1, the same surname is not married. Zhou Li has very strict rules about "no marriage with the same surname". "Marriage is immortal" and "The Book of Rites".
2. Set the age of marriage. According to the rules of Zhou Li, men are crowned at the age of 20, married at the age of 30, and women are married at the age of 15.
3. Six gifts. The Book of Rites stipulates that there are six rituals in marriage: receiving gifts, asking names, receiving gifts, inviting guests and welcoming relatives.
The development process of 1 and Six Rites was formed in the Western Zhou Dynasty. In addition, three obedience and four virtues also originated from Zhou Li. Three obedience means that a woman obeys her father and brother at home, her husband after marriage, and her son after her husband's death. The four virtues refer to "women's virtue, women's words, women's appearance and women's merits", which require women to abide by filial piety and loyalty, and the key is "loyalty" and "obedience"; Words should be "respectful" and "harmonious", and you can't talk nonsense; Tolerance should be "delivered gently" and not frivolous; Merit is good at spinning, sewing, embroidery and other "female merits."
2. In the feudal society of China, the system of forced arranged marriage was realized through employment and marriage. The procedure of marriage is clearly defined in Qin Law, Han Law, Tang Law and Ming Law. The establishment and dissolution of marriage must be approved by the government. Although it has undergone several changes, it has basically not deviated from the scope of the Six Rites.
China ancient wedding process is as follows: 1, Nacai: This is the first item of the wedding, that is, the marriage negotiation stage. Take Jane Doyle, the man at home, as the object of marriage proposal, that is, invite the matchmaker to the woman's house to act as a matchmaker, and invite the matchmaker to visit her as a gift. Explain the purpose and ask the opinions of the woman's parents. Why give a goose as a gift? Because the goose is a waiting bird, punctual and trustworthy, loyal and single after widowhood. The gift of goose symbolizes the harmony between men and women. In the Six Rites, except the conscription system, all other ceremonies are based on geese. Later, geese became more and more rare, so they were replaced by geese, ducks and chickens.
2. Ask the name: after the woman collects the geese, if she thinks the man is suitable, she will issue the eight characters of the woman's age, give them to the matchmaker and return them to the man's house, so it is cost-effective to find a fortune teller. Later, it was also called "marriage-seeking" and "matchmaking".
3. Naji: After the man asked his name, he used tortoise shells and yarrow to divine through the wizard, so it was also called Buji. If there is no conflict, then send a matchmaker or messenger to the woman's home to inform, which later evolved into an exchange of Geng posts and betrothal.
4. Levy: The meaning of "take money first, then get married" was also called "take money" and "enter money" in the Eastern Zhou Dynasty. Later generations called it "betrothal gift", "giving money" and "giving gifts".
5. Invitation: Also known as invitation ceremony, the man chooses an auspicious day to meet. The "makeup urge" of later generations evolved from the invitation period. The man informed the woman to make up the bride as soon as possible. After receiving the makeup notice, the woman will send a dowry to the man's house to "build a house"-arrange to stop and wait for a family.
6、? Kissing: On the wedding day, a man must send a carriage (later a sedan chair) to meet his wife in person, so it is called kissing. After returning home, the bride and groom worship the heavens and the earth, worship the ancestral memorial tablet, high hall and husband and wife, and then drink wine (toast) and get married.
Conclusion The procedure of Six Rites is complicated, and ordinary people have no time and financial resources to bear it, only aristocratic officials strictly abide by it. But now folk customs also take this as a reference. By merging some programs, 1 and 2 can be completed at one time, and 3 and 4 can also be merged. Up to now, the influence of Six Rites in the Western Zhou Dynasty can be seen in folk weddings. ?