In the love view of many young people, marriage is the continuation of love and the guarantee of marriage to love.

When I grow up, I think marriage is a kind of responsibility, which is related to love, but not just "love".

When I gradually began to be urged to get married, I suddenly found that marriage is sometimes a task, a task to reassure my parents and "continue the incense."

The so-called "continuation of incense" is not to reproduce, but parents want their children to be taken care of when they are old.

Many people understand that they will get married at a certain age; What is the best childbearing age? Many people also know. Many people know that marriage can make parents feel at ease.

But some things, knowing is one thing, and doing it is another.

Too many people, not only have no love, but also dislike all kinds of blind dates arranged by their families, as if they want to be single for life.

This is helpless and sad in the eyes of parents, but it's really not that I don't want to get married, but I just don't like blind date.

So, why are some people still unwilling to date each other without a date?

0 1.

I think marriage on blind date is a kind of transaction.

I remember someone said that falling in love can't be the same as buying cabbage. You can buy whichever is better.

But for those who are arranged for blind date, they will feel that blind date has turned marriage into a general transaction of buying cabbage, and many people don't like this transaction.

The two people who date together are screened by their parents, and the conditions that can be screened are mostly the material level of the other party.

So when we meet, all we can talk about is how the work is, what the conditions are, how much the bride price is, whether there is a room and so on.

When two people in a relationship have nothing to say except material things, it is difficult for such a relationship to gradually transform into love through contact.

Because from the beginning, when the purpose is very strong, the attraction is all caught by the material, and there is no time to know whether you like it or not, and it is impossible to secrete all kinds of phenyl ethylamine.

So many young people are tired of blind date.

What really bothers me is not necessarily that the same person confirms intimacy and starts a family, but that the same person must bargain like buying food and regard marriage as a transaction.

After all, in the matter of marriage, only material things can't be sustained.

Nowadays, young people, whether boys or girls, have the ability to earn money to support themselves, and because they have the ability, they don't need a person who can only impress themselves with material things.

What's more, emotional satisfaction can make people happy, while material satisfaction can only make people enjoy it for a while, but it is difficult to be really happy.

02.

Being arranged for a blind date is easy to make people feel frustrated.

When chatting with friends the other day, I found that during the Chinese New Year, several friends didn't go home and stayed at their jobs.

Admiring their professionalism, one of their friends said, "What do you respect? I just don't want to go home, I don't want to be urged to get married, and I don't want to see my peers bring children. "

Many people who have not married at a certain age have similar experiences.

Originally, I was happy to go home to accompany my family, or wanted to chat with my family, but without a few words, the other party talked about marriage and blind date.

In order to make children have the idea of getting married, elders will use similar words such as that their peers are married, they are not married at a certain age, and their eyes cannot be too high as a reason to persuade a person to date.

As everyone knows, many times it is these reasons that make people tired of blind date. For these reasons, it is easy to feel frustrated.

Just like shopping, a person may not like something, but whether to buy it or not is his own decision. When someone says "I don't think I have the money to buy a good thing", this person will definitely feel uncomfortable.

The same is true of feelings.

Everyone has the freedom to choose whether to be single or to get married, but it will naturally make people feel uncomfortable if they are labeled as "unable to get married" or "unable to get married".

Especially when you are labeled with these labels and then go on a date, the frustration is often heavier.

This is not to say that people who go on blind dates can only go on blind dates if no one wants them, but the reason why many people are tired of blind dates is that they think blind dates = no one wants them.

03.

It's too depressing to know each other by blind date.

I once read a topic about blind date: Why don't you like blind date?

I remember the high praise answer at that time was this: because I don't like the feeling of being forced to get to know someone, and I don't like all kinds of questions after blind date.

People who have experienced blind date often have a feeling that they are the blind date of many people.

I can only answer all kinds of questions of blind date. Even if you don't like someone, you should follow the process to complete the blind date, and you can't live up to the kindness of your relatives and friends.

But even if the blind date ends, the oppression will not disappear.

Because many times, the oppression of blind date objects comes from their relatives and friends, precisely from their excessive concern and inquiry.

Some people will ask how they feel after a blind date. If they feel bad, they will also ask why they feel bad. Even if the blind date fails, they will ask themselves what kind of object they like.

At the end of a conversation, the topic often ends with "Don't ask too much".

In life, no one likes to be arranged, and no one wants his personal actions to be concerned and discussed by many people.

It is precisely because of this disgust that many people are reluctant to date, not because they don't want to know people who may be together, but because they don't want to be "clowns" in the eyes of others.

04.

In "The Leftover is King", Sheng Ruxi is particularly disgusted with blind date. In the face of your blind date, even if the other person is in good condition, he is not willing to contact too much.

The fundamental reason is that she feels that feelings are her own business, and she has the ability to maintain her life without being suddenly disturbed by someone she doesn't like.

What she is waiting for is someone who can really impress herself and make herself willing to contact.

Many people who don't like blind dates are waiting for such a person. It's not that I don't want to get married, but that the right person hasn't appeared yet and blind date won't be met.