The root cause of your lack of friends.

Why are there no real friends?

You long for friends, but you can't get them.

1. I said to enjoy loneliness, but I still hope to be recognized and liked by others.

2. I have never accepted myself in my heart, never. I can't accept myself, but I ask others to accept me unconditionally.

I've always wanted to find a friend who can tolerate and care about myself. When I find one, I always ask for it, so that in the end, I completely push the other person away and leave you.

4. When you see others become famous, you secretly criticize yourself for incompetence. Seeing other people's family is superior, they hate their own mediocrity. I want to have it, but I can't get it, so you hurt yourself.

I can't accept myself.

I can't be friends with myself, can't be myself, and can't love myself. I'm so bad!

6. Excessive paranoia

I feel isolated and unsociable, but in fact, I always make excuses for my lack of effort, often contradict myself, envy others, and always compare with others.

7. Rely on incompetent people

On the surface, it looks strong, but in fact, it is very fragile inside. Avoiding interpersonal communication, it is easy to over-interpret the details, misunderstand other people's unintentional actions, and find the opportunity to pua yourself, and don't want to owe others, and don't want others to owe themselves. You don't need to defend your real good friend. You need to be yourself firmly.

8. Isolation means independence.

When you don't hurt anyone, isolation is not a derogatory term. To a great extent, it is a watershed between a person's growth and a group of people's standing. You just need to keep quiet. When you are really yourself, you don't deliberately want to seek a place in the excitement.

9. Believe in yourself, not be someone else.

It's no problem to fit in. Whether you fit in or not has nothing to do with your growth. Even if people around you say hello every day, you won't get any value; No matter how good others are, it has nothing to do with you. The key is how can you make yourself better and stronger?

10, keep working towards your goal.

People who really do themselves will have a coherent mind. We sincerely thank those who are emotionally stable and determined to move forward. Because they will never betray themselves and keep moving towards their goals, never back down has given us hope. A person with stable emotions is everyone's spiritual pillar, and you are your best friend.

Today's book list recommendation

1, the ubiquitous personality douban score is 8.3

Fran? ois Leraul

Help you cope with all kinds of social "fears".

2, "Elephant and Rider" Douban score 8.0.

Author: jonathan heit

This book helps you to know more about yourself and others, and let you know how to actively and rationally find happiness and the meaning of life.

3. The douban score of Attachment is 8.9.

Author: John Balbi.

The essence of mother-infant relationship is discussed in detail. From animal research to human attachment model, to understand the formation process of attachment relationship, it is necessary for girls to dig and examine themselves deeply, break their fragile masks and face themselves bravely when they start watching documentaries.

Central video

1. Reading China with Simple Letters

2. The word "from meeting you"

3. One hundred bridges for one person

4. China's imagination

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7. Shennongjia password

8. Cotton picking season

9. Oracle Bone Inscriptions Dynasty

10. Seeds.

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