The topic of marriage is an eternal topic-whether in ancient or modern times, husband and wife, as the basic components of the family, play a decisive role in the progress of society and even human history, and the choice of cohabitation object is particularly important. On the issue of mate selection, modern people have the saying that "marry without children". The ancients also had relevant experience, such as this sentence: men are asexual as iron, and women are asexual as hemp.

The ancients knew that a person's personality had a great influence on later development. For example, it is said that Zhang Jiuling, a famous figure in the Tang Dynasty, was deeply aware of the Anshi Rebellion when he was young. Once he grew up, such a person would probably become a hidden danger in the Tang Dynasty, so he was even more afraid of the Anshi Rebellion. Guo Ziyi, a famous Tang Dynasty star, was even more afraid of Qilu, who was in a humble position, because Guo Ziyi secretly told people that Qilu was quite talented and vicious. He might be in a high position in the future and would attack and persecute his enemies. Never offend him. The above proverb belongs to this proverb: infer the future destiny according to one's personality.

Let's start with "Men are asexual as iron". In ancient times, men were regarded as the representatives of masculinity. However, although iron is a hard concept, it is much worse than steel. So the "iron" here can be understood as the scope of mediocrity. This sentence means that if a man doesn't have a good character, he will be mediocre. A good character includes a wide range-such as being brave in persistence, being responsible, not afraid of difficulties, not giving up easily, and not being discouraged. These factors are one of the guarantees of a person's success. You know, the better the resources, the fiercer the competition, and a person who dares not insist on not taking on the fear of difficulties can't compete for good resources. Whether it is the ancient imperial examination or the contemporary college entrance examination, having a good fame is certainly better than ordinary people, but it is also essential to know the importance of hard work and be willing to make efforts. In reality, many people's efforts are actually three minutes of heat. In fact, it is not difficult to work hard. The hard part is persistent efforts, which is also a good character.

In addition, "women are asexual." Wu Zetian of the Tang Dynasty attached importance to talents. She once said, "How long can you convince a gentleman with color?" ? The meaning of this sentence is that as an emperor's woman, if she wants to tie the emperor's heart by beauty, she will definitely not last long. Modern people also have the saying "Don't marry a vase girl". And "women are asexual" means that if a woman doesn't have a good personality, then she will be like hemp candy. The taste of sesame sugar, at first, feels very sweet, but after this sweetness, people will feel unable to get rid of it and feel disgusted. This metaphor is very apt: women have no inherent talent and rely entirely on face value. Then, when people are old, women will also cause men's disgust.

A person's achievements, in addition to personality and vision. The role of vision is that as long as we learn some useful and correct theories early and correct them, we can gradually develop a good character and lay the foundation for future success. What's more, the Matthew effect in modern society is very obvious. If a person always lags behind others, then over time, he will sink-the harder he works, the luckier he is, in fact, the reward he gets after he becomes stronger.