11 Not all "other people's children" are called "Hu Ba"

It is said that modern people do not "celebrate the New Year" but "catch demons"! After the release of "Catch the Demon 2", it's still a consistently bad review, and the box office is soaring! This product can be seen everywhere in supermarkets, shopping malls and even the streets!

"Hu Ba Hu Ba ..."

When I came out of the cinema, the line "Hu Ba, run, run" appeared in the movie many times. Indeed, "Catch the Demon 2" is actually a story of the demon world army, the Tianshi elite and the green forest grass fighting each other to grab a "other people's child" and not hesitate to set off a bloody storm!

? The "relevant departments" did not hesitate to spend 1,211 taels of silver to buy Hu Ba back from the "traffickers"!

Silver means "we can make contributions to more meaningful things"

Why is Hu Ba, a "child of others' family" so popular?

because this child is lovely!

If nothing else, the simple and harmless budding system adds a lot of color to this "other people's child"!

Even if he is mischievous occasionally, the child is grateful for kindness and attaches importance to feelings. He never gives obstacles to adults in key matters, and he can come forward and make a big move to turn the tide in the most critical moment. Who doesn't love such a "other people's child"?

However, after all, life is not a movie. In reality, it is very difficult for Hu Ba, a "child of others' family", to reach the probability of one in a million! The "children's show" in the past few days during the Spring Festival has also forced us to polish our eyes and see what "other people's children" look like in reality. After reading it, we can't help but sigh!

Hu Ba's popularity is mainly due to her "cute" relatives' baby, who is still a "bear"

For many people, it is an unnecessary debt of gratitude, and it will be even more annoying if there are a few relatives' "Xiong Haizi" blessings! As a matter of fact, our hatred for "Xiong Haizi" has a long history. Wechat and Zhihu have already circulated the strategy of "killing Xiong Haizi". Some people advocate whispering threats, some encourage harsh words to scare, and some even suggest poisoning with pornographic films!

However, what I want to say is that "other people's children", especially "relatives' children", no matter how "bear", must be treated well, and even be praised by the whole routine! Just because "praising other people's children" is the most cost-effective human investment. "

12 "Praise your children and you will get rich" | There is a currency called "human feelings"

In China, there is a currency called "human feelings" and there is a kind of "business" called "human relations". The purpose of human relations is to draw closer and maintain the network of relationships. After all, personal connections are also a social resource that can be exchanged.

Dinner with relatives during the Spring Festival is a kind of "human contact"! When the wine table and dinner were mixed, we saved a favor, which can be used when we ask for help in the future!

In peacetime, communication with anyone is actually a kind of "human" currency circulation! When dealing with adults with "Xiong Haizi", you must understand something! "You have no friendship with children and have friendship with adults!" Therefore, your attitude towards your child only depends on the closeness between you and his parents and grandparents, and has nothing to do with the child's own performance!

Besides, even if we are well-intentioned, it is totally unnecessary to educate other people's children, because it involves the issue of "boundaries". Even if children are impolite, don't study well, talk with a runny nose, or even rummage through other people's drawers, we must remember that they are "other people's children" and have nothing to do with us. Besides, during the Chinese New Year, children from relatives are one.

Therefore, it is the bottom line and a basic accomplishment to "not educate" other people's children first! Even when you see "Xiong Haizi" being educated by his parents, you should say something like "He's still a child", and you should never help with the education. After all, no matter how angry Xiong Haizi's parents were at that time, they were all responsible for their children. They were honored and disgraced, and Xiong Haizi's own parents could clean up whatever they wanted, but in any case, it was not our turn to talk!

"Xiong Haizi", "no education" is not enough! Sometimes, we have to "boast"! Why?

because praising children can make money

"praising children" is a kind of "human investment", and "praising children" is "praising parents", which is the truth we talked about earlier! In addition, if we find that a child is as lovable as "Hu Ba", then we have to praise it hard!

Because, generally speaking, there are two kinds of parents who are "good children": one is stronger than your small family in family strength, and the other is that although the family strength is average, they are willing to let their children have greater ideals and hope for success. Therefore, the return on the "human investment" of these two families is very high!

The latter is especially worth making friends with. Not all poor people have expensive children, but if you pay more attention to a promising child when his family is average, this child may be your strong support in the future. Children in a big family are all resources and valuable manpower.

So, if you are still a young man in the stage of accumulating contacts, and you still have the heart to do something, explore and cultivate early, they will all be hard hands in the prime of life when you are in middle age and old age!

13 Don't flatter yourself | Use more verbs and less big words

In recent years, primary school teachers are not encouraged to criticize children in their comments, so everything appears in the form of praise. For example, the child who beat his classmates from the bottom of the total exam, his comment is: "stable grades and strong hands-on ability."

However, if you praise your child like this in front of the other parents, it will be false! This is not a compliment, but flattery!

"Praise children" still needs to be sincere, and flattery will give away sooner or later. After all, most people can't control their expressions perfectly. If they have the opportunity to leave the country in front of the camera, they can look at their expressions. Generally speaking, when they are one-on-one, it is possible to control their expressions. When they are one-on-many, it is easy to reveal their true emotions. When a relative's child makes trouble, you may smile at his parents, but only when facing him, it is easy to show negative emotions, and this look is easy to be found by sensitive children's mothers or grandmothers.

Therefore, the first step is to adjust your mentality, restrain your aversion to praise and recognize it from the bottom of your heart.

how to recognize from the bottom of my heart? We have to admit that "most children are somewhat superior." There is no such thing as a person without merits. Therefore, praising others is a process of discovering the merits of others, and carefully studying the merits of others is a process of training yourself and deepening your understanding of each other, which is very valuable.

In addition, praise is a positive psychological suggestion, which can have a positive impact on children themselves. In psychology, there is such a case: two classes with similar grades, one teaching normally and the other emphasizing that they are excellent people, were selected. After a few years, the praised class's grades were indeed much higher than those of the adjacent classes.

So, when you think about it, do you feel that "praising other people's children" has also become a kind of merit, and "living in harmony with Xiong Haizi" is a kind of charity!

ok, after the problem of Tao is solved, let's solve the problem of technique! How should we correctly "praise other people's children"?

just one trick! Use "verbs" instead of "big words"

When we praise other people's children, we should try to use verbs as much as possible, because verbs always reinforce the children's specific behaviors, so that the other party will sound sincere and express the children's behaviors worthy of further progress! When using "big words" or "nouns" to praise, it will look particularly like flattering!

I also want to praise children for their artistic talent and energy, and carefully analyze the emotional color behind these two sentences! "This painting, her stroke is well done." "This child has a rich imagination." Is the previous statement more sincere and credible? The latter statement not only sounds a bit dry, but even has some irony-"Is there something wrong with this child's brain? It's fantastic!"

give another example. "This child has been insisting on doing homework" and "This child has a good ability to manage attention". Similarly, the latter statement sounds grandiose and insincere. In fact, for a child who has been playing games for a day and a night, we can also say that his "ability to manage attention" is very good!

The biggest difference between the above two examples is the difference between the so-called "verbs" and "big words"!

Use more "verbs" than "big words", and praise is more sincere! The words of "praising children" are especially pleasing to the ear of the other parents!

14 written in the last sentence

Buddha taught us that it is very important to do things with heart!

In a human society, praising other people's children is a beneficial investment, which is conducive to maintaining the relationship. In the long run, the children's families may help you, and when the children grow up, they may know how to repay you!

in the end, we make money by "praising other people's children"!

However, we must also remember that we don't deliberately "praise other people's children" for the sake of "making money and getting rich"! No matter how "other people's children" are "bears", we should at least not teach them lessons, because respecting the sense of boundary is a basic interpersonal code! Furthermore, no matter how "bears" other people's children are, we should try our best to praise them.

After all, every child has advantages. He is good at discovering the advantages of others' children, and sincerely points them out, which can not only make the other parents sincerely happy, but also make the children forge ahead on their own. Finally, he has exercised his ability to discover the advantages of others! Isn't this something worth doing? Therefore, "praising other people's children" is an investment, but also a kind of education!

finally, don't forget the "verb big word" solution!

All the "routines" in the world,

can't match a "sincerity"!

be a sincere compliment person!