A healthy mind
Psychological counselors' mental health is mainly manifested in the following aspects:
A positive and healthy attitude towards life.
Mentally healthy people have a positive attitude towards life, and their personalities are full of enterprising, optimistic and positive attitudes towards life. Psychological counselors should have a positive and optimistic attitude in their own lives and bring this positive and optimistic attitude to psychological counseling. Because doing so, on the one hand, it will infect students who encounter difficulties in life and study, and regain their courage to face life; On the other hand, a positive and optimistic attitude can bring enthusiasm and vitality to counseling work and enhance the courage of psychological counselors to overcome counseling difficulties.
2. Stable emotional state
Everyone has emotions and worldly desires, and everyone may encounter some setbacks and misfortunes in the middle of life. People with mental health have a high tolerance for setbacks, can release their emotions appropriately and keep their emotions relatively stable. Psychological counselors should be able to better mediate their emotions and maintain emotional stability in psychological counseling. Only in this way can we keep a cool head and analyze problems objectively.
3. There is no obvious psychological obstacle.
It's hard to find people with absolutely healthy psychology in life. In the process of growing up, psychological counselors will encounter setbacks, and some even have all kinds of psychological puzzles or problems like the students who come to consult. But when they become psychological counselors, they should have overcome their psychological problems through their own efforts and reached a relatively healthy state.
(B) Excellent personality quality
American psychological counselor Rogers proposed that psychological counselors should have the following four qualities:
(1) Unconditional respect: No matter what kind of problems visitors face, psychological counselors can treat them with a comprehensive attitude, so that visitors can feel unconditional positive attention.
(2) Consistency: Consultants should be good at using personal feelings, and their words and deeds should be straightforward and consistent; In addition, the relationship between counselors and visitors is coherent and true.
(3) Sincerity: The consultant should be honest and sincere, without any disguise.
(4) Emotional transfer; Counselors should be able to deeply understand the inquirer's internal frame of reference, and express this understanding to the inquirer, so that the other party can feel that they can understand each other's feelings and look at things around them like the other party. At the same time, you can keep a certain distance from each other.
In actual psychological counseling, the following personality traits of psychological counselors are conducive to the development of psychological counseling:
1. Calm, keen and flexible
A cool-headed counselor can maintain a relatively neutral attitude and sympathize with students in the whole process of psychological counseling, so as not to let this empathy become a big man or even lose his psychological independence and correct judgment. A sharp-thinking psychological counselor can gain insight into the inquirer's inner world from his words and expressions, find things that are difficult for ordinary people to find or easy to ignore from subtle expressions, and find out his true intentions in time when students come to consult and try to cover up their real problems. Flexible psychological counselors, in some unexpected situations, can improvise and calmly respond.
2. Warm and generous, considerate
Enthusiasm, generosity and understanding are important conditions for counselors to establish a good relationship with visiting students, because enthusiasm and generosity can create a relaxed psychological atmosphere for visiting students, and understanding is the basis for counselors to understand the personality of visiting students.
3. Sincere feelings
In the process of psychological consultation, the feelings revealed by the psychological counselor to the visitors should be true, and the external emotional expression should be consistent with the inner feelings. Only by knowing the visiting students sincerely can the visiting students have a sense of trust in the counselors and open their hearts to them without reservation.
be strong-willed
Psychological counseling is arduous and long-term, which requires psychological counselors to have strong willpower, self-control and perseverance. The importance of this willpower is reflected in two aspects: first, psychological counselors can restrain their bad emotions such as irritability and disappointment when they visit students repeatedly, calmly analyze the reasons, modify the consulting plan, and adhere to the consulting objectives; Second, the firm attitude of psychological counselors has therapeutic effect in itself, which can enhance students' confidence, stabilize students' emotions, resolutely overcome psychological problems and face life again.