Speaking is an art, as the saying goes, "a good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts the cold in June." Countless historical stories show that a word can prosper the country and a word can destroy the country. As the old saying goes, there is a ruler in your mouth and a road under your feet! It means that you should be measured in what you say, and there is a smooth road under your feet. This is the power of language. Some can talk, some can't. People who can talk are blessed by heaven; He who can't speak, disaster comes from his mouth. This is the weight of words!

There are many famous talking mouths in history. Guiguzi is a person who can bring the art of speaking into full play. Gui Guzi also said nine formulas: talking to the wise depends on bo, talking to the rich depends on discrimination, talking to the debater depends on importance, talking to the noble depends on potential, talking to the rich depends on height, talking to the poor depends on profit, talking to the humble depends on modesty, talking to the brave depends on courage, and talking to those who exceed the rules depends on sharpness.

Please pay attention to the following aspects.

In the family, you should be measured when you talk to the people you love. This is a problem that many people ignore. Many people know that they should be able to talk, and they are cautious in socializing at work, but they use verbal violence against their families. In fact, the deepest hurt comes from the people closest to you. Many people think that family members don't need to care too much, so outspoken, aggressive and hurtful language is like an invisible sword, leaving their loved ones scarred. To learn the art of language, please start with your relatives first.

Please have pity on those who are "unimportant". In addition to the family size, another large group of people are the so-called "unimportant" people. Perhaps "unimportant" people can't give you wealth and status, nor can they satisfy your vanity, but this is not enough to be a reason for your disrespect. What you say represents your knowledge, cultivation, wisdom and attitude, so it is great wisdom to talk well with "unimportant" people. No matter who you face, you should be responsible for every word you say, because the water under the bridge.

Tell the truth, learn to shut up. It is said that less routines and more sincerity can move people's hearts with truth, just like Wang Yangming said, "Truth strives for merit". But telling the truth is not stupid; "When to say what" is not cunning but strategy. Advice is hard to listen to, so you might as well let the unfavorable words be wrapped in sugar-coated, turn a corner and speak euphemistic truth, so that the other party will understand when they figure it out, and their purpose will be achieved.

Of course, you have to learn to shut up if you want to tell the truth. "The Analects of Liren" says that "a gentleman talks but doesn't do it", which means less nonsense and more work. When things are not done, they talk a lot, giving people a frivolous impression; After the job is done, arrogance is shallow. So the mouth can best reflect a person's internal factors. There is a ruler in your mouth and a road under your feet!