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Every era has its particularity, and everyone has certain principles to make friends. If I take it literally, I don't agree with the author's attitude of making friends, but because of different times, I can't grasp what the author wanted to express at that time, so I just want to talk about some of my own views.
Speaking of making friends, we have to think about a question, that is, what is the definition of "friend" in our understanding? People who can eat and play when they are bored? When you are sad, who can talk to? Is it dangerous or can someone help us? Or the person who knows us best?
I think different people have different definitions of "friend". Furthermore, this is a problem involving a person's needs and values. In my opinion, it is meaningless to talk only about what kind of friends to make. After all, everyone has their own choices.
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As for whether the author mentioned making friends with street businessmen or living in seclusion, I don't think it matters. What matters is how we choose. What are our needs? What are our values? To some extent, choosing a street businessman is the same as choosing a secluded old man. Just because everyone's needs are different. Although I don't want to talk about the interest relationship now, this is another problem that has to be involved.
I think no matter who we choose to be friends with, there is nothing wrong. Is a person's choice. However, there must be a reason. At least, when two people become friends, something must attract each other. To some extent, this attraction is an exchange of values. Of course, this value cannot be measured by price. I think this is the mystery of the feelings between people. At the same time, we will find that this value is priceless and cheap. At some point, this feeling is priceless, but sometimes people's feelings are so fragile.
Why are feelings priceless? Because friendship between friends can't be bought by money. But why is it fragile? Because of the relationship between friends, sometimes it will break up because of some small interests. This is a very interesting question. Here, I won't say it.
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There is another interesting question. With the change of our study and work place. Those friends we once thought were very good eventually lost contact and became strangers.
Everyone's time and energy are limited. In an environment, we will make friends with some people, but without an environment, we will make friends with others, and there are only a few friends left. Many times, the environment is an insurmountable gap. However, we have to admit that those who become strangers because of the isolation of the environment are friends in their lives.
Because of this, I think what we can do is to cherish our current friends and treat them sincerely in this short time and space. At the same time, if you want to pay attention to contact your former friends. Maybe some people won't take the initiative to contact us, but if we think of people who used to be friends, then we can try to contact them and then decide our relationship according to each other's reaction.
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Conclusion:
Friends are always an endless topic, and everyone has different understanding and views on it. In my opinion, some friends did come together for some material reasons at first. However, it gradually became a spiritual communication partner. Perhaps, many people don't like to look at problems in a way of value exchange, but sometimes thinking like this will give us a new perspective. Of course, the friendship between friends is not just an exchange of values.
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