each other sincerely, regardless of their background, because I always make friends with great care.
One day after work in 213, it suddenly began to rain heavily. Because I didn't bring my umbrella and didn't know my roommate who lived in the dormitory next door, I saw the girls sitting in front of me in the same department packing their things and getting ready to go. My little heart was beating. I struggled with my thoughts and ran over to ask Da Yingzi, Elephant and A Nan if they were on the same road, and if they were on the same road, could you give me a ride? At that time, the embarrassing scene was still fresh in my memory. Not only were there different roads, but they all had their own homes, and I was just a person living in a dormitory.
so I met the three of them. They never disliked my background and took special care of me in the daily life of the company. Later, we all left our jobs and jumped to other companies. I knew more and more people, and went through one person after another into my life, but no one wanted to stay in my own tomorrow.
Later, I met many things, and the only ones who were willing to help themselves were them. And they are also sincere with you, and they are distressed that you are working hard alone. Whenever I feel that I am underqualified and my dream of blx is broken by reality, I will call the elephant; Whenever my life and feelings are about to collapse, I either call Dayingzi or call Nan. At that time, we were still quite young, and we had our own jobs to be busy, even though we were separated by a district, it was difficult to get together. But when I need it alone, I share my happiness or misfortune with them, and I also feel that we have a long heart-to-heart talk face to face. Sometimes it is their encouragement that makes me smile again and have the courage to go to tomorrow.
oh, there's a big brother terry. When I change jobs twice, I will chat with him and finally say the same thing: I have to think about what I want. He always replies to me, didn't he say the same thing in his last job?
I said, fuck off, if you can talk well.
one day in four years.
I told the three of them: I always feel that someone suddenly appears around me, which seems to disrupt all my life and break my original appearance, and sometimes I have an unreal fantasy.
The elephant jumped out and said, What's the situation? What? I haven't updated my information for too long. Is Qiaobo married?
what the hell, can you not know that I am married? I said excitedly on the other side of WeChat.
Dayingzi said with a cheerful smile: Elephants enjoy a person's life more than you did in those days. When they met the right person, they were not married and had children, and they were all happy.
Anan: You worry too much.
I said, he took me home to meet my parents.
da yingzi said, have you seen it? What's the atmosphere like?
A Nan said: I can go. I want to know more about him. Family background is one of them.
The elephant said: It is a good thing to know the man's family background in advance.
I said, I went to see it. I didn't prepare anything. I was too busy and suddenly at work, and I went empty-handed. I stayed at his house for about an hour and a half, and then I came back after eating. His parents asked me many questions, and I answered them one by one.
Anan and Dayingzi said: When you go to someone's house for the first time, you should buy something, even simple fruit!
Dayingzi continued to ask: Did you (pretend) want to help clean up after eating?
The elephant said at the end of WeChat: Dayingzi ~.
I said, they are still chatting after eating. They don't move, and I dare not move.
A Nan said: It's so picturesque!
the three of them kept asking: how are the families?
I said: His parents are very happy, and they brought their girlfriends home by themselves.
nan said, how is your family? How do parents feel?
Dayingzi said: So what are his parents like? Sister Qiaobo, your concern, hehe, you can really bye bye. The people who eat melons said they were in a hurry. Two scorpios and a Pisces are stamping their feet!
Anan said: Yes, I'm anxious.
I'm worried to death, too: ask weakly, how are his parents? What do you mean? It's just over an hour to eat. It's not clear at all.
The elephant said: Do you feel like a passerby? Also, have you bought a house?
Anan said: What's the environment at home? Can you tell the general family conditions? How does it feel to talk to his parents? Treat you well.
Dayingzi said: 1. How are parents? Are they easy to get along with? Are they enthusiastic about you? 2. How much information did you learn about his family members, family background, parents' occupation and economy after that meal? 3. What I told you when I left. 4. What attitude did the boy have towards you when he returned to Shenzhen after dinner, and did he reveal his parents' feelings for you?
I stared straight back and said, Wow, there is so much information!
A Nan said: So you really went to someone else's house for dinner.
Dayingzi said, I'm crying. When you go to someone's house, you don't just want them to talk about you, but you need to have ten eyes to observe their home!
I said, yes, but I seem to be the other way around, which is too complicated.
one by one, they came over and said, so we should ask, is the food delicious? How's the soup? You are absorbed in eating, hahaha. The rhythm is taken away by people, and we don't know how to improvise. It's only you, so we won't spit out more hahaha.
ok. I can only answer your questions one by one. Let me calm down.
A Nan moved her husband out. Since she is a colleague, she will definitely know the nature of her job, salary, dividends, stocks and so on. Help me find out.
Dayingzi said: Sister Qiaobo, you have to feel good about Nan, a reliable matchmaker, and help you with all the background checks. It has helped you to reduce a lot of risks. After all, people nowadays are very complicated. I asked weakly, how did you dress yesterday?
then I threw a backlit sunset picture to the group.
Dayingzi jumped out again, gave a look that made people laugh, and then added: You gave us a backlight picture, do you want us to fill in the picture ourselves?
I said: blue sweater and long black pants. Am I from another planet?
they said, yes, you can.
Dayingzi finally got back to talking in a serious way, and replied to a lot of experiences and experiences of people who had experienced it. I can't wait to know that the attitude and impression of the man's parents are better than that of the boys. Finally, I comforted me and said: the thoughtlessness of the first meeting can still be remedied later, and don't think too much about others. Boys care about your feelings, which is more important. Untie the knot yourself, get along with him well, get to know him better, and take your mind off your work and into your life. A person's life is very short. Making money and career are not as important as living a good life. It is not easy to meet someone. Come on.
A Nan said: After all, you haven't really spent much time together. Getting along is different from liking and loving. You still need to know more. You can take him out to meet us. Next time I have the opportunity to go to his house, I still need to make up some gifts, and then explain to his parents that I came in a hurry last time. And men must have ideas and plans for life, which is more important.
Dayingzi added the last sentence: Fuck broke my heart.
although they are worried and concerned.
this is a friend.
People who really care about you will share their opinions when you are confused; People who really care about you will never prove their kindness to you, and they don't need anything in return or any reason.
Time has washed away some things, but it has also left something behind.
I'm no longer the teenager who believes in everlasting friendship, but I know more clearly that most of them go their separate ways. But because of them, I believe there will still be real friends in this world.
Actually, there are only a handful of my good friends, but each one is very important and everyone should be happy. No one can be left behind.
if anyone reads this article, I hope you will, too. Be happy.
happy children!
May you always be the purest look in his (her) mind.
good night!