Dear Worry-Relief Editorial Department:

Hello, please be sure to reply to me, ok? I'm at a loss now, thank you! My nickname is Asabo. We used to have a good friend in our dormitory, who ate, studied and went shopping together. Later, because she was in love, I sometimes became a person, and I stood next to what they did. I was really lonely at that time, and we could never do it again.

So I began to try to eat and do things with other friends, and our relationship gradually faded. Later, she started playing with another person. I sometimes have classes with them. I am not a very active person. They talked and laughed. I'm embarrassed to stand by because I really can't get into their topic.

Now I'm alone and occasionally have dinner with some friends, but I don't feel that way anymore. Now the final exam is coming, and I didn't review well myself. I want to review well, so I always go to the classroom early alone, and our relationship is getting weaker and weaker.

For this reason, I feel very distressed and can't review well. I tried to find other friends, but almost everyone had a companion. I can't fit in. I don't want to fit in. I don't want to disturb them and affect their feelings. I like the feeling of two people working together, but I don't like three people working together. I hate myself for not reviewing well and solving my own problems.

I want to find a solution, can you tell me? thank you

Asabo

Freshmen of Hunan First Normal University

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Dear Asabo:

The editorial department of You Jie saw your letter, and I'm sorry to reply you so late! Today, Mary Su wrote back to you. Yes, Mary Su was resurrected with blood!

From your letter, Marisu saw a word, that is loneliness, and you are troubled by it.

Let's start with one by one. You said that your girlfriend was in love and gradually alienated you. You have become a person. You don't know what to do? This problem must be faced as long as you have a girlfriend. After all, girlfriends have to fall in love and get married, and they will have their own things, and they can't accompany you for a lifetime.

At every stage of a person's life, there are things he thinks are important. Some people think that falling in love is the most important thing in college, some people think that you should study hard to enrich yourself in college, and some people want to make more friends in college ... everyone will put the most important thing first, your best friend is, and so are you.

When they are in love, you'd better not disturb them. Don't give her some psychological burden, or your best friend will feel pressure in her heart, feel sorry for you, think it's her own fault, make you unhappy and leave you alone. Facing you with this emotion, there will definitely be a gap between the two sides.

In fact, you can also take this opportunity to meet some boys, or ask your best friend boyfriend to introduce you to some boys and talk about love. How beautiful love is in college! If you don't want to fall in love, you can read books, run or find yourself.

When I was in college, one of my classmates was in a similar situation to you, and it was because my best friend fell in love that I gradually became lonely. By chance, she joined the school radio station and became a campus anchor. We can hear her voice on campus every day, and we all envy her.

Later, she became the director of the radio station, where she gained a lot of friendship and even talked about her first love in life! When we were all wondering what to do after graduation, she was not worried about her future at all, and she was dumped by the local radio station as soon as she graduated!

So shallow treasure, don't be afraid of being alone. University is to give you time to discover what you like and do what you like bravely. No matter what you do wrong or right, you will find that there are countless possibilities in life, not just girlfriends.

You said she made new friends later, and you three often have classes together. I think this is also a good opportunity for you to make new friends. When you feel lonely, you can find this friend to accompany you! When chatting, I feel that the topic can't be inserted, and I can learn a lot by listening quietly. They are willing to take classes with you every time, which shows that they all regard you as a friend, and you are not alone!

Sue and Mary are three people. Usually I chat with a little sister, and the third sister seldom talks, feeling that I will never get in. Later, I once asked her if you were bored because I was chatting with another girl in the group. She replied, no! It's interesting to know a lot of gossip and information every time.

And I will be in the group when I chat with that lady. On the contrary, chatting alone will be boring. It is better to talk in a group. Maybe your best friend and that friend feel the same way!

Now that your relationship is getting weaker and weaker, you are very upset, which shows that you still want to change your relationship with her to the original one. The same dormitory, there is always a way to get back together. For example, eating, attending classes, shopping, going to the library and calling her several times. Take the initiative and be brave. I believe your relationship will be better than before.

It's really important to be active and brave when you go out of school and go to society! In the company, you will find people who take the initiative to help colleagues, who take the initiative to talk about problems in the team, and who take the initiative to put forward their own ideas. Everyone is doing well and there will be more opportunities. Whether it is a promotion or a raise, the boss will always think of him first.

So when you are in college, you should exercise your initiative and courage through these things. If you really do it, you will find that you are happier than before.

Finally, you said you hated yourself. You didn't prepare for the final exam and didn't solve the problem of your relationship. I want to tell you that your biggest problem lies in your mentality. Don't be impatient, take your time! You can graduate as long as you don't fail in the exam. Even if you fail the exam, isn't there a make-up exam? Make-up exams well and work hard! As for your relationship, the quickest way to repair it is to show her this article!

Your back is always there, Marisu.

Foreign aid editor Lolomi

Hello, Asabo:

I suddenly feel a little guilty after reading your letter, because I may have been your friend before. I have a very good friend around me. We eat, shop and go anywhere together like conjoined babies.

Later, we divided the dormitory, and the time allocation was different, so I began to find new friends to play with. What I am thinking is that although we don't do anything together, I still have her in my heart! We are still good friends, and my circle of friends can't be limited to her. I also hope that she can make other friends besides me and open her own circle, not too limited. I hope she is fine, or I won't be with her. What should she do?

I am a straightforward person, so I never noticed her discomfort. She told me a lot later. She said that she was sad when she saw me playing with another person. She used to hate that person because she thought I was robbed.

In fact, I was shocked after listening to it, because I never thought she would think so. I am so important to her. In your case, I think you can sit down with your friends and have a good talk. Don't keep anything to yourself. Sometimes if you don't tell, no one will understand. Maybe the relationship will ease a lot after the talk. After all, the friendship between girls is beautiful. I wish you and your friends all the best!

Especially foreign aid editors.

Shallow treasure:

Once I fell out with my best friend because of a misunderstanding, and they became strangers. From two people eating together and having classes together to the back, I eat alone and have classes alone. That kind of loneliness once made me feel if I really didn't fit in.

Later, I learned to talk to myself and get along with myself. At that time, you will find that loneliness is not terrible. I don't think when my best friend has a boyfriend, it will affect our friendship. As long as you don't disturb her appointment time, she still belongs to you.

When you start to meet new friends, you must find like-minded partners, so that you can also talk about the topics they discuss. Whether it is affection, love or friendship, we need to maintain it with our heart. You need to be brave to socialize. But what you need to do now is to calm down and review well, and you can't rush for success socially.

Maybe my suggestion can't solve your problem, but I hope I can help you.

Finally, I would like to share with you a paragraph I like: when the word loneliness is taken apart, there are children, fruits, animals and mosquitoes, which are enough to prop up an alley in the midsummer evening and are full of human feelings. Young children are under the willow shed with claws, and small dogs are in the narrow alley. There is a lot of laughter in the world, but I have extra temples. Children, fruits, animals, mosquitoes and flies are certainly lively, but that has nothing to do with you. This is called loneliness.

Zhong Mo, foreign aid editor

Hello, Asabo:

What I'm going to say may make you uncomfortable, but only when the scab falls off can the wound heal.

Whatever the reason, first of all, the result has been decided, and you two have alienated. You know, any relationship is maintained by two people together. As long as one person slacks off and doesn't want to continue, no matter how hard the other person tries, it's hopeless.

There will be many passers-by in our life, and every passerby will leave colorful or dull traces in our life track. All good things must come to an end. It is very important to have a good memory.

No matter what feelings can come, just let nature take its course. She used to be your close friend. You must want her to be happy. Of course, she doesn't want to hurt you.

Think about it. It's nothing. You are no longer a child. You have to rely on one person at any time. You will have your own life. Best wishes.

Brief introduction of anchor

Huahua: I am a literary cynic who likes photography, writing and English! I like making friends. I can get to know them when I have the chance. We should support this college student!