In the TV series Happiness Only with You, Jie Shen, the daughter-in-law of Lao Qi, is such a person.
After the death of the seventh wife's stomach cancer, the old house will also be moved. In order to help his son, Lao Qi chose to move into his son's house with the demolition money. Lao Qi, who has lived in an old house for decades, doesn't know his son's habit of living in tall buildings. On the first day, he didn't change his slippers. When Jie Shen saw his face, he immediately pulled down his face and put on his slippers angrily.
Later, Lao Qi, who never did housework, was asked to cook and stir-fry, send his children to school and treat him like a nanny. Old seven didn't clean up because he had no experience in housework. Jie Shen secretly treated him with suspicion of the East and the West and wouldn't let him smoke at home. He never treats old people as family.
I also blame Lao Qi for being too weak. The living expenses at home depend entirely on him, and he has nearly one million yuan in his pocket. He still looks at his daughter-in-law's face every day, lamenting that he was in charge of the children 30 years ago and they were taking care of them 30 years later.
Speaking of it, parents don't want to give their children any trouble, but want to do something they can while their children are still active. Unexpectedly, the child is not only ungrateful, but also picky.
The so-called drama is like life, and life is like drama! Like Jie Shen, on the one hand, he calculated the money in the old man's pocket, on the other hand, he didn't take the old man seriously, especially in the countryside.
My tea garden is connected with the tea garden of an old couple. A few years ago, the old woman was ill, and the eldest brother was picking tea alone. Every spring, we chat while picking tea. At the end of the day, we are not tired of picking more tea.
I have been picking tea for three or four days this year, and I didn't see the old couple coming late until 9 o'clock in the morning. I can't help wondering why they are late this year.
The 60-year-old brother sighed and said that he was late to send his little granddaughter to school.
The old man said that her son found a girlfriend in the city and agreed to buy a house in the city before she was willing to get married, so they had to do it. The year before last, he gave birth to a granddaughter, which made the old couple happy. Because her mother-in-law was in poor health, she waited on her daughter-in-law when she was discharged from hospital for confinement.
The old couple often visit and forget to change their slippers when they enter the door. Their floor was covered with footprints, and their daughter-in-law looked very unhappy. Big brother is a heavy smoker. He will smoke after sitting for a while. His daughter-in-law told him not to smoke at home, because the air was bad, and later let him smoke outside. After coming down several times, Big Brother didn't want to leave.
Hey! I don't know whether my daughter-in-law is bad and too melodramatic, or whether my eldest brother is too stubborn. The time for eldest brother to see his granddaughter is so short. You can clean up your daughter-in-law after she leaves. Why bother the old man? Big brother is not good either. Why don't we change our slippers and everything will be fine? But he's too much trouble, so he'd rather not go than be taken care of by his daughter-in-law.
All right! This time, the granddaughter can go to the nursery, and things are happening again. The bus goes to big brother every day. The daughter-in-law won't let the eldest brother buy snacks for the children, but the granddaughter is hungry after school, so she wants to buy food anyway, and she will cry if she doesn't buy it. If I buy it, my daughter-in-law will talk about him again. Eldest brother shook his head: how is it so difficult to raise a child?
In fact, the nature of their children is very clear to them. Besides, the child is really hungry. It doesn't matter if you buy her some snacks. This is too difficult for the old people. Isn't it a loss for the old man to give up in anger?
We should know that people should get along well with each other, and we should put ourselves in each other's shoes. If it's not unprincipled, don't haggle too much. Too overbearing is not worth the loss!
I remember my son and I took our 4-year-old granddaughter to the zoo built on the hillside last year. We walked and played by ourselves, holding our granddaughter's hand. 10 minutes later, I came to a steep step. I felt sorry for my granddaughter when I walked up the steps. I was afraid that she would get tired after walking on the mountain road for a long time, so I was going to hold her. My son wouldn't let me hug her, saying it was a special exercise for her perseverance and foot strength. I think it makes sense. Children should not be spoiled too much, and it is not good for her growth.
Today's young people, the concept of educating children is really different from our older generation. Their cruelty is to cultivate children's independence, and as grandparents, we can't be willing to share the pain with our grandchildren, and we can't wait to do it for them. So sometimes, we should listen to the opinions of the younger generation. That's not their responsibility, but who listens to whom correctly.
But some children really care too much about the elderly, even how much they spend a day and what friends they make.
For example, Song Rujun, a ticket friend of Lao Qi, gave him an extra mobile phone for the convenience of contact. Later, because I wanted to thank Lao Qi for accompanying her when she was ill, I bought a suit for Lao Qi when I went to Hong Kong for the New Year. Lao Qi's son and daughter-in-law thought that the old man bought something himself and accused him of spending money indiscriminately. Like educating children who have done something wrong, ask questions over and over again.
It turned out that my mother died and my father was only 60 years old. The road ahead is still very long. A filial child should help his father find a wife to take care of him, and he can't be left alone. The son did not support it, but instructed his father to sever the father-son relationship if he continued to associate with Song Rujun.
Hey! When the Woods are big, there are all kinds of birds. Do you find it irritating?
As the saying goes: it's never too old to learn! Old people should not think that they are old, but rely on the old to sell the old. They often want to crush experienced people and have been stagnant. With the rapid development of society, if you don't study hard and keep pace with the times, you will be eliminated by society and rejected by future generations!
Being other people's children should also understand that just because their parents are retired doesn't mean they are old and can't do anything. You can do whatever you want. Go to the countryside, and now 60-year-olds in rural areas are the main labor force. Your parents are willing to live in your home because they are unwilling to give up your hard work. They are willing to help their children as much as possible in their lifetime.
There is only the love of parents in the world without asking for anything in return! Please be filial to your parents! Parents still have a place in life, and parents can only go home if they live! Please be filial in time! Time waits for no one!