If you want a person to get familiar with yourself as soon as possible, you should first abandon the "cold" attitude and take the lead in sending a friendly signal to others, because people in an active position are always more likely to get friends than people in a passive position. At the same time, you should also overcome your own "stage fright" psychology-stage fright psychology will also make you passively "shoot". At this time, you should feel that you are strange in front of others, and others are strange in front of you. Their psychology is the same as yours-they are eager for friendship and feel a little constrained. In this case, if you take the initiative to extend the hand of friendship first, you will be half successful and make the other person your friend.
Second, smile naturally and communicate feelings.
The first action of a sociable person in interpersonal communication is the smile in his expression, which has affinity in interpersonal communication. The famous American comedian Borg has a famous saying: "Laughter is the shortest distance between people." Wu Xiaoli, the famous host of Phoenix TV, is a smiling messenger praised by everyone. She often says that her philosophy of life is a smiling face forever. It can be seen that when talking with each other, starting with a relaxed and natural smile, the other party will be infected by your warm smile and will naturally return it to you enthusiastically.
Third, relax and build confidence.
Some people are often nervous for fear of communication failure, which is extremely harmful to successful communication. The correct way is to relax, build up confidence and communicate generously, for example, try to ask each other what their hobbies are and praise each other for their proper clothes. , and lead to the topic first, make the conversation into a lively, pleasant and relaxed atmosphere. As long as you do this, the other person will naturally get close to you and think you are an easy-going person. When others have a sense of identity with you, your mood will naturally be more relaxed and you will naturally have more confidence in successful communication.
Fourth, treat each other sincerely and win sincerity.
Sincerity is the key to making friends, and it is an indispensable excellent quality to obtain true friendship. Because only if you are sincere can others understand you and know whether you are worthy of making friends, and only if you are sincere can others be sincere to you and confide in you. As a friend with extensive social contacts said, "When I associate with others, I will never give them false words and deeds, because that kind of behavior is a feeling when others see it-who dares to make friends with you if you think you are insincere?" Only by respecting and trusting others will others trust you and have a heart-to-heart relationship with you. "
5. Leave your address and make time.
After having a pleasant conversation with others, if possible, you'd better leave your contact address and phone number to prepare for further friendship in the future. Because when talking, others may be pressed for time and have no more time to get to know you. In this way, even if others have a good first impression on you and want to associate with you, they may "reluctantly give up what they love" because they have more heart and less time. Isn't that a pity? After leaving the contact information, it frees up a "turnover period" for friendship, so that if others are interested,
Since ancient times, the human heart is the hardest to know. They don't argue about the quality of wolves, and they don't make good friends.
Making friends can't be unconditional. An unconditional friend is not a friend, but a brother. "Two thousand gold is easy to get, but a bosom friend is hard to find." Making friends with good people is bound to be cultivated; If you associate with evil people, you will inevitably be influenced by evil. Just as the wind blows through the fragrance, it will inevitably emit fragrance; After the wind blows through the smelly things, it will inevitably stink. Getting along with the wicked is like boarding a boat into the sea. Even if you don't die at the bottom of the sea, you will be frightened.
And friends will say a lot of good things, so those who are really willing to seize your shortcomings are your rare friends. In this way, many people who look like friends are not friends, but many friends do not look like friends. Friends flatter each other, friendship is worthless, and a good friend's eyes should be a mirror.
If you want to win the friendship of others, you must be friendly to others first. Friendship is the sincere treatment of two hearts, not the beating of one heart to the other. Friendship needs neither slaves nor rulers. Friendship likes peace best. Friendship is not only the source of happiness, but also the element of health. True friendship is like health. Only when you die will you realize its value.