Qiong Yao is a famous writer. The earth-shattering love in "Heavy Rain" and "A Curtain of Dreams" is still vivid, and her own emotional process is as complicated as the plot. Most of us know her vigorous love story with her boss unilaterally from her book, but there are not so many versions of the harem dispute of other giants. After her ex-husband's dementia was treated by inserting a stomach tube, her children and Qiong Yao had serious differences on this issue, and she couldn't help writing this autobiography to show her attitude. From wartime childhood to emigration to Taiwan Province, from meeting Ping to getting married, it is not difficult to spy out the differences of versions.
Of course, after all, we are not the parties, and it is difficult to distinguish between true and false. Keep a neutral attitude, draw necessary nutrients from books, and fill the loopholes in life with the wisdom of others. This is the greatest gain.
Whether a person loves you or not depends on details.
Lin Wanzhen said that she didn't understand why Ping Tao Xin divorced her for a long time. At that time, she had many suitors, and the conditions were much better than Ping. At first, when Lin refused Pingping, she directly said that he was not her type. It's just that he is romantic by nature and will do something warm to please Lin. After a long time, Lin accepted Ping and devoted himself wholeheartedly to his life.
Later, Lin Wanzhen remembered two things, only to find that this tragedy actually laid the groundwork from the beginning. The first thing is that on their wedding day, Lin stood in front of the hotel wearing a cropped sleeve wedding dress. She was shivering with cold, and Ping Tao Xin didn't know what had happened. The second thing is the wedding night. Ping lit a candle for romance and put a blanket on it to prevent wax stains from polluting new furniture. The next morning, Lin found that the blanket was the only thing her father brought from Shanghai. She picked up the wax trace bit by bit in distress, and when she saw it, she became angry: Is it important for a blanket or for him?
When these two things happened, Lin Wanzhen didn't think too much. After all, two people from different backgrounds had some friction when they formed a new family, so he didn't care too much. Another thing also impressed me. Ping Tao Xin suddenly had an idea to come to the home theater. Lin Wanzhen began to prepare early in the morning, holding a baby in front of her, and then pulling a child. She also packed a lot of bags and crowded the bus. When the movie meets in the cinema, it has already started. Ping only complained that Lin was late and didn't read the opening part, but didn't consider the difficulty of his wife going out alone with her two children. Compared with the scene of an adult waiting for a child to go out, I already feel that Lin Wanzhen is worse than Superman's mother. It was not until many years later that she recalled the past that she realized that these trivial things had long reflected the different views of two people, but she lacked consciousness at that time.
Recently, Prince Harry and Megan, Gillian and Lai Guo Hong, two couples, are enviable. Looking at their eyes staring at each other at the wedding, full of love! The groom will always pay attention to the bride's dynamics and carefully hold it down the stairs for fear of any accident. People who love you, no matter what your past black history, marriage history or not, meet each other late and regret not meeting you earlier to protect you. People who don't love you, no matter how good you are, are only suitable for marriage in his eyes.
Love and marriage are two different things.
Although Ping was not Lin's ideal object at first, once she fell in love with him, he was the whole of her love world. When two people in the same company get married, one of them must resign before Lin can be a full-time wife. When she first got married, she was short of money, so she taught herself to cook. Ping Tao Xin cooks whatever she likes. She can go halfway to Taipei to buy ingredients for a dish, and when she comes to dinner, her colleagues all praise her for her good cooking. After the birth of three children, she became a super mother and handled the housework in an orderly way. In addition to taking care of the family, she also has to take care of her husband's career and support three employees by herself. Lin Wanzhen actually contributed to the "crown", until the day of the apprentice, Lin Wanzhen gradually became a good woman in the kitchen.
A good-looking, virtuous and hard-working woman is always hot, so we should cherish it. Unfortunately, love and marriage are two different things. Maybe at the beginning, when it's time to get married, she will find a suitable person to marry, even if it is not an ideal love, it will be an ideal marriage. Yes, he was undoubtedly the best person in his circle at that time, so he tried his best to catch Lin. Yes, Lin Wanzhen is really a perfect wife. She takes her husband as the world and her children as the center. No matter how difficult it is, she can keep the house in order so that her husband can fight for his career without worries. Unfortunately, Ping Tao Xin only takes all his wife's efforts for granted, and dislikes his wife who often reports to him about the company's work problems after he gets up, so he has no private space at all! You come back at midnight every day and sleep until midnight. You are not in a hurry to talk to me. If the company is my own, I can decide what to do with you. That's for your career!
When Ping's career was booming, Qiong Yao appeared. Maybe it's because she doesn't eat human fireworks. Compared with Lin's pragmatism, she thought his love appeared. During the divorce, Ping said, I'm sorry, you are stronger and she is weaker. I want to ask, if every girl can be a princess, who wants to be a woman? It is not forced by life. The cruelest thing is that I am at home behind your town, but you are outside having an affair with others; I trust you, and I don't want outsiders to see you both greasy. I finally realized that after discovering the secret, I was still infatuated with waiting for you to turn back. You have been pretending to be crazy and forbearing for so many years, but you still haven't taken care of the relationship between husband and wife for so many years. After so many years of marriage, you didn't take the time to go out with me to relax, but you ran around the world with your lover under the banner of work, and you called back for help when you ran out of money. I have to pretend that I know nothing. ...
Ping Tao Xin tells Lin Wanzhen why we can't "share weal and woe". Lin replied, we share joys and sorrows, but we can't share joys and sorrows. You gave all your happiness to Qiong Yao. Throughout the struggles of many giants, the gambling king Stanley Ho and the original Li Wanhua, the entertainment tycoon Liu Luanxiong and the original Teresa Bao are all typical examples of sharing weal and woe. How can I put it? These originals have the characteristics of diligence, pragmatism, brains and ability. As long as you look at the person in front of you, marriage is love, and you are willing to suffer with him all your life. It happened that all the men they met were romantic. Marriage is marriage, love is love, and the Chu-He-Han boundary is clear.
Love and marriage are two different things. People who love you are willing to marry you, and those who marry you may not love you. If you can continue your love into marriage, you are lucky; If you can turn marriage into love, you are the best CEO, but the premise of all this is that the people you meet love you. They are not only willing to talk about love with you, but also willing to have a long confession with you.