Anyone who has experienced the pain after breaking up knows the feeling of being hollowed out and at a loss. Get used to the days when he is around every day, and wake up every day to review the fact that he has left. Habits can never be broken. When a habit has entered the spinal cord, it is even more difficult to solve. It's just that we have to integrate ourselves into life after all, even if we are unforgettable, we need to force ourselves to let go.
Zhang Xiaoxian said: There is only one way to forget a relationship, and that is time and new love. Some people think that the time is too long, others think that the new relationship is not good enough, so many people think that it is the most useful and wise to break the connection and realize the purpose of letting go. At the moment of separation, it seems chic to delete the other party's contact number cleanly, but in fact, after breaking off diplomatic relations, it is regret again and again, and it is added again and again.
In fact, the best way to let go of a person is never to disconnect. Breaking off diplomatic relations is only a means, and it cannot achieve the ultimate goal. The best way is to do so.
0 1 Don't remember and don't expect many people to be inseparable from a relationship. In fact, it's not that they can't forget some people, but that they can't forget that memory and themselves in that memory. No matter how you ended up later, no matter how embarrassed you were when you broke up, all you can remember in the future are those sweet times. Two people together are sweeter than pain after all. If a relationship brings you only infinite pain, you won't forget it.
After breaking up, many people cling to the memories of the past, unwilling to let go, immersed in these happiness promises he made to himself, and can't accept the days without it. The picture of two people together will always appear in my mind, extremely lonely and the pain will be doubled. In the end, it can only be endless delay.
In fact, the reason for remembering is that I still have hope, or I fantasize that one day he can come back to you, that one day he can make up again, and that the two of them can continue to love each other. With this hope, it is difficult to get rid of it completely and live blindly in the past, so there is no way to work in the present.
You know, from the moment we parted, he had nothing to do with you. There are few reunions in this world, and reconciliation is just a beautiful dream. Let go of hope and memories. Only by thoroughly solving the past can we completely get rid of obsession and probably come out.
Don't care, don't ask how many people hide in the corner after breaking up with someone and silently care about his news and ask him where he is? The moment you choose to delete someone else's contact number, you are very decisive, and it seems that you have completely cut off contact with the other party, but in fact, these seemingly resolute are just posturing.
In fact, the more you really put it down, the more you don't have to show it by breaking the line, it will be very cold. What kind? Even with its contact number, you won't have the impulse to contact him, just like a complete stranger. What is this? Even if he comes from afar, there won't be a ripple in his heart.
If you are disconnected, you will still change to a new number and hide behind you, quietly paying attention to him. You will still spy on its dating software every day and take it as a habit to care about his news every day. So what is the practical significance of such a disconnect? If you delete its contact number, you will still test its trace with your friends and try your best to find him, then such disconnection will only bring shame to yourself.
Only by ensuring that you don't pay attention to him and forcing yourself not to spy on him, even if you miss him very much, you need to resist the impulse to pay attention to him, so that you can really let go. Compared with self-deception, not paying attention to him in the true sense is the most effective way.
Don't live in memories, no matter how sweet and beautiful they are. A person who often looks back can't get real happiness or happiness. Don't dwell on the past. What are you reluctant to part with? In the past, no matter how he treated you, it was a past tense, and all these beautiful things disappeared completely with its departure.
Isn't it natural for him to sympathize with you when he loves you? If he doesn't love it, then maybe he can get it back. These sweet times came to an abrupt end at the moment of parting. No matter how much I can't bear to part with it, I can't go back.
I understand that a period of time after breaking up will be very painful and sad, and it is difficult to let go. The dust in the fireworks of two people who loved each other so much in the past will be taken for granted. You can be sad, but don't let yourself indulge in pain, don't think about it every day, and don't stay alone all day. When you are sad, you can't tolerate emptiness, which will only make you more miserable. Only when you are busy.
Don't indulge in pain, let your life start over, go out into the world, meet new people, and put yourself into your work, so that you can get better and better. This is the fiercest revenge. This is the best way to solve the pain.
Putting this word down is easier said than done. When persuading others, you can say it lightly with the touch of your upper and lower teeth, but if you want to go out completely, you need to really endure it. No one can go out instead of you, and no one knows how deep and painful your love is. Only you can understand, and only you can carry it through and come out alone.
Disconnection is not the purpose, but letting go is the purpose. Don't be obsessed with some external performance, but really pursue this goal. No memories, no expectations, no attention, no nostalgia, no addiction, so it is effective.