When two people fall in love, I need to be careful enough to manage this love so that their lives can continue. At that time, I always thought that I didn't need to be so careful after marriage, but when I really entered the marriage, I found that happiness was never easy.
Love is the running-in of two people, and marriage is the running-in of two families. When I fall in love with my lover, I only need to consider each other's thoughts, and I only need to consider each other's feelings, which is enough. I try my best to make the other person feel romance and surprise, and feel my care and love. As long as I can do this, the love between two people can develop smoothly.
However, after marriage, it is different. Many of them love each other and have no right to speak. We must think more and think more comprehensively about each other's parents.
When there are differences with each other's parents on some issues, it is actually very embarrassing for lovers to be caught in the middle. But sometimes compromise and concession can't make the diagnosis relationship more harmonious.
In marriage, it takes longer for the two families to run in, and it also requires both husband and wife to manage with care.
Be more careful after marriage than in love, and life can really enter happiness. In the first year of my wife's marriage, I went to give gifts to my father-in-law during the Dragon Boat Festival, because we have lived apart from our parents and don't know what to buy. My wife didn't know who she was, so they bought a case of beer and some ribs and went home.
Of course my parents-in-law didn't say anything, but my brother-in-law was very unhappy and drove me and his sister back after lunch. I didn't feel anything special at that time, but later I learned that he thought we took too little.
From then on, I really found that marriage is more difficult to manage than love. Because I no longer consider the feelings of two people, but need to consider the feelings of two families, which requires us to think more and compromise more.
Everyone enters marriage for happiness, but happiness is never a smooth road. The love that can enter marriage is of course very happy, but if happiness wants to continue, you need to persist in working hard to manage this love.
Life may never be easy, and marriage is more difficult than love.